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🙏🏻💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 12:52 AM
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😂👍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:43 PM
8

Block and delete right now. No reason to wait.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:31 PM
5

Yes, really good analysis here. You’re spot on. A dating app is a business first and foremost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:30 PM
3

Are you willing to step away?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:06 PM
13

So what are they doing to keep us? So far, dating apps have done a lot to alienate and frustrate us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:04 PM
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Yup, this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:02 PM
13

I’ve heard from my male friends that there’s a lot of bots on Tinder and a lot of aspiring Instagram “influencers” who use Tinder as a means to increase their social media following. A lot of men are getting frustrated with Tinder because they’re not getting enough “real” matches and/or those matches don’t even converse with them. I don’t know how much longer this business model will last.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:02 PM
18

You continually take his bait.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:40 PM
35

Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:17 AM
11

Agreed, 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:15 AM
4

I’ve noticed this, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:14 AM
8

Do you have other projects that you’d rather do that offer a much higher chance of success? I’m thinking fitness, school, career, skills, or home improvement/organizing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:04 AM
3

Well, good for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:22 AM
7

Good information. Thanks for posting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 10:41 PM
4

Ha ha! U.S. women go crazy over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 09:12 PM
14

Don’t forget his accent, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 09:08 PM
14

Yup. It’s basically a business built on hooking and negging women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 08:49 PM
19

He’s wrong. He’s nothing more than a mildly attractive charlatan who uses his British accent to bolster his credibility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 08:48 PM
6

No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 08:46 PM
15

Don’t worry about his eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 08:45 PM
12

Yeah, people are complicated. Hopefully she’ll figure this out one day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:55 PM
13

Yes, totally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:48 PM
8

Start a regular program of physical fitness and nutrition. Then start learning skills that will make you seem more interesting and appealing to others: public speaking, dance, maybe something like climbing or tennis, art or music.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:44 PM
4

Yes, agreed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:41 PM
14

Start shopping around for a good therapist right now. Also, read Attached and How to Break Your Addiction to a Person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:29 PM
8

In the future, you don’t even need to explain that you’re not buying it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:27 PM
46

So true. It’s such a passive-aggressive thing to say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:26 PM
9

You’re not alone. The vast majority of men are not attractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:21 PM
9

Why are you still friends with her? What do you adore about her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:08 PM
2

What did she say?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 05:44 PM
27

Typical sexist Dr. Phil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 05:43 PM
11

You can reschedule if you want, but deprioritize him. (Prioritize other dates and events first.) if he cancels a second time, ghost without explanation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 02:47 PM
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Biggest example: look how our “president” got his start in television media.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 02:42 PM
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Subscribed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 02:40 PM
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😂👍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 02:36 PM
5

Your last sentence is perfect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:11 AM
8

Another red flag. Good to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 07:18 PM
13

Experiences (like travel) often cost more than things, anyway. So it’s not as though they’ll be able to get out of spending money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 07:18 PM
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I saved this comment for future reference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 07:09 AM
43

Doggy style so she didn’t have to look at him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 06:43 AM
2

Yes, I’ve noticed all that as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 11:20 PM
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The fact that you’re here means that you’re not “too far gone.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 11:11 PM
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Root causes: Abusive/neglectful/incompetent caretakers, dysfunctional family, abusive peers, growing up in poverty, societal misogyny, culturally indoctrinated sexism and classism. All of these factors caused lifelong feelings of worthlessness. Solutions: Still working on it. But, generally, physical fitness, doing things I enjoy alone or with supportive people, learning new skills, therapy and support groups, seeking sources of female-empowering information, ruthlessly eliminating difficult or …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 10:33 PM
3

Is this sub useful or counterproductive?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 03:52 PM
1

Thank you. 🙏🏻💕 I did put some thought and consideration into it. This hit piece, on the other hand, was just sloppy journalism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 03:20 PM
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😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 06:37 AM
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My hobbies: physical activities, especially dance. Art (viewing and creating) and learning (classes, lectures, reading, podcasts, documentaries).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 06:20 AM
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There’s no reason to engage with him at all, ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 04:49 AM
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No, don’t respond to the email. You don’t have BPD. (He does, by the sound of it.) Don’t JADE (justify, argue, defend, explain) with abusers. Don’t engage with them at all. Simply distance yourself, set boundaries, and protect those boundaries. Come here when you need support.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 03:11 AM
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Yes, all of this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 02:44 AM
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Or older, beaten down, and suffering from low self-esteem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 01:48 AM
24

