Been dealing with a struggling family situation for 10 years. Wife, two kids. The kids are now 24 and 21. But since my son was a junior in high school we have had a series of explosive conflicts. Verbal abuse. Some violence. Police. Basically any time there is conflict my wife loses her mind and escalates things until they are out of control. I moved out and was going to file for divorce 5 years ago but she begged me to come back. And I did.

And while there have been some periods of calm, I’m sitting here in Christmas and everybody is miserable. Yelling. Threatening. Some crying. I know the kids could be better but how can I expect them if I can’t expect more from my wife?

We have tried couples therapy three times and she quits every time. She was seeing a therapist and took meds for a while, but she discontinued both.

I’ve have delayed divorce for fear of financial problems, but my life is horrible. I’m thinking I’d rather take the financial hit.

Any advice?