Hello everyone,

So this is...good news? It's good news. I really was not expecting to meet anyone right now, especially how I did. ESPECIALLY NOT SOMEONE WHO APPEARS TO BE A HIGH VALUE MALE. I recognize how easy it can be to play a part so I've established some firm boundaries (rather than jump in with both feet) but no matter what happens it's so, so wonderful to see how I've changed.

I don't play hard to get. I am hard to get. I'M BUSY. Instead of taking everything at face value, I politely thank him for kind words and gestures and allow him to continue to pursue me. I'm warm and friendly but still notice myself...observing (with the small flutter of a butterfly here and there). It's just weird to be so unaffected? I'm attracted to him but also my guard is UP and I'm kind of freaking myself out with how much I've changed? This is good right?

I used to get ahead of myself and I will admit I did this at first. His first date idea was extremely thoughtful and we have a lot in common. We were on the phone and talked for eight hours about stuff we just liked. Then I said that really shouldn't happen again, there's no rush and I don't have time like that.

And weirdly I think he likes all this. All this stuff I was afraid to do because I cared a guy/girl would run away...it intrigues him. But this isn't really about him. Forget about men for a sec.

Is this what being a high value woman feels like? idk, i'm really surprising myself. Also, I know it depends on me but how often do you call/text in the early stages of dating? I don't want him to get the wrong idea. This is just the first time I've adhered to FDS principles and this is the one thing i'm unclear on.