Damn, girl, your writing is so good. Start a blog; then write a book.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 01:40 AM
2

They’ll join when they’re ready.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 01:15 AM
7

He sounds awful. How miserable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 01:00 AM
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Excellent analysis. I hope this post is pinned, sidebarred, and Handbooked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 12:56 AM
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Yup. Negging demonstrates insecurity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 12:33 AM
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Good call. He’s not respecting your boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 12:30 AM
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Oh, that poor girl. 😢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 12:29 AM
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Yes, all very true. Your last sentence especially.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 12:28 AM
5

I admit that I do struggle with this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 12:27 AM
5

Yes, very good point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 12:27 AM
7

Succinct advice. Well done. 👍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 12:23 AM
4

That sounds miserable! I go to an esthetician and thankfully have never had a problem with the wax used in salons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 12:19 AM
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Ah, okay. As long as it’s her choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 12:17 AM
2

Physical activities, especially dance. Also, art (viewing and creating) and engaging in various ways to learn: reading, classes, lectures, podcasts, documentaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:16 PM
4

Or he can pay a lot of money to a good therapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:14 PM
3

Yes, this. This is the real puzzle that needs solving. The guy is just a symptom (and a distraction).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:13 PM
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It’s hard, I know. It gets easier with practice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:11 PM
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😂😜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:11 PM
3

My African American Studies teacher called this phenomenon the “Pigmentocracy.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:10 PM
5

Silly question, but why can’t she find her own partner?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:07 PM
4

Agreed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:01 PM
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Yes, our time and our attention. He can keep his negging and his “generosity” with drinks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:59 PM
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Yes, I don’t bother. r/DatingOverThirty is similarly hostile to women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:58 PM
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Perfect manslation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:56 PM
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Hey, that’s coffee and a pastry in some places.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:47 PM
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💯👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻🏆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:46 PM
7

Your last sentence: 🏆😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:44 PM
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You know the answer to this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:41 PM
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💯👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:37 PM
1

Very good, yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:35 PM
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Or wax/laser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:30 PM
12

You can’t win. 🙁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:29 PM
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Yup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:27 PM
9

When are you going to invite me over for dinner already?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:25 PM
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This is a choice on his part. He’s choosing to be lazy within the context of a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:23 PM
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It’s not your responsibility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:20 PM
1

This is it in a nutshell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:20 PM
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Right. It’s all so transparent that it’s actually quite stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:15 PM
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Consent never appears anywhere in the Bible. It’s not a religious concept.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:14 PM
1

Yes, all this. Well put.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:08 PM
2

It’s men that’s the source of the problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:07 PM
1

It all goes together. Hypocrisy among the powerful is part and parcel of their system. “Morality” is only for the little people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:06 PM
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He’s weak and amoral at his core.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:05 PM
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Man created “God” in his own image. He’s too weak to hold himself to a higher standard on his own without the fear of an imaginary all-powerful father figure. Pathetic all around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:03 PM
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💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:57 PM
1

It generally takes me eighteen months as well. That’s not necessarily true for everyone, but there’s something about the eighteen-month mark for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:53 PM
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This is really good. I saved this comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:43 PM
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Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:25 PM
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They want easy sex from a female pothead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:25 PM
6

Focusing on yourself now is the beginning of your leveling up. You have a great life ahead of you. 💪🏻✨💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:22 PM
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Beware the charmers. Please consider blocking him immediately. You can begin the healing then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:20 PM
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This guy is awful. You don’t need this in your life. Ghost, block, and level up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:17 PM
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Ask yourself if you want to be married to this kind of manipulator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:09 PM
9

