I didn’t realize this until my ex was already out the door, but queens: watch how a man reacts to the causes you support.

Outside of my other human rights causes, I’m a huge animal activist and bully breed activist. My ex seemed to think this was a passing thing, and then the comments started. I would cry when a dog died from parvovirus, and he would lecture me on how I was too invested. I would get frustrated about BSL, and he would tell me that I need to stop caring. I was adamant about training for my own dogs so they would be safe, and he barely ever showed.

Ladies, an HVM might not understand all the causes you support, but he will damn well support you supporting them. An HVM will help you when possible because he knows how important it is to you. An HVM will ask questions and try to see things from your point of view.

A LVM will just angrily ask why you’re crying again and then tell you to get over it.