Hi there,

I'm new to FDS but I feel like I've come to the same rules about dating/men on my own through some sort of convergent evolution. I had to learn the really hard way. But my HVM told me about FDS and it blew my mind. Y'all are my people.

I was reading the handbook about being a HVW, and it beautifully talked about being an Immovable Mover and it reminded me of something I read in a book a few years ago that I thought I would share. The book is called Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Ambitious Women by Kate Northrup. It's honestly a little woo-woo for my taste as its mostly about scheduling the type of work you do around your cycle (i.e., do the social stuff/selling when you're ovulating, thats when you're naturally most charming).

However, there's this one part where she talks about "Egg Wisdom". I found the expert and I will paste it below but its basically about how the Egg doesn't chase, the Egg just exists and its special enough that the sperm is the one that seeks it out. It's this beautiful play on being the immovable mover where you just sit in your power. You grow human life, for fuck's sake, so you don't need to chase.

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In order to understand Egg Wisdom, we have to understand how the egg works within the female body. Once a month an egg is released from the ovary (at ovulation) and hangs out for a little bit being available for fertilization. The egg stays in place right where she is. She doesn’t run around up and down the fallopian tube wondering if the sperm is coming to fertilize her. She doesn’t pop down to the uterus just to check if he’s coming or hang around the cervix entrance, hoping he’ll see her there. She doesn’t check her phone obsessively or wonder if she should text him or not, even though he didn’t respond to her last text (or her last 10). She doesn’t call her girlfriends and ask them what they think she should do.

Nope, she simply sits there in all of her fertile eggness, simply being the egg.

As she sits there, though, she also emits a signal that tells the sperm that she’s ready and available. The follicular cells around the egg release progesterone, which actually gives the electric currents that drive the movements of the sperms’ tails a boost, and as the current increases in strength, the tails begin to move faster.

The egg’s eggness actually makes the sperm faster and stronger. As my mom says, she has the ability to “egg on” and enhance what’s around her.

Similarly, when the sperm finds her, there are millions of them trying to break through her barriers to get in all at the same time. But the sperm doesn’t get to choose; it’s up to the egg who she lets in. Once the egg chooses which sperm (or sperms, in the case of multiples) to let in, if there’s anything wrong with its DNA, she actually has the ability to repair its DNA and improve it. Again, she can “egg it on.” Then, in order to make the three- to four-day journey down the fallopian tube to the uterus, where the egg will then embed into the uterine lining, she has enough nutrients within her to feed herself and the sperm until they get to the next nutrient source of the uterine wall.

So not only does she have the ability to signal and strengthen the sperm, to choose which one she’ll allow to fertilize her, and to repair the sperm’s DNA, she also brings a picnic.

This is the feminine way. The feminine nurtures, heals, beautifies, and improves everything around her. Plus, she brings snacks, because someone is always going to be hungry. If we let the egg be our model of attraction in terms of our very blueprint for how to manifest what we want in life, it gets really juicy, really fun, and a lot less work to get what we want.

Whenever I start to hear critical voices in my head, I try to remember that I am the Egg.