Been with my girl for 9 months. I realize it’s still fresh and all but things has been going fucking awesome. I read all the required books here. I ran my map. And still am. I started Re reading MAP bc it was really what jump started my new life. Anyway.

This woman was very submissive. Understands sex dynamics. She loves me being a leader. Embodies my visions. And was on board with everything. After about 6 months we moved In together.

And things have changed a lot. Idk if it’s just the honeymoon stage being over and I’m expecting too much. But I’m holding her to the same standard as I did and how she acted when I first met her. Blowjobs nonstop. Cooked me lunch. Gave me love and support. Etc. When we had a disagreement we could sit down and TALK it out and both were willing to work on our parts of it.

Now I find it’s me still doing all the things I did in the beginning and more and she’s become lazier. I work 60-70 hours a week 6 days a week and work an hour Away from home. On top of that I run a side business. Do BJJ and make it to the gym. She used to make my lunches. Put cool little notes in them. Be waiting at home in lingerie and be all types of fun. Mind you she works 2 days a week as a pub manager. So those two days she’s very busy. But the rest of the week she isn’t in comparison. I never ask her to do anything unless I need it. But the things she does do are and have been awesome and showed me she cares.

Now she has stopped making me lunches. Dinner is less and less (sometimes I come home at 9). She’s doing less and as I can easily do all that stuff myself. Her bad moods and attitude are what really get to me.

The worst part and what I am getting at is out communication is horrific all of a sudden. When she’s in a bad mood and I AA/AM she is SO sensitive and doesn’t pick up on sarcasm it becomes a huge thing and it makes her more pissed off. Then if I STFU. she will complain I’m not giving her any or enough love. When I try to love her through it. She almost pushes me away. It’s crazy. Then when I ask her what she needs in times like these. She says she doesn’t know.

It’s her house. And On my day off I mowed the grass. Bought her a new weed whacked. Mulched the house. And cooked her dinner and did the laundry. And I watch her kid. I didn’t say shit bc I want and should be doing these things I feel. But the next day she cooked lunches for herself and not me. Maybe because I was working out and she figured. “You could be making your own lunches but instead you’re working out” And as I cooked my own lunch I simply say. “I don’t expect you to do anything for me you don’t want to do. But there was a time when you used to make lunches for me.” And she snapped started being rude and bitchy and it seems that this is how she is immediately anytime I bring up any type of serious matter. Straight to the defense and takes it to another level. I admit she gets to Me at times and I follow her there and we are full out arguing.

Nothing gets solved and I either go sleep on the couch or go to my buddies. (Usually always late night arguments) when this happens she tells me she needs stability and every time I leave it makes her feel insecure about the relationship. That I could walk away so easily makes her not even want to do stuff or try anymore to protect herself. but the next day she will act like nothing happened or she don’t remember and be in a good mood. It’s nuts to me.

I spend a lot of time trying to look at myself as I know I can only control myself. But I feel like it’s been impossible for us to communicate properly lately bc it always always ends in her getting pissed at the things I’m saying only sees her point. then she raises her voice and it escalates from there.

I know it’s probably hard to get a whole Picture just from this post but idk what the fuck is going on. What happened or how to Fix this. We were so good in the beginning now it’s a constantly fight. Anyone have any advice? If it’s me I want to know. But I swear it isn’t just me and she swears it is.