Should be obvious by now

TalulaRouge · 2019-09-29T12:06:04+00:00

My ex's mother got ill one year when we were dating. She was a super nice lady, but she literally was a maid to her husband -- she worked a full time job and cooked and cleaned all the time. Very old attitudes about a woman's role in the household.

So she got sick, was tired all the time, gaining weight, and the doctors couldn't figure it out.

They finally took her to the emergency room one night. You know the big event that tipped them off that she might have had a serious illness? She didn't have dinner ready for the husband that night because she slept nearly 24 hours and missed dinner time.

Turns out, she had ovarian cancer. But remember, ladies -- if you don't have dinner ready on time, that's the only time your health is really important, because it cut into his meal time.

She died from the cancer spreading a few year later, but I never forgot that lesson about how little our lives mean to the type of man who prioritizes his creature comforts over her life.

Irisma2 · 2019-09-29T03:58:44+00:00

My boyfriend always wants to cook, I sometimes have to tell him to let me cook for once 😂

pinkliquor · 2019-09-28T22:40:07+00:00

My ex would say things like he likes his girl in the kitchen cooking while he’s relaxing on the couch. Also would get mad if I didn’t have a hot meal waiting for him everyday. So annoying.

armsforanexleper · 2019-10-01T11:35:37+00:00

Can we just agree that looking after a car and a maintaining a house is just a life skill?

SluttyPuss · 2019-10-21T09:54:58+00:00

What does a man who can’t cook really offer to a relationship???

I mean the simplest and warmest ways of showing love is be fed a special meal during occasions to be made special !

lmarika · 2019-09-29T17:29:34+00:00

YAS!!! And even with daily chores. If both of us in the relationship are working, i don’t see why all the responsibility is to the female to do the chores.

TrendyLeanSipper · 2019-09-28T18:59:38+00:00

Omg yesss. So tired of my bf trying to make me cook for him

thefudmaster · 2019-09-28T18:07:48+00:00

Truth sisters...preach it!!!

theterriblesea · 2019-09-29T09:06:01+00:00

My bf rips me to bits for not being house trained. He stays home and cooks and cleans while I’m at work then I bounce in the door like a wrecking ball, make a mess and eat everything before bed.

bluecat678 · 2019-10-01T12:02:41+00:00

That’s what the meme is saying. And I agree but there are a lot of lazy fucking humans in the world that don’t want to be adults. I blame the public schools and bad parents. Except I’m a bit of an anomaly. 🤷🏼‍♀️

gratethecheese · 2019-10-27T08:52:24+00:00

Cleaning yes, but cooking has a lot of levels to it

c46tn_ · 2019-10-27T10:43:04+00:00

Sure but let’s be honest.. us girls are far better at it.

LifeIsWackMyDude · 2019-10-27T11:43:03+00:00

I kinda want to date someone who can cook so that they can teach me how to make more than just noodles. I think I'd be really motivated to learn if their food was good and then I could make something for them when they need a break or just whenever I want to cook for my SO. Plus it could probably be like a date of some sort.

TheOGJammies · 2019-09-28T17:17:53+00:00

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SilverSwim · 2019-10-25T15:43:25+00:00

I know I’m gonna be banned for this, but you guys are contradicting yourselves if you say there are no gender roles, but desire to go on dates and expect the guy to pay. That means that you are forcing him into a gender role: guys should always pay for dates.

bluecat678 · 2019-10-23T20:10:58+00:00

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Phirk · 2019-10-27T11:43:16+00:00

Yeah those two traits have become really gender neutral over the decades now when most people imagine a cook they don't think that its just a women. Cooking is a basic, necessary and underrated life skill. Nowadays no one really gets judged for liking sports or liking cooking/ drawing or anything of the sort

Title	Should be obvious by now
Author	bluecat678
Upvotes	2325
Comments	49
Date	September 28, 2019 3:43 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/dahm9i/should_be_obvious_by_now/
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