Ever since recovering from redpill I’ve realised how manipulative i become

Royal_Air_2938 · 2022-01-07T18:46:40+00:00

You have become aware of how manipulative people operate

You don't want to be one yourself, as you now realise it is against your values to be manipulative

Forgive yourself for mistakes you made on an old set of information. Feeling guilty isn't going to make anyone's life better, but if you actively work to be the opposite of that, the positive impact you have will outweigh the negatives of your previous ways

And yes, jt is true red pill tactics work on narcissistic, avoidant people and manipulators themselves. You now know how those people operate. Remember what they do so you can protect and shield yourself and others close to you from them.

You do not deserve to be treated like shit. No one does. We deserve to be treated as equal humans with our own rights and agency. We will all fail or make mistakes that let ourselves and others down at some point. Its part or being human.

Your life is yours. You clearly don't value victim mentality, or manipulating people. So don't do it. You will be happier knowing you are living life in terms of what you truly value.

HGW86 · 2022-01-08T07:23:40+00:00

First of all, being self-reflective and calling out your own victim-behavior is a GREAT huge step for rising above the red-pill. I think you should be extremely proud of yourself for that! Most people don't look inwards at themselves and I have massive respect for people who do.

If I were to make a quick suggestion of a philosophical alternative, I would look at Stoicism. In my opinion, I think you should read a variety of philosophies and world views but stoicism is probably the most relatable for someone who has exited the red-pill and unlike the red-pill, is significantly more rational (though like any philosophy, it does have it's critics!)

One of the most common defenses I see of the red-pill and a lot of individual influencers on this board is that there is some good in their message that can be applied positively to men in their lives, often self-reliance, self-respect, making the best out of your own situation, etc. Stoicism preaches these principals without any of the baggage the red pill has.

https://modernstoicism.com/the-red-band-a-stoic-criticism-of-the-red-pill-by-vadim-korkhov/

I like this guy's write up about the differences between the red-pill and stoicism.

A more recent example of an author who promotes a stoic viewpoint is psychotherapist Albert Ellis, who is most famous for developing a form of therapy known as Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy. He's written like 100 books in his lifetime and he has some pretty fascinating life philosophy. Here's a good video of an interview he did

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GyRE-78g_z0

Hopefully what I wrote was helpful!

Title	Ever since recovering from redpill I’ve realised how manipulative i become
Author	Itshardtofindanametf
Upvotes	17
Comments	6
Date	January 7, 2022 4:14 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/ExRedPill
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