I’m 30M currently going through a divorce, she 30F made the decision to coparent in September 2 days after our son’s 5 year birthday. A week after the decision was made we agreed on rules on coparenting. She’s keeping everything, the house the car and so forth. I told her I wasn’t going to fight her for anything because I wouldn’t want her to struggle.

Theres a lot more to this story and i will update but I’ve tried to stay at this house for the sake of our son, but it’s becoming unbearable. I’ve invested a lot in this relationship. I am planning to move with my friend about 22 hours away for a healthy environment and to keep me away from her. The main reason however is because not only is living here unbearable, but I’ve applied to multiple places for about 2 months and nothing. I just keep getting updates on “we are waiting for an opening, we will notify you immediately once there is an opening”. I was expecting a scheduled call from unemployment today and nothing. I need income coming in so I can get a car and rent an apartment so my son can have his own room to sleep and play in.

She keeps saying I’m a coward and that I’m abandoning my son, but I would never abandon my son. The change is because I’m guaranteed a job over there immediately. Today I let her know that’s what I’ll be doing, and what drove me from thinking about it to deciding to do it is that she got a FaceTime call on her laptop that was open already. I heard the call coming in so I just looked over the laptop screen and saw a guys name with a heart next to it and his picture. That kinda made me realize that I don’t want to be here as she goes starts a relationship with someone else already. It hurt me genuinely.

It sounds all over the place I know, but im going through with moving and then eventually coming back so we can coparent. And that way my son as he gets older has a healthier relationship between the both of us.

I’ll get more in detail on the next post but I kinda want to know what should be my next steps and if you all agree or disagree? I’m open to any advice and help…