This was years ago, way before I found FDS, but even then I had my wits about me, and this shows by how I dodged a bullet with a guy I was interested with. Although I have to admit, I wasn't who I am today, but if there is one thing that I didn't negotiate with was the seriousness of my attention. If someone didn't respect me, or played games with me, then they would get ignored.

Enter this dude. He had an ideal of his future gf, shorter than him, with specific style, way of talking, future planned and all. And he would not shut up about it. Or stop pestering me with it. I saw his game, and I just, dgaf.

He lost his shit. Almost got violent. Blocked him everywhere. As far as I'm aware, he might still be trying to get himself an unsuspecting woman. But I really don't want to know, and tbh if it wasn't for some post on reddit I wouldn't even remember about him. But I do think that it's an important reminder to not let yourself be molded for some sex fantasy.