Depression

NoFoundation9190 · 2026-08-10T17:19:42+00:00

I have a kid whom my wife never let see since his birth. I never felt even a tinge of sadness. Kid is a stupid responsibility where you have to sacrifice your freedom and your entire youth. It’s a gift that you don’t have such responsibility.

Anyhow what have you given except a sperm. You can have many kids with someone you truly love. Don’t waste your life.

upvotersfortruth · 2026-08-10T14:49:11+00:00

The depression gets better with work, treatment and sometimes pharma. The pain ebbs and flows, but eventually dulls. All things in time.

carnivalbilly · 2026-08-10T10:28:42+00:00

Eh I don’t have depression because the docs told me so…but like it was a major damn bummer and I think about it a lot. Haven’t seen the kid in about 3 years. Her birthday is this week. It does get easier tho.

Kolder_Mandar · 2026-08-10T08:08:40+00:00

That kind of grief doesn't really disappear, but it does change shape over time, most guys who've been through it say it goes from constant to more like waves you can see coming and prepare for. A lot of people in your position lean on support groups specifically for absent/estranged parents, something like that can help more than people expect since generic advice doesn't usually get the specific weight of missing a kid's whole childhood.

Prestigious-Read5368 · 2026-08-10T06:19:44+00:00

It depends. Are you actively, proactively seeking care?

For me, I have been on and off different meds for the past 8 years and seeing therapists and psychiatrists for all that time, sometimes multiple times a week.

I am just finally, now that I'm away from my stbxw, getting better on a good regimen of meds. But I also am unemployed at the moment due to my conditions.

If you don't work with somebody there is probably some chance that you can beat this, but it's gonna be a shit storm until you do beat it or seek professional help. Speaking from experience

Title	Depression
Author	Acceptable-Ride6213
Upvotes	6
Comments	17
Date	August 10, 2026 6:10 AM UTC (2 days ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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