Does status mean shit for guys?

2019-10-29T17:54:35+00:00

A woman’s ~status~ only means shit to a man that is going to look to her to be the breadwinner and provide. In terms of status, men worth a damn are focused on comparing themselves to other men, not women. Be skeptical of men who constantly compare themselves to women. They are usually low value and can’t compete with other men on any level.

Obviously men want women to have their shit together, but besides that we’ve seen time and time again that men really don’t give a shit what a woman’s job is. You don’t need a PHD to marry a man who has one. You don’t need to be a doctor to marry a doctor. You don’t need to be a ceo a marry a man who runs a successful business.

Men care about looks above anything else. After that the rest of you is just added perks. If a man likes you, he likes you. He’s not going to not pursue you because you work in a trade or because you’re a librarian or whatever.

rftw2013 · 2019-10-29T17:23:27+00:00

Men literally don't care what you do, they care how you look.

I have a doctorate, and I'm purposely not discussing my work and downplaying my professional accomplishments because men have told me that I'm "intimidating," " too much," etc. These are educated, accomplished men.

My advice: Choose whatever profession/trade suits you, because men don't care. Just don't discuss your success or how much you make; they like it when you make less than they do.

2019-10-29T19:50:03+00:00

Do what you want to do for your career. Men come second to a career. Being happy in your job is number one.

sailormoon516 · 2019-10-30T03:12:40+00:00

My thoughts on this are opposites attract and give em what they’re not expecting.

I grew up very working class, criminal class tbh and dirt poor but I went to an Ivy League school and at one time was in the FBI hiring process for special agent (I failed security clearance oh well).

I’m saying all this because many of us are very layered individuals and we can use those layers and interstices between masculinity and femininity to our advantage.

You’re blue collar? Awesome. That’s sexy as hell. You wanna date white collar? Do you know your audience? Can you talk the talk? Play both sides of the coin. Show you can talk the talk but give em what they’ve never gotten before - a girl who can fix shit and can probably hang harder with the guys than he can.

Think about what might be refreshing to the guy and without being fake, if you have that component own it.

I think about the guys I’ve chased or been infatuated by and I ask myself why: I thought I couldn’t have them/their type but it’s a type I’ve always wanted.

I grew up around super alpha males big gorilla types but I was too intellectual to ever fit in. I get infatuated by this because I could never have it.

Now someone I’m dating, he’s kind of nerdy and I got a glimpse of girls he’s dated in the past, frumpy. So I give him glam, hoops and he’s constantly complimenting me.

This is just my strategy

bearded_dragonlady · 2019-10-29T20:41:37+00:00

People in general are attracted to those who are passionate and fulfilled with their life, and your full time job is often a large aspect of that. If you work a blue collar job, you're more likely to marry someone in that social circle. Their views will influence you. My female physician friends all date doctors or other white collar professionals because that is their circle. Your personality often changes depending on who you surround yourself with even if you don't consciously realize it.

I've also heard that female electricians face severe bullying, like constantly getting their expensive tools stolen. Carpentry is hell on your joints. A lot of middle aged carpenters I know push their children to get a non manual job because of this.

barbietraphouse · 2019-10-29T17:55:13+00:00

Why do you specifically want a "university level man" ?

In general men don't care as much about what a woman does for work. The only thing that might turn men off is that electrician and carpenter are masculine jobs. Men like feminine women.

Title	Does status mean shit for guys?
Author	speakingintonguez
Upvotes	5
Comments	14
Date	October 29, 2019 3:39 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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