I posted here a lot and anyone who knows my story knows that I went from being a male feminist to being to the red pill to now being in the middle

Most of this was because I tried to understand my own insecurities as a man and to understand the world around me especially after dealing with an abusive woman

Now that I'm in the middle I can see the flaws in both sides

Every time I talk to a feminister always seems to be a very dogmatic approach and a lot of anti-male sentiments seem to go under the wayside because they are covered in a lot of academic language

Same thing could be said about the men's Rights movement or red pill

Both sides seem to want their points understand it well also simultaneously and ironically using the same old gender stereotypes to combat the other side

All men are rapists and abusers only works because the stereotype is already there

All women are emotional and gold diggers is because the stereotype is already there

It's easier to use those and to make it out to seem like the other side has no idea what they're talking about because they are just mired in their own gender

Which is BS and lacks a lot of empathy and nuance from both sides and I can see that with the comment sections in YouTube and even on Reddit

Why is admitting that both men and women have problems and issues and sometimes these issues go unseen by both men and women, such a hard thing to do

I've had a pretty messed up life and even more so as a man because that's what society will see and act towards me for.

If I was a woman it would have been the same thing only I would have gotten stigmas and documents for being a woman instead of a man

Never in all of that pain and security that I think that women were somehow in apparently unempathetic and inferior

I was raised by nothing but women on both sides of my family so I had no choice but to be understanding because all this information was beaten into me quite literally

Most boys are raised by women whether that be the school system or their family.

I've had to tell the females in my family many times that they need to calm down and stop acting crazy just because they're older than me and because they are women

I've had to get physical with a bunch of men in my family because they think because they are men and older than me that they can get away with stuff

Both genders will use whatever works for them to their advantage and naturally hate what does not work for them