Excellent analysis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:08 PM
10

Ugh. That huge-ass wall of text doesn’t include listening or respecting your boundaries. But there’s plenty of mansplaining, patronizing, condescending, attempting to control the frame, and definitely manipulating. I’d fade this guy. Let him “love,” “forgive,” and marry someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:04 PM
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Yes, recomping something like ten pounds is totally doable. You’ll accomplish this in a reasonable amount of time. You‘ll probably even be able to keep a few treats here and there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:02 PM
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I’ve seen too many potheads who are overly interested in weed to entertain “420-friendly” guys. Mentioning cannabis is a yellow flag to me. Another red flag 🚩 is if he sexualizes instead of converses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:55 PM
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Good work on all that leveling up! 👍🏻🏆💪🏻 Most practitioners find it easiest to keep their eating window to a generous eight hours and to shift it to later in the day, such as from 12 PM to 8 PM. I personally find it more effective to keep it to a five-hour window and shift it earlier (breakfast and lunch or just brunch with some snacks). With IF, good nutrition, and regular exercise, I lost 54 pounds from my highest. So, in other words, fuck dinner. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:50 PM
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The second step after awareness is having compassion for yourself and forgiving yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:09 PM
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I did the opposite. I practice intermittent fasting and typically don’t eat dinner. But some men insisted on taking me out to dinner. I was afraid to explain my situation because I didn’t want to seem “difficult.” I ended up eating a bunch of food that I didn’t want to eat and gaining weight from unwanted, unplanned dinners. I won’t be doing that anymore. The point is to take care of ourselves first. Be assertive about your food needs, boundaries, and preferences—and not worry about the men. The…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:04 PM
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Female Dating Militia. I love it. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:58 PM
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That can happen sometimes, but not always, unfortunately. The experience I had with my toxic family was that instead of becoming “nice” and respectful, they acted afraid of me, walking on eggshells as though I was going to get angry and/or leave at any time. They acted as though they had “no idea what might set me off,” even though their bad behavior was really very obvious. Instead of seeking to understand the problems they’d caused, all they did was become passive-aggressive about my anger. Th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:58 PM
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I think it’s because we feel so bad and we want the server to know that they’re appreciated by at least someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:51 PM
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I recently cut off a family member who knowingly and egregiously violated my boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 09:10 AM
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Ha ha! OMG. First, he’s sloppy. (“FDM.”) Second, I love how he’s framing this creepy message as pretending to care about your well-being. Transparent jackass is transparent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 09:00 AM
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If you feel guilty (which you shouldn’t), you can just tell him that you’ve gotten really busy with work and/or school lately. Then ghost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:45 AM
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You’re still in the FOG (fear, obligation, guilt). It’ll wear off with time and conscious psychological work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:15 AM
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Not to mention clueless, oblivious, self-centered, and entitled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:29 AM
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It’s astounding how many men don’t say please and thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:40 AM
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This is the number one rule.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:48 AM
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Right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 12:45 AM
1

Which video? Is it this one?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 06:43 PM
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Why downvote me? I’m just the messenger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 06:50 AM
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Normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 06:06 AM
11

🐱💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:48 AM
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Fascinating story! Sadly not surprising, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:36 AM
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I was actually kind of wondering that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:21 AM
8

Not surprising. His ego was bruised.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:18 AM
9

She was going to give him a fake address to waste his money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:11 AM
8

YES.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:10 AM
13

A sour curmudgeon unworthy of your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:01 AM
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Yup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 03:50 AM
3

He sounds like a brat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:03 PM
5

Yup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:28 PM
8

Of course.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:28 PM
2

The way sexist men use it, it’s objectifying and dehumanizing. I personally don’t use male, either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:27 PM
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It’s not “killing” you. Language informs your thoughts and emotions, so I suggest reframing this in a healthier manner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:25 PM
1

Yes, yes it is. 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:22 PM
3

Ha ha! Totally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:21 PM
2

Thank you! 🙏🏻💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:21 PM
1

Oh, gosh, that’s disappointing. 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:20 PM
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Plus, creepy to the flatmate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 02:24 PM
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Eh, this seems complicated. OP did well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 02:23 PM
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You were right. Drop the guy, fade the friend. She’s not in your corner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 02:22 PM
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I second this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 02:21 PM
28

Yeah, the female gender is not a panacea for relationship problems, alas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 02:20 PM
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Be friendly and resume as normal. He’ll either step up or not. And good work leveling up. 👍🏻🏆💪🏻 Keep going.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 02:18 PM
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😂 I used to volunteer with an emergency response team with the fire department. Some of the firefighters were very attractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 02:15 PM
1

Mine was all three in one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 08:16 AM
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Oh, hell, no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 08:01 AM
1

Which podcast and episode? Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 07:57 AM
4

Oh, I know what you mean. Reddit is a minefield.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 07:55 AM
1

