I’ve been lurking here for a while, first time posting. I’ve only ever been in one relationship, with a guy that gaslit me over and over again, comparing me to other girls and trying to play out his fantasies from porn with me. I made a huge mistake, but I’m glad I am no longer with him.

My question is how I can avoid that again? Of course, most of the things from the handbook are incredibly helpful. But some stuff I feel aren’t applicable at my age. For example, most people my age doesn’t own a car or have their own place.

Do you think that there are indicators I can replace these things with/some that are specific to my age?