Not divorced.. But feel like its inevitable...

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Wife has this friend, a terrible influence of a friend.. She is barren and bitter (wife and I have a STB 5yo).. ANYTIME she goes to visit her friend, wife comes back a different person.. Absolutely has it out for me just degrading me and pointing out any tiny mistake I made.... first time in our marriage she visited, she came back like this... we got into an argument after I had a "wait a minute" moment.. She just flat told me to leave (we live with her domineering mother), I did.. and felt absolutely horrible..

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We eventually reconciled, and fast fwd a year and some months.. She visited her friend again.. While there, she would not return my calls, and was very short an texts, etc.. Came back a different person, like clock work.. This time, I got suspicious since she was acting VERY weird.. I couldnt find my phone and tried to call it with her phone, but noticed she changed her phone passcode (she had mine and I had hers).. I know I should know better, but my gut was screaming.. and it wasnt gas. She made a mistake and left her phone unlocked, and I went through it.. Noticed she sent a romantic overture to a guy she met while with her friend.. The guy is married.. MARRIED.. But wife fell in love with him, apparently.. I packed up and left that next day.. I felt immeasurably betrayed.

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and like an idiot, I missed my family. just couldn't handle not seeing my boy everyday.. and we reconciled after a couple months.. things have been relatively hunky dory. only now, her mother doesnt say a word to me unless she needs help with something. we have planned a trip to go see wife's family in vietnam.. almost a month we will stay.. so, recently, wife went to go to a real-estate seminar in another state, meeting up with a different friend.. Only to find out that, her bad influence friend went too.. didnt even tell me.. Wife came back not knowing I knew her friend was there.. and came back wearing her wedding band on the other hand.. yelled at me when I asked why (its normal my culture!).. I then fell for the temptation to snoop in her phone again.. I feel horrible... but.. I also feel horrible what I found. all the lies she is telling her friend about me, and horrible things she says about my mother.. Going as far as telling her how much she is still in love with said married guy who rejected her wishing she could have a 5min fling with him.. (yet she rarely has sex with me, and blames it on the fact she "HATES sex").

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Through her texts, I also found out why she suddenly picked up drinking oldfasioneds and wearing NY Yankees hats.. Well well well.. just like -married guy does..

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Wife makes MUCH more than I do.. I am close to 100k and she is close to, 500k.. .

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Bottom line is.. I cant act normal with her now.. Basically everything I read explains why she is treating me like a poor porter boy.. Her thing is, she wants a man with a lot of money and assets.. I mean she literally said this to me ("I have high expectations!).. Me, I am not lazy.. I work, I take care of my boy while her face is always buried in her phone, I do things around the house, I gym daily, take care of myself.. wait on her hand and foot.. never once raise my voice at her let and lot hit her..

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I dont know what to do..

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Sorry for my crappy typing.. and bad grammar.. I just dont care to be perfect at this moment