👍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 07:45 AM
1

Same, girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 07:43 AM
5

Good comparison.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 07:42 AM
3

Agreed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 07:37 AM
3

She makes valid points that I personally agree with (re: sex workers, consensual sexual practices, trans people—there is a diversity of opinions and beliefs among FDS contributors), but she skimped on her homework. Specifically, her reference of my popular post: …an FDS “strategy coach” [me] even reworked the infamous Pickup Artist guide The Book of Pook for FDS’s audience by “converting the sexist stuff.” She obviously didn’t read my post at all, and she completely missed the point. Not only di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 07:34 AM
7

All of this is great. 👍🏻🏆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 07:13 AM
9

And look at the posthumous accolades that Kobe Bryant is getting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 07:06 AM
6

I’ve carefully curated my subscriptions for this reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 07:06 AM
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🙁💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 07:01 AM
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It’s totally FDS-approved, girl. 😂🏵
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:58 AM
14

You don’t even need to be his friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:53 AM
12

Keep him blocked. Don’t unblock out of “curiosity.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:52 AM
4

🍫🍫🍫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:51 AM
2

🙏🏻💕🧸
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:49 AM
13

A lot of the guys on there are pure garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:48 AM
8

Yes. I relate. Practicing self-care is our right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:44 AM
24

THIS. Along with “What does she bring to the table?” So disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:39 AM
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Fortunately, it doesn’t matter what misogynistic losers think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:38 AM
8

I abandoned DoT as well. It’s misogynistic garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:37 AM
10

I’m sorry. 🙁💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:32 AM
1

Which app(s)?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:29 AM
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Maybe that’s why they’re so hot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:26 AM
3

Good insights and interesting approach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:25 AM
42

If more women were able to write, direct, executive produce, and distribute movies, we’d see a lot more diversity of age, body type, sexuality, and maybe even race/ethnicity. And we’d see many more female-centered stories.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:17 AM
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Sociopaths, narcissists, and predators prey upon the vulnerable. Get help before you get hurt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:10 AM
17

🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:09 AM
31

Fantastic interpretation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:08 AM
55

He’s a dumbass. She shouldn’t be buying him anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:07 AM
15

💯👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:04 AM
34

It is related. He dehumanizes her, either abusively or with this sort of manipulative love-bombing. Female exemplifies the dehumanization.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:03 AM
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“most sweetest” “female” “I need you” Yikes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:01 AM
18

Succinct and true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:59 AM
37

His name is Chad! 😂 Too bad he doesn’t actually resemble a Chad. He’s way too soft and hairy to be making all these demands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 07:25 AM
30

Is that actual text from a real dating bio?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 07:16 AM
5

What advice would you give to a close friend in your situation? Would you be more compassionate toward her than you are to yourself?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:39 AM
4

Anything by Natalie Lue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:34 AM
14

I really like this publication.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:33 AM
13

She’s not wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:30 AM
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I avoid that as well. Sarcasm is obnoxious and rarely funny, especially when directed at us. I’m not sure why guys think this is a selling point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:28 AM
1

Not my priority, but for some women it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 03:24 PM
4

That last sentence. Oof.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 03:24 PM
0

It doesn’t, but it can treat horniness temporarily.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 08:06 AM
8

I relate to this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 08:05 AM
12

Or just ignore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 07:51 AM
37

Esto es muy gracioso. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 07:47 AM
3

Men often look this bad, yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 06:17 PM
13

First Amendment. Also, he looks terrible for fifty. He should eat better, exercise, and stop complaining about nonsense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 06:25 AM
18

Yup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 06:23 AM
2

You’ve written the perfect screenplay to this scenario!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 05:21 AM
2

Ah, word of mouth. Very good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 05:19 AM
6

💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 11:34 PM
-1

That’s what I said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 11:23 PM
18

I’ve done all of these.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 11:09 PM
39

You didn’t know at the time. You’re doing better now. We’re all working on ourselves here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 10:43 PM
1

Ohhhh! Thank you for explaining. So how do frustrated mothers find it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 10:31 PM
8

She’s not wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 10:30 PM
1

Why?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 10:09 PM
4

Why?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 10:02 PM
7

Your son sounds like a treasure. Good job. 💪🏻🏆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 09:29 PM
0

Right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 08:59 PM
5

I’m on a break from dating now because I got burnt out. My second paragraph was to demonstrate that men show up no matter what you do. They’re abundant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 08:58 PM
3

