Just needed to vent really quick. I haven’t been speaking to my “sperm-donor” for the past few months, and I don’t plan to. We live in the same house with my mom and brother. He’s misogynistic and a very old school Indian with old-school values, and how women get married to parents’ accord and can’t have boyfriends or lose their virginity prior to it. He cheated on my mom when we were younger and was pretty abusive when he found out innocent things like I have gay male friends or like someone (I’ve already done plenty of things without my parents knowledge and could give a shit about what he believes is right or wrong.) My mom is more open-minded and supports me with anything so long as my education and career are set.

Just overheard him on the phone with one of his like-minded friends asking what work my mom does, what my brother is studying/his age, what I’m studying and my age. After the sperm donor finishes with my info, his jackass of a friend asks if I’m getting married soon. Sperm donor says maybe in two years or when I’m 27. As if he has a say in who I marry and when, all just to please his friend with a response. I know that no one besides myself has a say in anything I do in my life, but it ticked me the wrong way that he can’t stop over sharing with his LV friends or thinking he can control things like that. My mom was in the room and said sometimes he has to answer people in his community just like how we all answer when asked abt our family. I told her he doesn’t need to reply so stereotypically, and he shouldn’t be making anyone else his business.