So there is a guy I used to work with we'll call him "Hank". Hank's always been a little weird, and we always thought he was just in the closet and coming to terms with it and how to annouce it or let people know softly.

A friend of mine John was invited over for a party to Hank's house. When John showed up it was just him and Hank, there was no one else coming he said. After they started drinking Hank started getting weird, touching John and sneaking up behind him at some point in the night and putting his arms around him while saying some pretty weird shit. (This is all anecdotal from John at the time).

So anyways the next day John tells me and a few friends what happened and we agree it's pretty weird but still hang out with the guy, maybe he was just too drunk or going through stuff who knows.

After this Hank starts texting other friends in the group from a Google Voice number pretending to be a girl they met from a bar and proceeds to send them fake nudes of a girl in exchange for dick pics. He know has a picture of our friends Tony and Toby's dick.

After awhile they figure out its not really a girl and Hank comes out and says it was him to them, they're pretty pissed off and weirded out by it and stop talking to Hank over the course of a week. After a while they begin to talk to him again, but now Hank's behavior is escalating to a physical level.

The next party at our friend John's house a mutual friend Kevin passes out in John's room, well Hank goes in there and starts cuddling with him, then starts rubbing himself on Kevin and sticks his finger in Kevins anus. Later we find out two girls were in the room and were laughing at it like it was some kind of joke. (haha that dudes passed out and getting fucked with).

Kevin finds out what has happened and freaks out, tells Hank off and is no longer friends with him. A month passes and Hank stops coming around, we find out his incident with Kevin isn't the first time something like this has happened, Hank touched a different guy in the group he just never mentioned it out of fear of embarrassment.

Anyways I go to hang out with this group of friends and come to find out they're all friends with Hank again after a massive amount of shit talking was done on Hank and a bunch of other stuff. However none of them seem to understand why I have zero respect for Hank, I've told him he was a piece of shit and I want nothing to do with him....he doesn't seem to understand either.

After talking to another guy in the group I tried to explain it to him like this, "What Hank did wasn't a joke it's not funny. If Hank did to a girl what he did to those passed out guys he would at the least gotten his ass beat if not charged and arrested for molestation or rape." All they had to say was "lol fuck I never thought of it that way...but still."

So am I just fucking crazy in thinking that Hank is a molester and a borderline rapist? I really don't want to stop hanging out with this group of friends since they're all pretty great people.

(All names have been changed and there is no identifying information in this post)