Sorry for the long read:

I'm in the military, to be specific the Army I am currently stationed overseas., I am going through a divorce and the reasons behind it were my own. I wanted it because I had been unhappy for a while and she wasn't willing to make the changes she needed to make things work between us. Nothing I did for her was enough even though I supported her through everything to include sickness, college payments and everything. We argued a lot due to her depression and family issues to brought into our relationship. This is just some back ground.

Long story short I was sent away for 6 months and had time to think while away on a rotation. I used this time to take a step back and really decided if I wanted this or if I was just being dumb. I concluded I wanted a divorce and spoke with her about it before returning home at the end of the 6 months. She obviously was jumped into gear trying to suddenly change everything she was doing that was hurting me and causing me to lose feeling. I was already mentally checked out and had been for a while. I proceeded with the divorce and when she realized she couldn't convince me to stay she turned cold. Conversations were short and she barely spoke to me. I brought up concerns with her moving money from my bank account and she turned around and called my chain of commander and claimed I was closing my bank account and cutting her off from everything as well as not paying the bill anymore. Completely out of proportion and I had to explain the entire situation and it blew over.

Next incident was months later when I already had a civilian lawyer back home. I had comment a few things on another woman's public Facebook. Nothing incriminating but someone saw that I said she was beautiful and screenshoted it. Well they sent it to my stbxw and she immediately blind sided me a week later while I was at work. I got a talking to saying saying under investigation for adultery and that now I have to go home and pack a bag for 3 days because she feels unsafe at home. Next thing I know I'm in the barracks for and 2 and a half weeks with nothing to my name not even my own car because I was required to provide her transportation. I cleared up the investigation because I legit did nothing wrong. But then I got a phone call and was told that she turned in her key and now I have 30 days to clear military housing. She took basically everything using this as an opportunity to take some of my belongings as well and because I couldn't be home when she packed I still don't know what all is missing. I have since moved out of military housing and my final court date is August 21st.

The latest incident was that she spoke with her military lawyer who contacted my commander saying I'm obligated to pay spousal support since June 3rd when she moved out to now. The ammount was ridiculous a total of a little over $2300 since June 3rd in payment. I immediately went to speak with finance who told me the ammount was wrong and I went through a bunch of people trying to figure out what to do until I was given an answer that I have to do early return of dependents paperwork to "technically" send her home so I can change my status to unaccompanied to be able to pay. I have been working on the paperwork since the start of this week. The problem is I just got called into the office today by my commander saying he is ordering me today the first payment which for this month is $1,200 and I don't have that money just sitting around to give away right now because I used most of my savings for her college a while ago. I have even trying to build it up but it's a work in progress and not enough for that. The Army should cover the payment but until I can finish the paperwork I can't get the money so they're telling me to pay out of pocket. I have no idea what to do anymore I emailed my military lawyer and im still waiting for a response but it is slow here.