Preempting possible divorce

No_more_BPD_2020 · 2021-07-25T01:32:41+00:00

TL; DR I'd answer most of these 'it depends'. Paying a lawyer to help gameplan your next moves is short money. At least in my state, the farther away from filing I was, the more options I had.

pegleg_legal · 2021-07-25T03:56:53+00:00

Great move to get things together just in case. Maybe counseling will work, maybe it won't. Maybe she'll act like it worked and then spring a divorce on you.
Depending on your market, I'd do consults with 2 or 3 of the top divorce lawyers in your local area. Not only will you get ideas, but she will probably not be able to use them. Pick the lawyer you want her to have (weak and compromising) and don't consult that one.
Learn the rules on alimony and figure out what you need to get her to do to reduce your exposure to any sort of permanent alimony award. Send her to school, get her working, all that stuff.
For the religion, if you're in Utah and your judge is Mormon, good luck using that angle ... the parent with physical custody usually picks the religion and there's a lot of problems with that. If you can get her to agree, sure it can be in the settlement agreement. But how are you going to enforce it? What are the consequences of her breaching that term? Loss of custody - hardly. Perhaps not a hill to die on unless you're going for custody overall.

But yeah, local lawyers will be a great resource for you.

Throwaway4120213 · 2021-07-25T01:22:33+00:00

How long have your been married? If it’s a short marriage - the best preparation is to file ASAP. Your wife as a SAH will be entitled to half of all marital assets and alimony in addition to child support. Staying married for say another 3yrs is another 3yrs they can get you on alimony length, any pay increases you get will increase your alimony payment and you are splitting anything you earning as you keep waiting. I’m assuming your a young dude so quitting your job to get out of alimony isn’t feasible.

If you fight for 50/50, there’s a slim chance she will be able to move. Be active in your kid’s life and exercise as much parenting time as possible during the separation period so a Judge will have one hell of a hurdle to strip you of the status quo parenting time by granting her relocation.

Title	Preempting possible divorce
Author	throwaway78963214502
Upvotes	2
Comments	8
Date	July 24, 2021 8:55 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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