New to the group but I think it’s wonderful this group exists. I got divorced almost ten years ago and I still think about it but not nearly as much. Ex wife demanded the divorce and went to only one counseling session and sat there with her arms crossed, she was done. It was tied for the saddest experience of my life (seeing my sister die of cancer at 14 when she was 15 was equally terrible). What I learned is when someone is over you let them be. If you can convince them to work on it the marriage it can probably be saved but from my experience some to most women have no incentive to do so. Anyways, I’m sharing my story to say that men, people usually will not be there for you, will not check in on you, and will expect you to heal using Tinder or other sex sites. If that works for you go for it, but the only thing that helped me was figuring out the best life I could imagine and work towards it. Also, the thought of buying women dinner and all of that nonsense when I was so full of hate was not good. Know yourself and trust your instincts. Everything else was and still is white noise. If you feel suicidal remember, no woman is worth that, more of them than us. Wish the divorced men the best.