Seeking advice - Right person, wrong timing?

FDStrategist · 2020-07-06T10:57:11+00:00

If you are keeping the idea of an “us” with him, you will be holding yourself back from meeting genuine high value men who want the same thing as you.

If you keep the idea of “us” it’s like you’re waiting around for him to be ready.

You deserve so much better.

He might tick a lot of boxes on your list but not being on the same page about commitment means you 2 do not have compatible values. If he does not want commitment, what is he after, casual sex night after night? A pick-me who gives him the girlfriend treatment without exclusivity so he can drop her as soon as someone better comes along?

If he is thinking this way, it’s not going to magically change anytime soon.

You are a strong inspiring woman, I wish I’d have found FDS when I was 19. Stick with it, you will find someone who treats you like a queen

ErikaNaumann · 2020-07-06T12:11:27+00:00

This is a terrible idea. Here are a few reasons why:

you don't know when he will be ready. Or if he ever will be. Just read the posts about mid 40s scrotes still wanting to bang 20 year old chicks;
he might get ready eventually, but not for you. In 10-20 years he will meet a lot of women, A LOT. Chances are, he will be with one of them, not you;
both of you are young, and both of you will change. The man he is today won't be the man he is in 10/15/20 years. He will be fat, bald, have loads of baggage and will probably be jaded;
high chances one or both of you will move to another city/country to work, and you will never see him again;
you are probably gonna miss a lot of good guys if you are waiting for this dude. In life, every yes we say means a no to other things(missed opportunities). Don't waste your life like this;
you are young, you will meet plenty other people too. In a few years you will look back at him and laugh that you even considered him like this;
he ticks a lot of boxes except for one. You want different things. You have different values. You want a partner, he wants to fuck women.

Girl, forget about him. This is not it. Don't shoot yourself in the foot. Allow yourself to find a good men, that is compatible with you. Don't sit around waiting for anyone.

honeybeeroll · 2020-07-06T13:15:24+00:00

If you save him on the back burner, you'll be thinking of a future "us" which is likely to affect your dating life and better opportunities in ways you can't imagine, that influence can work to stop you from seeing other guys.

Think of it this way - if it's right person, wrong time, life will reconnect you with them if you're meant to be together. So let him go and move on. If you're supposed to be together, life will bring you back to him. If not, then you let go of someone who wasn't right, allowing you to move onto much better opportunities

Title	Seeking advice - Right person, wrong timing?
Author	grios733
Upvotes	7
Comments	9
Date	July 6, 2020 6:36 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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