Hi everyone...i know everyone here is going through the most so please be gentle as i am also abit fragile lol, It's a long read but your input will be highly appreciated.

I had to ask for divorce from my husband because he wasn't the best human,not for me or the kids,This has nothing to do with cheating but i do feel that our values and morals are totally different...i honestly have tried my best before giving up on this marriage and i fully gave it my all because i didn't want to have any regrets after walking out. i was very patient with him through out as i understood that no one is perfect.

With everything happening and me being patient and supportive i was getting the worst out of him,it felt like i was being punished for loving him and in all this he saw nothing wrong in his doings and ways. My last straw was when he stooped low and weaponized my up bringing.

We lived together but slept in different bedrooms and he was thee worst to live with,as much as we were over but i cooked and dished up for everyone in the house even did his laundry,but he was more selfish and did things for him only or the kids. Decided to move out and i sat down with him and told him that he can keep everything we have achieved together as we are meant to split everything,reason being...i was avoiding fights and drama or him being angry or blaming me for the loss of everything we have worked for. I left and asked him to give me 3 months to get on my feet and i will be back for kids. So i asked that i come in weekends to spend time with the kids and do their laundry and maybe cook for them and he agreed to everything and when i left he said that his happy i am leaving because he missed his peace.

MY PROBLEM NOW

Weekends he takes the kids his aunt and never tells me. In the evenings when i call to talk to kids all phones are off or no one is answering. When i text him his always angry and snaps at me for silly things. He went to court to report child neglect just to spite me because he knows that my kids are the weakness. He bad mouths me to the kids most of the time,Now his busy going around telling people that i never used to cook or clean the house...those are lies and deep down he also knows it's a lie!! He keeps sending me messages that i did good and left everything behind because i don't deserve anything and i am a bad mother.

I really don't know how to handle this and maybe some of the men here are going through the same and can advice me on how to tackle this whole situation because his too angry and he scares me on how far his willing to go just to spite me for leaving.