Does anybody have an advice to improve my self esteem? I feel like I've tried everything, gym, outdoor sports, swimming, yoga, reading, learning a new language, travelling, making new friends, buying new clothes, changed my job, went back to college to get my degree basically everything I can think of. At the moment I'm spending all my free time on improving myself. I've taken a break from dating completely but Im interested in dating if we meet organically.

However, I still cant get over my insecurities about my appearance. The only guys I've matched with on tinder were clearly the lowest of the low or guys who just swipe right on everybody and haven't had any success on dates, never get approached in public, any suspect hwm I meet are only interested in me as a friend. Only if I dress in revealing clothes and act very flirty I can get guys interested but this is clearly for the wrong reasons. Apart from that I dont think that men even notice I exist. I always go for personality over looks in guys so I know I'm not punching above my weight.

I put a lot of effort into my appearance and I get compliments on my personal style, hair and general athleticism. I always felt quite confident and attractive but now I realise that I've just been lying to myself. Every photo of myself is just ugly and I barely get any followers and likes (only from my friends). I recently went travelling and I wasnt happy with any photographs that the people I met took of me so I hired a vacation photographer and I just wasnt happy with one single photograph. I sent them to my friends looking for a bit of encouragement thinking I was just bring over critical of myself but not one person said that any of them looks nice or had any compliments to say. I know social media is meaningless, but I have friends who can post 1 selfie and get a hundred new followers and dms. I have less than 100 followers and only my friends like my pictures.

Everything just seems so hopeless, because I feel like I'm 90% of the place that I want to be as a hvw but I get literally 0 attention from even the most low value of males. I met a guy when travelling who I suspected to be a hvm and we got on really well as friends but he had zero attraction to me and went for a prettier girl instead. I always thought that I was good looking, but obviously this is not true and I've been deluding myself.

Has anyone else ever been in the same position? What would be the best steps to take apart from giving up all hope's of finding a relationship entirely?