Hi Everyone,

I'm divorcing a narc and literally, every communication with her has ulterior motives. We are heading for the final divorce proceedings in June and I think she is trying to build more and more of a case against me having split custody with our children. Today she is texting me saying I have been making my kids sleep in the same clothes, the other day she accused me of getting my kids sick. A few weeks ago she shows up at my kid's soccer practice (during my parent-time) and totally invaded my personal space and after practice, I gave my kids space to say goodbye to her but then when they were done and we started walking out she followed us out crying and acting hysterical as if I was "stealing" the kids away. She has accused me of having multiple affairs (I have not). She signs our kids up for every type of activity you can think of and then expects me to pay. She has accused me of being unwilling to support our children's extracurricular activities when I tell her I cannot pay. I'm not kidding that every communication seems like there are accusations or false statements about me that are aimed to be used for our final hearing. Her uncle is her lawyer so I think she is being coached by him to do this. It's exhausting because I feel like any interaction with her is a possible setup. My main question is, how should one respond to these types of communications? I debate between just ignoring her or writing back and just say that her claims are untrue. She brings up these petty accusations during every hearing we have had so far and I feel like I need to defend myself. I don't want to rope in my attorney every time this happens due to costs. (happens multiple times a week). How would you all suggest I respond to these given that we have our final hearing in a few months?