Divorce still not finalized. Kids and STBX living in family home. I am lodging (renting) in a spare room of an apartment in the same city. I can’t host my kids since my place isn’t child friendly. I am trying to survive the expenses of supporting a separated family and myself without starving or being homeless. She asked me to move out and I complied. Don’t get me wrong, I am not complaining. I’d still much rather sleep in a one legged hut under a highway instead of living with her under the constant and ruthless criticism, tension and belittling. Give me a choice between a mattress in an empty hut and a home with my STBX in it. I will choose the mattress ten times over. Nothing like a fearless sleep. I have learnt that even the North Pole cannot get colder than the heart and the words of hate filled woman.

That being said. I miss bed time routines with my children. I miss story times and the excitement of approaching holidays. The mess from all the endless holiday crafts they make. Now that the holidays are approaching, I am already dreading the period during Christmas and new year. I do get to spend time with my children on weekends. Usually outdoors and eating in restaurants but it seems there will not be the usual holiday lunches/dinners this year. How did you manage the holiday loneliness after your separation/divorce?