Made the decision to go through it. we got 3 kids married 14 years. Mental health and trust gone. Where should I start? We both have always have worked. She is active military. 18 years in. Knowing what you have all have learned looking for pointers. i am hoping for 50/50 custody. We own a home only about 2 years. One car paid off and other is a lease in my name. Approx $4000 in cc debt combined.