I feel the same way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 08:57 PM
6

You don’t have to explain anything to anyone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 08:54 PM
4

I feel this way about food. I practice intermittent fasting, so I don’t eat dinner. Some men think this is weird and that I’m intentionally being difficult. So I have the opposite problem of the typical FDS complaint in this regard. The bottom line is that men need to respect our needs and preferences and to meet us where we are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 05:29 PM
12

Yes. Silence and blocking is best. Report if he’s out of line.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 05:23 PM
11

That’s why I make them work around my schedule. They meet me at my school after dance class when I’m sweaty and still in exercise clothes. Not wearing makeup, of course. They still want me. Probably because the circumstances of the date is living proof that I’m fit and interesting. Much of the time, though, I’m hoping that they cancel at the last minute or stand me up so that I can go home. They always show up, though, right on time. Thirsty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 05:21 PM
10

Or worse, they just don’t care at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 04:39 PM
15

Or he doesn’t want her to know who he is so he can use her without consequence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 04:35 PM
94

The best thing that could happen to him would be to receive dead silence. That will make him even more extremely unhappy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 04:33 PM
39

This should be pinned, sidebarred, and Handbooked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 04:32 PM
2

🤦🏻‍♀️🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 04:20 PM
2

I know, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 04:20 PM
14

Except that their screw-up that backfired on them still ends up hurting women because of increased sex trafficking from nearby countries, pressure on women to marry and reproduce and, of course, rape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 04:19 PM
13

That’s some interesting mental gymnastics there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 03:42 PM
19

Not in China or India there aren’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 07:20 AM
61

“You’re never going to find someone who cares for you in the under-35 set.” I never said anything about being attached to any particular age. My next boyfriend was 26 when I met him. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 07:20 AM
3

Try radical honesty and see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 04:18 PM
10

Yeah, all caps for a loud bellow of thinly veiled insecurity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 04:17 PM
4

Spoiler alert: Most likely it all stems from your childhood and adolescence, specifically with your early relationships with your caretakers first and then later your peers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 04:16 PM
10

It’s a standard neg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 08:53 AM
12

Could be. Stop dating for a while, read Baggage Reclaim, and start shopping around for a good therapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 08:49 AM
1

Alone: A Love Story
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 08:47 AM
18

You’re prioritizing superficial personality features (which includes looks) over character. Focus on character first. A bad boy is generally not long-term relationship material.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 08:35 AM
18

It’s not “weird.” It’s typical fuckboy behavior. Stop allowing yourself to be played.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 07:03 AM
9

That, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 06:59 AM
5

Natalie Lue FTW. 👍🏻🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 06:56 AM
32

💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 06:42 AM
2

Hold yourself to a higher standard in terms of your behavior, and they will show up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 06:17 AM
3

Read this and do the exercises.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 06:15 AM
4

Please start making phone calls first thing tomorrow morning to book an appointment with a therapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 06:10 AM
3

This is a really good point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:43 AM
6

💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:43 AM
10

He's a reasonably attractive charlatan. I wouldn't buy any of his stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:41 AM
160

Ugly guys are the worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:38 AM
6

Keep going! 📝
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:38 AM
11

Work on your sense of self so that comments like this don't unnerve you so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:36 AM
5

Well done!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:34 AM
2

You don't have to delete your entire WhatsApp app; that's silly. Just block his number, that's all. Don't give him power over you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:27 AM
16

Girl, you should write a book. Your stuff is always so good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:21 AM
3

Extremely insightful. Brava.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:21 AM
89

If you have to describe yourself as "alpha male," then you aren't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:18 AM
3

Are you in therapy? If not, I recommend that you start shopping around for a good therapist immediately. If one isn't a good fit, keep trying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:14 AM
1

Oh, girl. 🤦🏻‍♀️ If you could just hear yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:08 AM
4

So did I. "I was afraid of my feelings for you." 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:06 AM
3

Really disturbing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:05 AM
9

You need people in your life who are CARRP: consistent available reliable responsive predictable It takes several months at least to find out if someone is CARRP. If someone is not CARRP, or if you feel "confused" or anxious, drop them immediately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 04:59 AM
8

Yes, start shopping around for a good therapist ASAP. And don't date anyone for a while.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 04:55 AM
5

Yes, this. Exactly this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 04:55 AM
5

