There was a man that I dated very briefly who brought out a very defensive side of me. This was prior to being on here and reading all the FDS.

Just curious to hear your thoughts about these red flags!

Examples:

40/no kids/never married/incredibly good looking/owns his own business and home/nice vehicle/motorcycle/seems “put together” but he has lived in this area for years- grew up here- and has to be on OLD to find women? Why doesn’t he have flourishing relationships here and the ability to be with a high value woman with all his contacts? I checked out his IG after we stopped seeing each other and he started following a 21 year old female who had a YouTube channel selling belly button rings (not ragging on the girl, she was just YOUNG AF in all the ways) Said he was perpetually aged 29 Last relationship was long distance and out of state for 14 months He said he she was a full blown narcissist but he went into being with her knowing that- her looks, fitness, confidence, and extroversion was what attracted him to her He said he met two other people OLD and one was just “dumb” the other one was “flat” from both sides and he wasn’t interested When we first were talking, I was busy and unable to meet him that week. He asked what I was doing right then and I said I was going to the store and he said “you have time to goto the store but don’t have time to meet me for 5 minutes?” This was a big red flag and from the beginning, I felt like he was a bit intrusive with questions and demands When we did meet up, I mentioned that I was a bit nervous to meet him- he asked me how I would be successful in my career ( I was starting over in a new state here) if I couldn’t meet him and not be nervous. I said it was a bit different meeting a stranger off OLD who had sexual interest in me and that his comment was insulting. When I told him I took 3 years off of dating to focus on myself and I hadn’t been with anyone sexually at all- he said “what’s wrong with you? Are you a bad kisser or something?” With laughing faces. When I told him that was a lame comment, he said I had no reason to ever get defensive with him and that he was just playful. He pushed and pushed for me to reveal things before I was ready to speak to him about certain things. Sexual preferences were discussed- I said I wasn’t into full blown anal and he said we would cross that bridge when we got there. (Lol no)

On the other end, that meet up was entertaining because I ended up not being nervous at all. He was the nervous one and kept talking and talking and talking and talking without a breather. About some realll random things, too. I was super chill and not intimidated.

The whole thing was weird.

Anyway, curious to hear your thoughts.