I feel when you're in an LTR it's almost like taking money out of a savings account and putting it into checking account when it comes to the different aspects; you never can replace that money unless you transfer it back or work for it.

I will raise attraction by distancing myself, good sex, whatever, then it seems the girl goes absolutely near emotionally broken (not talking JUST crying) and saying she wants to end it because she feels I don't give two shits about her.

Then I give her some comfort and she's all smiles and hopeful it can be great!

In the past, with different LTR's, I used to compliment, validate, basic BP shit constantly.

Now it's like I'm cold, I don't really care if she leaves, I'm having a good time, and I just won't text her or give her that tiny bit of validation for days and it makes her want to leave due to the disinterest.

How do I balance these appropriately?