Does it get better?

ddarvish · 2017-01-12T21:43:20+00:00

Fuck man.. what switch flips in these bitches head that turns them in to total evil cunts?

Cdn_snowman · 2017-01-10T23:49:18+00:00

Hang in there friend. My STBXW is leaving me for another man. I felt the same way and decided to use the time I now have to improve on what I see as my flaws. Seek counciling for your anxiety. There's a wonderful little pill out there that I can stick under my tounge to help calm me down so I can think with a clear head. Clanasopam (sp). I'm in canada and the one I take is likely a generic brand, but it does help. I find going for long walks or going to the gym helps clear my head. It will get better. Before I was a mess. Now I feel like a family dog that got out of the yard. The whole world is in front of you. I don't know what to hump or pee on first. Take things in stride instead of all at once. Make the days count, don't just count the days.

Tdelmar · 2017-01-11T03:37:08+00:00

Sorry to hear. For me it got better once I finalized the divorce. Just get it done with. I also stopped drinking alone as much and exercising more. Even video games/movies are better than drinking or smoking. I found you need to give yourself some quiet. Divorce also helps you figure out who your real friends are.

SoPhillyDad · 2017-01-11T20:23:56+00:00

Yes, it does and will get better. At the beginning I was taking Ativan and 3 anti-depressants. It's horrendous even if you don't start out with tendencies of depression and anxiety and it's that much harder if you do. You must hang on for yourself and your kids. They need you. If that is all you can think of to live for right now hang on to that. And have hope for the future. Take it day by day, hour by hour or minute by minute. Get out of the house. In the beginning I was also drinking to ease the pain. My friends got me to go to AA even though I am not an alcoholic. To tell you the truth it was worth going to meetings just to be with other people on bad days. I am so sorry. for you and me and anyone else suffering.

pswoutlaw · 2017-01-12T19:19:19+00:00

yes it gets better, fight like hell to get your kids. I did and I have custody, for me keeping my kids helped me focus on being Dad enough to forget about the rest. IDK if thats possible, but try. Get off the drugs too, strange that seems to get held against people, or at least dont share that you are using them.

lostandaloneinmyhead · 2017-02-18T12:54:39+00:00

Mine are 7&5. I am in the same boat but not diagnosed with anything. Still going through this myself. Personally I feel a lot of anxiety and anger. I feel it's pretty unfair that my wife wants out and I have to loose the family

schlink02 · 2017-03-12T22:39:07+00:00

Same boat man. My depression and anxiety issues played a huge toll on my stxw. She claims she tried to make it work for the last year, I feel she led me on...what I find has been helping me is reading. I read a lot. Reading fiction novels gives me an escape that is healthy, unlike drinking or tinder dates. I also read a lot of non fiction, self help type of books. I'm trying to spend as much time on me as I can. I'm focusing on making myself the best I can so when I find some one new to share life with I don't bring my shit into the relationship.

dex_lancel · 2017-03-26T01:11:54+00:00

Reading this thread has helped me a bunch. Pretty much in the same boat dealing with my first divorce and just 1 month into the separation. This blows and has made me a emotional wreck. I've taken things as slow as possible but I catch myself pacing around my empty house not knowing what to do. Some of the feelings I feel are the most negative, raw, confusing emotions I've ever dealt with. I hope I'm to get through this, I imagine it's going to take a while. We were together for 7 years, married 6. One step daughter that I helped raise all that time. I too deal with anxiety and depression pretty regularly but am able to keep them at bay but should look into getting treatment. I feel like I'm walking a tightrope and one more small thing could send me into a total nervous breakdown.

UrbanSolace · 2017-03-26T01:36:24+00:00

Started the process in October and the divorce was completed on feb 3rd

AnthonyRenaud · 2017-06-12T19:41:08+00:00

i feel your pain myself seperated 8 months looking at an impending divorce..but i go for long walks, sometimes run, get out, get social, and try to occupy my time, meet people and try to better my situation one day at a time...some days are good, some not, but keep pluggin away, and the world keeps spinning...i hope that helps

TooFastTim · 2017-04-02T21:07:27+00:00

My ex wife is mocing some dude in to the gkuse she stole from me. After taking my kids and everything we worked for. I found this out after my son tells me dad I dont need ya no cause moms boyfriend will be there....I jad some drinks aftet that day

Title	Does it get better?
Author	UrbanSolace
Upvotes	1
Comments	21
Date	January 10, 2017 11:16 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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