Low self esteem vs being realistic

Five_Decades · 2016-09-21T19:30:56+00:00

I get this. There are some things I'm not good at, and some things I am. People sometimes accuse me of low self esteem, but I think I'm just realistic.

To me low self esteem is more when you just hate yourself and would dislike anything about yourself. Realistic is when you can accept your limitations without self hatred.

Also realistic people accept others judgment. Low self esteem people do not. If you say you are ugly, but other people tell you you are not, if you are realistic you'll listen. If you have low self esteem you will not.

I'll never play in the NFL. That isn't low self esteem, it. Is a realistic assessment ofy athleticism.

MentalCircusPodcast · 2016-09-21T19:06:10+00:00

The difference being able to have short coming and be TRULY FINE WITH IT

A short person uncomfortable w/being short has low self esteem

A short person who accepts they're short but isn't TRULY bothered by it is realistic and healthy

One thinks there is something wrong with them the other doesn't

RedPillDetox · 2016-09-23T11:53:05+00:00

Low self-esteem happens when you devalue yourself in ways that are unrealistic, wether because you really have a negative self-view or because you value too much the views other people have on you.

If you're bad at something and admit it, you don't have low self-esteem, you are realistic and intelectually honest enough to admit it.

Self-esteem, which is your capacity to value yourself, is over-rated anyway. Nowadays, psychology is slowly turning to self-compassion as a source of happiness, which is the capacity one have to not devalue himself.

raziphel · 2016-09-21T19:19:56+00:00

It's not faking happiness, though. It's being happy in spite of the things that had previously stood in the way.

If there are things you can change, change them. If there are things you cannot change, beating yourself up about them won't make anything better, so there's no point in worrying about them.

Remember, depression lies.

absolutebeginners · 2016-09-22T00:10:03+00:00

Were you hoping we'd forget you just posted another post about your abusive boyfriend? Are you bullshitting or what?

So you're ugly, accept it and move on. Start dating guys at your level, it will make you feel better about yourself.

sarah-goldfarb · 2016-09-22T03:03:51+00:00

People who are emotionally mature are able to take a step back and objectively evaluate their own strengths and weaknesses and then improve what they can, while at the same time recognizing that nobody is perfect and it's OK to have some flaws. They're able to be honest with themselves and others because they know that it's not the end of the world if they aren't perfect all the time. They can even laugh at themselves and sometimes they can embrace their flaws.

Throwingfurtheraway_ · 2016-09-22T03:21:58+00:00

If you're this mentally unhealthy, you're a fool to use a relationship as a crutch.

If you can't make peace with who you are, learn to be alone.

mykidisonhere · 2016-09-22T14:40:06+00:00

People pointing out negative things about themselves usually do not acknowledge the good things about themselves. If they did, they'd see a balance, or work towards one, and wouldn't feel the need to point out their flaws.

Vicious43 · 2016-10-29T04:38:31+00:00

Grow a pair.

Title	Low self esteem vs being realistic
Author	blackpillgirl
Upvotes	6
Comments	16
Date	September 21, 2016 7:00 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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