Edit: when I say "record" I mean text messages.

Edit 2: am headed here in the morning - http://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/wiki/support Not looking to redditors for legal advice so much as life advice. I know about awyering up, already workout, and have been off Facebook for years.

I'm a childhood sex abuse victim. It's been reported. The authorities know. I'm in counseling these days, and am quite well. Needed it for anxiety before we were considering divorce.

My wife (maybe soon to be ex) is also a childhood sex abuse victim. It hasn't been reported. It was her step dad. He beat the shit out of her and her mom and molested my wife on and off until she was 23 while her mother did nothing, reported nothing. Wife finally got restraining order after being pistol whipped and having a gun shoved in her mouth by the drunk POS. She called me in the midst of it and I grabbed another phone and got the cops there as he was wrapping up his "it's your fault I could never have my happy family and it's why I'm about to blow your head off" speech. He spent three months in county, and guess who moved him right back into the house? The MIL. Wife was chastised by family for not dropping the restraining order a few months later so he could be around for Christmas.

He died.

In should clarify that she wasn't my wife yet, but is now and we have a son. 17 months. Am a sahd. He signs, has an 80+ word vocab, eats organic, drinks yogurt, kale, pineapple, and avocado smoothies and loves them. Loves ABC's. Is learning to brush his own teeth. He's enrolled in local early education stuff. The teacher loves he and I.

I'm recording how much he sleeps, eats, everything now, and don't tell the wife because I want to fuck her in court when/if she follows through with her threats to portray me as broke because of laziness, despite our agreement to raise the kiddo while she raises funds. She has zero patience with him. Is always screaming and cussing in the house these days.

Back to her and her mom. Would you believe they have problems with respecting men? Shit's bad. She tells me to committ suicide all the time these days. I have records of such. I'm doing what I can, but have alerted the wife she needs to get counseling and have record of it. I love her. I will never speak Ill of her to anyone.

Her bitch mother is a different story. She got to call her mom out on the abuse one day when she backed up her half-sister when sis was being a bitch. I had my wife's back, and the MIL has loathed me ever since. I've had to tell her to stop scowling and snapping at me because my son is to smart to not pick up on her hostility. She's this weird, hateful shell. I went off on her one day, tattled to my wife that I called her a "child-molester enabler," wife flipped her shit, everything's been bad, but just slightly better lately because, well, she's not a moron, and I'm calm while she flips. I think I'm gonna be able to convince her to get into counseling. I understand why she is the way she is. Might not have married her if I hadn't knocked her up, but damn, was I on my game when I found out the kiddo was on the way and she saw it. The stutter I developed after my childhood abuse even waned. It still has. I fucking love my job.

Question is, what's a broke-ass like me to do to if she decides to move forward with the divorce? In had bad credit, so when we bought our home, my name couldn't be on the title. From my POV, husbands don't get to lock their wives and mothers to their children out of the house suddenly and render them homeless. But yeah, no name on title.

That's no biggie, though. I have family a d friends who love me dearly a d would put me up while I get another job and place to live.

What really scares me is that my wife thinks it's no problem leaving our son with her negligent mom. It horrifies me. I'm thinking of reporting my wife's abuse to my counselor. Are they required to report on unreported sex abuse only if the victim tells them? Is there any way that I can make it so that if we get divorced, her mom is not allowed unsupervised access? I have record of the fact she acknowledged her daughter was molested. Can prove that after the pistol whipping incident that she moved her POS husband right back into the house.

That's about it. Help, please.

Oh, I found these:

http://www.meritcd.com/childabuse/abuselaws.php?state=OK

http://www.meritcd.com/childabuse/penaltiesphp.

Did I mention I had record of her admitting to not reporting the molestation? Sorry, it's late. I'll check typos later.