I've stayed out of mens rights, despite over a decade of speaking up for various public interests in the political/enviroment spectrum.

I was born in the midwest (USoA), my father was a dry drunk, and I left that region for a lot of good reasons. Sooo... after some "soul searching" I began "seeing" feminists, sometimes bisexuals. What I notice is it's very difficult to make social advances, without appearing as a "sexual aggressor"; as a teenager this was a gigantic problem. There wasn't anyone to tell me what was dominant behavior. I saw men competing for the women they loved with kind words - which were usually highly exaggerated. The enevitable resulting heartbreak. I would write poetry or be direct with my words. Fortunately, attitudes towards directness have improved, but everyone still faces the "objectification" issue which I can't seem to avoid no matter how much I don't care for it.
My last girlfriend is a recovering bulimic who had accululated cellulose on her buttox. For me this wasn't a big concern, but I had to hear about her weight-image every day. Once I told her about it. I don't want this, it's hard enough to find someone to love without having to consider her the most perfect obtainable physical entity. From there it got worse, every possible painful thing and trouble she tells me, but anytime I get frustrated is a moment for censoring and accusations - demand.
This letter feels long for me. I don't like the culture of "Disposability", and the marginalization of my grievances. Explaining myself ought not be considered allegiance to patriarchy. I don't like being kicked out and sleeping in the woods because something offensive was said half a day or a week ago. Most men don't do this, throw their girlfriend out at midnight because something upset him.

I feel a pattern of abuse from the "independent" women I choose to be with. I'm glad for feminism, but I can't be a trashcan for pain and be required to yield to every whim.

LuPi