She is a new RN and her schedule changes every week- on top of her working the night shift. This night shift, cooking an extra plate for coworker everyday, and her lack of flexibility and erratic schedule overall led me to file. I was WFH since covid and she was never home so i did everything for my son. I filed and then lost my job 2 weeks later- I’m unemployed for the past 8 months, she moved out immediately i lost my job. Until she moved out- I paid all the bills. Our divorce has been progressing steadily and we have the final settlement agreement in 2 weeks.. we have agreed on 50/50, but since i have not been working, I have always been flexible for her. Coincidentally I start a new job and settle the divorce in the same week. The job however is 1.5 hours commute away.. I was offered a hybrid position- which she is complaining about… but just received an email that the whole company is going into the office in March. I don’t know if my team will be hybrid.. but the issue is how to proceed if i have to go to office. I am considering moving closer to new job/giving up more custody- which i dont want to but will do if i have. I have been a martyr for too long and i realize that I need to be okay financially and physically to provide for my son. So i need to put myself first. Because of her working overnights the issue is getting son ready for school as i have to leave early for long commute. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.