I follow this guy on YouTube, I won't mention his name. He is 34 years old and basically travels from country to country backpacking in Asia. He doesn't have a career. Doesn't really have any money saved up. Doesn't have a car. Doesn't have any friends (constantly complains about this). He decided to travel because he was working in a fuel station back home in the UK for minimum wage and had nothing to lose by quitting and travelling.

He doesn't have any of the conventional things you would expect someone in their 30's should have. All his income comes from making "what I did today" videos which get about 5,000 views per vid. I think he mentioned he gets about £1,200/month from YouTube, which is just about enough to fuel his travelling. He lives more or less pay check to pay check and just eats biscuits and other cheap forms of food to get by.

He often tries to date women who have their own place, so he can stay at their house and doesn't have to pay for a hotel. He is currently dating some Korean girl who lives in Japan and she works full time as a programmer with her own place.

Imagine for a second you signed up a dating website and then you matched with someone. Went on a date and then asked them if you could stay at their house because you have no where else to stay? That is literally what he does.

Now I am not saying every 30+ year old should be career-focused but let's be honest, most people are settling down in their 30s and trying to mortgage a house or have a family in any western country.

It just baffles me how he is able to continuously be successful but he doesn't have any of the key points that are drilled into you throughout high school and life in general.

Like on my dating profiles I mention that I have a career in STEM, live on my own, have a car etc. You might think I sound shallow or artificial but living in the west if you live with your parents still at 30+ you are classed as a loser or failure. Same if you don't drive, as it's classed as a 'rite of passage' to learn to drive and have a car. If you don't have a car and live in the suburbs, you are absolutely fucked when it comes to getting around. Less so if you live in a city.

Maybe the western culture about careers/cars/houses/money has just brainwashed me. Clearly women don't care as much about someones career or how much money they have as much as we'd like to believe. Or maybe it's just an Asia thing? Maybe women care less about perceived social status compared to the west?

I am just baffled at how he is able to do so well. Maybe the 'passport bros' thing really is a real phenomenon. I mean he is not ugly by any means but I wouldn't call him handsome either. I guess he's just sorta average. I guess he isn't fat which is something good for someone at his age.

Then again, I remember him complaining when he was in the UK he was getting zero matches on dating apps. Maybe it's just simply an Asia thing. I did notice the people he dates are all 35+ years old. I believe in Japan women who are 30+ and unmarried are called "Christmas Cakes", which means they are unwanted or something.