Trying to Level Up

MissEssquire · 2019-12-09T01:31:24+00:00

For your mental health: If you can afford it or have healthcare, get into therapy. That's always my number one suggestion for anyone wanting to level up - it's less about changing yourself and more about building confidence, self-esteem and self-worth. If you haven't already, talk to your psychiatrist about your depression and ADD. Make sure your meds are all sorted out and you're doing all the work you need to be doing in order to be your mentally best self.

For your weight: Find something active that you actually enjoy doing - don't run if you hate running, don't buy a gym membership if you're never going to go. Chronic pain makes physical activity more difficult, but not impossible. Physiotherapy or hiring a personal trainer would be the best place to start. There's aquatic aerobics classes that are also gentler on joints and are a good way to slowly build up strength and ease yourself back into activity. Joining a class or group is also a good way to stay accountable, because ppl are expecting you to show up. Added bonus, you end up meeting like-minded friends trying to better their health. Talk to your doctor about seeing a dietitian to help create a diet plan that can actually work for you. Keto diets are good for dropping a lot of weight fast, but they're also tricky to stick with. If you can't afford to see a dietitian, stick to whole foods as much as possible, meal plan, avoid empty carbs and no late night snacking (this is tied to mental health stuff, because eating is sometimes a coping strategy, so talk to your therapist about your eating, too).

My schedule looks something like:

-An hour walk every day, no matter what (having a dog forces me to do this rain or shine)

-Gym 3-4 times a week, weight training (used to be physio)

-Counseling 2-3 times a month

-Massage, once a month (I have chronic pain and this helps a lot)

-Meal planning and meal prep for the week every Sunday

-Always have at least one new self-care book on the go (right now I'm reading The Holy Wild, about reconnecting with your feminine power) and in the evenings after the kids are in bed, I'll light candles, pour a glass of wine, wrap myself in a blanket and read.

-girls night with best friends at least once per month

-this is where I would insert a hobby if I had one or had time, but that's what I'm currently working on. :)

I'm not sure if this is helpful but right now is a really amazing point in your life because you can only go up from here!!

2019-12-09T00:37:01+00:00

Barre classes and meal prepping are good steps to take.

By meal prepping I have now cut out all processed foods and sugars from my diet. It saves me money too.

Barre classes are a fun work out because they are not so cardio oriented and no coordination is required because it is not fast paced dancing like Zumba.

rainbowcatsurprise · 2019-12-09T03:55:06+00:00

I have ADHD too! Feel free to PM me. I personally try to play to my own personality. For example, I’m competitive, so when I’m at the gym I subtly try to out run the other people around me on the elliptical. I’ll have my usual 30 mins but I also tell myself that I shouldn’t get off until the person in the corner who’s super jacked gets off the elliptical too. I try to go to the gym with friends, so that I feel pressure to actually do stuff instead of sit on my phone and pretend to stretch. I pay for the gym so I tell myself that I’m wasting money if I don’t go at least 3x a week. I reward myself if I go more than 3x and punish myself by not getting my favorite treat for the week if I go less than 3x. My friends and I call each other to hold each other accountable as well.

TheLastUBender · 2019-12-09T06:53:19+00:00

I keep recommending her channel, but check out the shorter clips on Mel Robbins' youtube channel. She has ADHD as well. She's good at deliverying a motivational kick in the rear as well. Not saying you respond well to that type of pep talk, but I found what she said applicable and worthwhile.

turquoiseblues · 2019-12-09T13:43:55+00:00

The Smart but Scattered Guide to Success: How to Use Your Brain's Executive Skills to Keep Up, Stay Calm, and Get Organized at Work and at Home

Title	Trying to Level Up
Author	JuJuB53
Upvotes	12
Comments	6
Date	December 8, 2019 8:23 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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