Redpill YouTubers cleverly make you derive your self esteem from women and their videos.

Then they claim you must not put women on a pedestal and then teach you how to get women. How contradicting is that.

Trp might be cool and all when you’re a teenager and developing your personality by experimenting with different behaviours.

But things get messed up when people try too hard trying to get that pussy , they change their personas completely and become fake.

Things get even worse when they get some results doing so because now their asshole identity solidifies.

They mistakenly think they’ve made it.

They forget that they aren’t attractive to the girls with good self esteem who are looking for a genuine guy.

Girls smell fake personas like sharks smell blood.

These guys become the fake alphas attracting the insecure women without caring for the girls personality because they put sex On such a pedestal that their judgement gets blinded by lust and ego validation.

THESE GUYS HAVE JUST WON THE BATTLE BUT LOST THE WAR, unless they revert back to being their genuine selves.

If you’re struggling with going back to your genuine self and still attracting girls , I highly recommend mark mansons book , “Attracting girls through honesty”

If I were to review this book id say I haven’t read any more dating books to compare it with , and thats the review.Its so good you wont need to look at any literature for dating again ,in your life.

But these redpill channels sell it so cleverly , its marketing , building their business from your insecurities.

The only way out is to build your self esteem around other stuff and preferably not through consumption but through action.

When you have something going on in your life, you wont give a f about these youtubers.

Find something in your life to give a fuck about and your cravings for trp will fade away. Slowly but surely.

Be patient.

Don’t beat yourself up.

Get back to your actions even when you relapse on trp.

Embrace it , dont be scared of it , look trp in the eye and smile at it as you cry.

The only way is through.

It’s not trp that ruined your relationship. Sure it gave you some twisted perspectives and misinformation to act on your impulses but if you keep blaming trp then you’re avoiding responsibility for your life and its a victim mindset.

You acted on your impulses of selfishness and paranoia.

You wanted to be special and so got that validation from this toxic redpill literature.

You became less empathic to your partner and became narrow minded. That’s you , not redpill.

Trp is not a neutral thing and at the same time it is partly neutral because of its nature. claiming its not a philosophy (that tells you how to act), so in a way it doesn’t make you act a certain way but its not completely true, it has a lot of a philosophy twist to it, stating you do x y or z.

I’m not saying it is to be excused because yes , it did play a part in your actions.

You might have been naive to act on those impulses without acknowledging while acting that these are your decisions.

You might not at the time of making those selfish decides , thought about the consequences of your actions.

It’s okay

But what’s not okay is not taking responsibility for it.

Own it

Own the ashamed feelings and the guilt that come with owning your mistakes.

When you own them ,they dissipate into nothing and have no power over you and in time you stop ruminating.

Call her back ,apologise , own up to your actions. She can forgive you , she might not, either way you’re not stuck in the past anymore.

You move on.

Trp didn’t make you do any thing.

You acted on your impulses, that were of course exaggerated by trp.

“With great responsibility comes great power” - mark manson

What I’m trying to say is , trp is not good but neither it is bad.

Instead of cornering it and trying to go against it is waste of energy.

This doesn’t mean you should accept everything it sates.

Theres this cognitive dissonance that comes in us when we are presented with such false dichotomies. Red or blue pill.

Giving up redpill might seem like accepting blue pill since this is what these redpillers have feeded you just to make you stick to their videos so that they can make more bucks.

You are stuck in this loop where you have two cheese between the red or the blue pills.

YOU HAVE TO REALISE

These narratives are ABSTRACT.

No matrix exists. These are ideologies , have you ever been so connected with a religion , you probably are an atheist , so why the hell are you sticking to an ideology.

I’ll tell you why

It’s because no religion tells you how to get pussy. This redpill ideology does.

So ask yourself again , is it the ideology to be blamed or you succumbing to need for validation through sex.

Stay open minded.

Be mindful of your biases. https://markmanson.net/cognitive-biases-that-make-us-terrible

Don’t be red or blue or black or purple pilled.

But then again don’t hate yourself for wanting to be part of a pill group in the past or even if you want to be right now.

Hating it will backfire.

Acknowledge that you’re craving a connection to a community and self esteem , fulfil this need by engaging in some constructive activity instead of reading and listening redpill. In time , you will have a new identity. But its crucial to stay patient

You are human and you have a need of connection and self esteem and if for long you have been deriving it from these pills then quitting them cold turkey will back fire.

Meditate , be mindful , you can only get out of this pill system if you have something else going on in your life because for long these pills have defined your life , your self esteem and you have been deriving a sense of connection form these subReddits.

Start slow.

Pick up your old hobby

Call that old friend

Sit worth your family

Get in touch with school work.

In time the pills will be forgotten and you will laugh at how silly it all was. But to get there you must value something else in life.

Theres no point in debating the pills. It only benefits the youtube channels who thrive at your views.