I can’t tell you how many times I have either experienced or heard from friends how LVM exes are using your hobbies, experiences, music, other interests to market themselves as cool or interesting to other women after you’re gone. Especially after you have dragged him there kicking and screaming in the first place, acted super unappreciative of the time and effort you spent organizing a nice experience for the two of you, and as though he didn’t enjoy himself at all. Drag your bf to an interesting lecture or cool band? Watch him list it as one of his hobbies/ interests when you come across his OLD profile. Pester him to take you on a date to this cool obscure restaurant that you found? Expect to run into him there on a date with someone new when you break up. Drag him to a festival where he sulks the entire time and ruins your experience? He will use the one good picture that you took of him that day as his new OLD profile.

I know that the goal is to already avoid dating LVM but this is a reminder of what happens when you devote time and energy to someone who is low effort. They will, by nature, suck you dry and then use that energy to trick another woman and perpetuate the cycle.