Long story as short as possible, I (41) was married to my wife (40) for 15 years, together for 17. Two kids 15 and 8. She had 1 before we met (18) who I took care of as my own since his dad wasn’t in the picture.

Found out she was having an affair when she came home wasted at 3am unable to make sense. I went through her phone (1st time ever) to see what happened. Read all the crappy details of a 6 month emotional affair that had turned physical that night. We tried to reconcile for the kids but after a year of trying it was obvious it wasnt salvageable. I told her I wanted a divorce and moved out.

Officially filed for divorce in August and moved out of the house, she was a stay at home mom with basically no income so I’m stuck paying all the bills there and can’t really move on financially. She was quick to blame me to all friends and since her story got out first. Since I left she has had sex with my best friend and my other best friends 22 year old kid. Somehow every single person in our circle has sided with her. I’ve never felt more alone and betrayed by everyone who has been important in my life for the last 20 years. She is currently “dating” a guy with multiple assault charges including a domestic violence charge

She threatened suicide and got placed in a mental hospital for 8 days, and somehow I still cannot get full custody of my kids and have to send them to a crap environment half the nights. I spent most of my life taking care of all of them in every way possible and now I’m stuck watching my STBX ruin the foundation I broke my back to build.