Some of us are getting back on OLD. If you want to level up, don’t slip back into accepting BMB Bare Minimum Behavior. Here’s an example: LVM you feel it’s time to have sex, he doesn’t have condoms- stuff doesn’t go down for that date he makes no attempt to go get supplies and just whines and complains. Meanwhile, former ex (happened in real life) and HVM, oh it’s time to pick up your pills, drives you in his car, lets you wait in the car while he says, no, this is my job, and waits in line to pick up your birth control and doesn’t act like you owe him a dang thing and then buys you food. Big difference. Second difference: how LVM respond to your texts: examples include, beautiful! Gorgeous, hey how’s it going. And when you have something cool like a new dress, a skill you learned or something you made he says any of the following: (cool, oh nice, oh that’s different, hmm.. ) ignore! Meanwhile, HVM: say wow! That’s awesome, you are so talented, can you teach me how to do that, amazing, cute, stunning- just something that shows he knows your worth. Also, LVM want you to be impressed that they cook and clean and have a pet, like most HVM just chill at their house like, no big deal, just throw it in the laundry. They don’t expect you to clean up or cook or for you to even be impressed when they do those things- ie: Mama didn’t gush every time little Timmy took the trash out or ran the dishwasher.