Oh, god. 🤦🏻‍♀️🙄 It's frustrating reading this. Please read everything in the sidebar, including all the recommended books (start with Natalie Lue's material) and then get back to us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 04:54 AM
10

That about sums it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 04:51 AM
16

He's getting exactly the reaction from you that he was hoping for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 04:48 AM
20

Perfect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 04:46 AM
8

Yeah, I was thinking that an anonymous call to CPS might be in order.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 04:26 AM
5

Inspiring. ✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 03:31 AM
13

That’s right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 01:01 AM
11

Oh, god. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 01:00 AM
2

😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 01:00 AM
2

💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 01:00 AM
3

👍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 11:26 PM
3

It was Clonazepam.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 11:22 PM
31

That is just hell on earth, the worst fate that can bestow upon a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 11:22 PM
14

There are worse things than dying single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 11:19 PM
1

👍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 11:16 PM
16

I would love to watch that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 11:13 PM
62

I can see Reddit becoming entirely sex-segregated. Already on the R4R personal ad subs, it’s almost all men. And they wonder where all the women are. Any woman who posts an ad is so rare that she’s immediately deluged with responses. It happened to me at age 48. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:41 PM
3

Yup. Sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:36 PM
3

That’s also a better option.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:08 PM
1

Post your mental progress here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:08 PM
5

A man closer to your age would be a wiser choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:06 PM
6

Well, this won’t end well. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:03 PM
11

I remember those! I was in a group like that around 1996/97.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:58 PM
11

Your first paragraph: How pathetic. Do men cut each other down like that? Your second paragraph: The guy now finds you a challenge. So typical. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:55 PM
13

It’s her problem now. Thank goodness it’s not yours!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:36 PM
7

I’ll be interested to read the responses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:30 PM
4

Very good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:29 PM
10

It’s a whole shift in mindset. I’m doing something similar with school. Instead of unquestioningly following the standard track laid out for students, I’m asking myself what I want to get out of this and what my priorities are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:29 PM
5

Excellent. 👍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:27 PM
11

This is fantastic. Well done. 💪🏻🏆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:26 PM
3

I recommend: - Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love - How to Break Your Addiction to a Person
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:21 PM
6

You’re not “low value.” Please don’t label or denigrate yourself like that. Also, read up on attachment theory.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 08:42 PM
5

Another (big) vote for Natalie Lue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 08:40 PM
43

Oh, that woman needs to subscribe to this sub ASAP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 08:39 PM
12

Wonderful. 🏆👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 08:37 PM
22

Yes, this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 08:35 PM
13

How has it helped your career? (Curious, because FDS helped me deal with a recent family problem, and so I’ve become interested in non-men uses of FDS.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 08:35 PM
13

This is so good. Terse directness followed by silence is the most effective. Or just silence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 08:26 PM
87

Never double-text. Never chase. Silence speaks the loudest. Judge character above all else. Give up at the first sign of disrespect or other red flag. Focus on myself first. I’m not alone in my struggles and frustrations with men. I’m so grateful for this community. 🙏🏻💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 08:25 PM
12

Like more ghosting? Less ghosting? Ghosting on our part?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 08:22 PM
5

Yes, I know what you mean. This community is a dose of sobering reality. You deserve much better than awful men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:47 PM
5

God, that show is horrible. You’ve been through a lot. I’m glad that you’re out now, taking care of yourself, and finding support here. FDS has been an important source of support for me and so many other women. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:08 PM
8

Have you seen a therapist since then?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:44 PM
7

This just gets worse and worse. 🤦🏻‍♀️🙁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:41 PM
3

Same. 👍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:38 PM
13

Live and learn. But I will say that anger is better than suppressing your emotions and going along with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:37 PM
9

That’s horrible. 🙁 I’m sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:35 PM
20

Gifts and affection divided ten ways doesn’t even begin to cover the costs of single parenthood. Good thing he’s your ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:34 PM
2

Ha ha! I know the feeling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:21 PM
3

He’s not smart to enough to read newspapers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 11:05 AM
3

“Am I overreacting?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:50 AM
5

👍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:47 AM
14

My first post on this was pinned. 👍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:47 AM
1

Yes, I really hate the pressure to meet up right now. And many are unwilling to schedule a few weeks in advance. I don’t know why it doesn’t occur to men that we have busy lives and are being asked out all the damn time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:37 AM
6

