Divorced. One child D10. Joint custody with 50/50 parenting arrangement. 5050 was awarded as a way to protect my relationship with D10 due to disparagement by ex. Ex has always felt a need to "stalk" me showing up at parks where I take child to during my time pretending to jog to come in contact with my and child. Has also showed up at my house alone or with the child and gifts when there is no custody exchange scheduled which ultimately led to me sending her an email and calling the cops that she is no longer welcome on my property when there is no custody exchange scheduled. So she goes and tells D10 that I called the cops because D10 brought gifts to my house.

I reached out to ex and let her know it was inappropriate to disparage me and also suggested maybe we should meet with a parenting coordinator. I looped her in an email thread with our parenting coordinator seeking information and ex agreed but said to the parenting coordinator that I should meet first alleging that she has "no idea" what this is about and alleged that I didn't communicate with her. Parenting coordinator replied to her ok thanks and that she'll book the first meeting when we both pay. I responded to mom's original email that she read my note per our family wizard.

Few concerns now. 1. She's always denied disparaging me to the child. Seems she's made it clear she's going to deny it again since she has "no idea" what this is about. Is this going to be a waste of my time? Should I refuse to meet first? Should I further refuse a meeting with both of us so she's not trying to get me to react by having control over the parenting coordination process?

  1. The cost seemed kind of high. And I know she should have communicated with me and reached a agreement on the service and costs before making her payment and consenting. Maybe there is a cheaper alternative?

  2. Parenting coordinator is like emailing me everyday asking for my payment to setup the first meetings and asking if I am getting her emails. It's getting kind of annoying and harassing. She waited over a week for mom to respond but with me it's everyday. Seems she's eager to get me in a first meeting on the mother's request .

Throw in the thoughts.