If your ex wife remarried a person with a severely autistic son(14) and you found out he was head butting, slapping and bending fingers back on my 7yo what are some recourses you can do. Mind you my kids are telling me and she opts to keep it from me. Talking to her about this always brings up the “he is just autistic and doesn’t mean it, we punished him by taking his iPad away, or the boys went to there room to get away from him. It seems to be just increasing with time. It’s started just verbally and has increased to physical.