Joe, one of my best friends and the nicest guy I have ever met in my life, had a thing for Ashley since the first day they worked together. I was always the guy that they talked to about each other because I always worked with them when they weren't working with each other. Joe really liked her but Ashley had a thing where she hated being with younger guys. So things came to a stand still with them.

One night they closed together and this one guy at work threw a party at his house. The next day I come to work Ashley comes running at me and she says "joe kissed me last night at the party and I kissed him back!!" She then went on to explain that she didn't like him like that and she only kissed back so it wouldn't be weird and that she was going to tell him how she felt. She never did.

According to joe and someone else at the party that night, things went a little further than kissing.

I few days later I was working with Ashley and I heard her saying she loves everything about joe except his age. That was the one deal breaker. Right after that night we had a small get together and we were all drinking and having a good time. When joe shows up to the party Ashley comes up to me (she had already had a drink) and says "I think I really like joe..." And said are you sure. She said yes. I told her to go tell him that. She goes up to him and she whispers in his ear and I see him smile as she jumps in her arms and they begin to kiss. Like a lot... Not pecks, they were full on kissing.

The night goes on and we are all drinking and having fun. I have to leave the party to go home and sleep. They all say goodbye and I tell joe to have fun and good luck! I get to work the next day and Ashley tells me she passed out and woke up to Joe having his hand down her pants and that she freaked out at him for trying to rape her and that he got angry and apologized. He left her alone the rest of the night. When they woke up he asked to take her out for coffee to talk about what happened but she refused and said she didn't want to talk to him or anyone about it. Apparently they just agreed to have a purely work based relationship from then on out.

I texted him and asked what happened and he said "I just messed up really bad. I hate drunk me I just do stupid stuff when I'm drunk. I just fucked up really bad I want to leave it at that" Now at this point all of us at work are just dumbfounded that Joe would even do such a thing. Even I was furious at that point! We all know him as probably the best kid you would know and we can't imagine this happening ever. I mean I've known the kid since 3rd grade so I know him pretty damn well and that's not like him.

So that's that right? It was a bad situation and a bad outcome. He was stupid and bad shit happens when you drink. That's that right? Wrong.

Just about every single day I've worked with Ashley since (it's been about a month since it happened) she brings it up saying "I feel like I was raped" or "if I didn't wake up he would be in jail" both of these are not wrong to say, but she keeps bringing it up.

When ever they work together she goes out of her way to be a complete bitch to him. She bosses him around and won't even say thank you. She blatantly ignores him unless she needs something from him. When ever she isn't working with him she is smack talking him. Just the other day this girl needed a ride home and she said "I wouldn't get a ride home from a rapist if I were you" just stuff like this every single day. Then one day I saw her go up to joe and say "I saw your brother the other day, he seems super cool! Can you hook me up with him" he just walked away. One that's just not cool to do to someone who obviously had feelings for you at one point, and two... She hadn't said a word to him in days and she just opens up with that. And yet joe just somehow sits there and takes it.

Joe just found a new job and put in his two weeks here. He told me she was causing too much drama and he couldn't take being hated by everyone anymore. He had training on a day that he was scheduled so he needed it covered. He came to me first and asked me but I was already working. We both asked around and the only person left who could cover was Ashley. So he sent her a text that read "can you cover my shift on Monday for me?" And she flipped out. She was talking to me for 5 minutes about it about how he's not giving her any space and how he still loves her (he never did as far as I know) . The texts were rude and uncalled for considering that the only reason he texted her was for work.

Now a few days ago Ashley told me "I have ONLY been raped three times before" what??? What does that mean.... I'm not saying what joe did was right because it was just wrong, but if you are getting raped... Like more than once you need to re evaluate the decisions you are making when you see these guys.

To make it even worse, one of friends of like 5 years who works with us as well shows us a picture Ashley sent her the night it happened. She was in lingerie, practically naked, and it was sent with a text that said "looking hot for a fun night ;)"

She also said that she has a history of going out with guys like this and getting in trouble.

Now that's just about it. I just want to know is it wrong of me to take his side over her? Not just because I'm his friend, but I genuinely feel he hates himself for what he did and yet she's trying to turn everyone he knows against him. Again I'm not saying what he did was right, it's not, but I'm sorry if you are sending all the signs to a drunk male that you are ready to fuck but you don't have any plans to you are cruel. Putting that to the side, he is completely in the wrong. But he didn't rape her. He just didn't. If he did that would be a whole nother story. The second she stopped him it was over and he walked away. He made a bad choice and it cost him his job and some friends and yet she's trying to ruin his life even more.