My stbxw got the kids involved. And is now paying for that mistake. My daughter confronted her and picked her apart. The stbxw has agreed to my terms in the divorce and am going home today for a family dinner with all 3 of our kids. And to discuss what this will look like going forward. My fears she would turn the kids against me seem to be unfounded. She tried to minimize what she did and make it seem I was overreacting but she didn't have a leg to stand on.

Makes me feel good that we at least raised our children the right way. That they understand right and wrong , that your actions have consequences