Heartbreaking. 😥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:34 AM
2

I listen to podcasts while folding laundry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:14 AM
5

Alone: a Love Story is a great, inspiring series. Stick it out to the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:11 AM
3

Grapefruit sorbet with freezer burn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:06 AM
1

It is a curse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:00 AM
2

You don’t have to justify your decision to anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:59 AM
8

I got a similar message from this same jackass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:39 AM
2

Any response?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:33 AM
3

Glad you’re here. Welcome! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:33 AM
20

Or waited until his financial situation was more secure and comfortable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:20 AM
7

Message the mods directly. They’re pretty busy after the WSJ article.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:14 AM
6

Yes, this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:06 AM
19

That about sums it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 04:40 AM
3

I hear ya, girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 04:39 AM
27

Their problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 04:30 AM
17

I’m looking forward to reading these.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 04:27 AM
13

Great idea!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 04:26 AM
2

Yeah, maybe you’re right. 🙄😠
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 04:25 AM
3

Digital is easier to start with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 04:25 AM
1

🙏🏻💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 03:36 AM
3

I have a feeling that she is among us. 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 03:35 AM
2

😂 I know, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 03:35 AM
1

🙏🏻💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 03:34 AM
2

💪🏻🏆👑🎉🎈💃🏻🥂💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 02:09 AM
1

🙏🏻💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 01:16 AM
5

I know, right? I hope the author is among us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:01 PM
3

😂🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:00 PM
3

Bracing myself. Also worried about potential doxxing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:00 PM
5

We should talk about publishing it. Feel free to DM me of you want to start a conversation about this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 08:59 PM
4

💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 08:57 PM
4

💪🏻🏆👑🥂💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 08:56 PM
4

💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 08:56 PM
8

If you’re 100% truthful, you’ll weed out ageist men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 08:55 PM
2

I hear ya, girl. 🙄🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 08:53 PM
4

🙏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 08:53 PM
4

💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 08:51 PM
5

🍗🥘😋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 05:39 PM
3

Sometimes the birth control pill can mess with libido. 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 02:38 PM
6

Definitely. 👍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 02:37 PM
21

Peggy Orenstein just published Boys & Sex which is about this subject. Terry Gross interviewed her on Fresh Air.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 02:35 PM
19

💯🏆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 02:32 PM
10

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 02:28 PM
28

It should at least be turned into a book. Maybe IRL communities like Meetup as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 02:28 PM
5

I had to Google that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 02:26 PM
4

Same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 02:24 PM
17

💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 02:16 PM
1

🙏🏻💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 11:37 AM
35

This is a deeply meaningful testimonial for the importance of FDS as a community. 🙏🏻💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 11:21 AM
17

💃🏻🎉🎈🥂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 11:20 AM
68

One of the mods pinned it right away. Everything else you wrote is spot-on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 11:19 AM
4

Yes, very true. I wasn’t actually suggesting changing orientations because I understand that sexuality doesn’t work like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 11:12 AM
91

Yup, absolutely. The WSJ understands that its readership does not comprise incels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 10:47 AM
6

They’re whistling past the graveyard. It’s pure projection on their part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 10:36 AM
63

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 10:32 AM
68

💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 10:31 AM
51

For your neckbeards?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 10:18 AM
67

And it’s about to blow up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 10:17 AM
111

I loved that. Beautifully stated and so true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 10:04 AM
54

We should start an initiation ritual into our society. Once initiated, new members get a gift bag with some useful books, pink nail polish, and a pepper spray keychain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 10:03 AM
79

This is just painful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:59 AM
34

😂😭🪑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:58 AM
30

👑🏆💪🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:58 AM
73

😂 I actually really liked the article. It was fair and on point. Whoever has joined us because of the WSJ, welcome, sisters!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:57 AM
225

Which one? There were a few good quotes in there. Also, I wonder if author Christine Rosen is a user among us. Christine, if you’re lurking—thanks for the coverage! You’re welcome here anytime, sister. 📝👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:56 AM
39

Well, how do you do? 😂👑🏆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:46 AM
74

Wow. Such a waste of a good pickup lime. 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:23 AM
7

Pretty much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:21 AM
11

I wonder how many people (especially girls and women) feel this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:20 AM
4

Spot-on description of the whole conundrum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:19 AM
4

Totally. 🤩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 07:05 AM
5

Perfect response. 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 07:03 AM
11

This post should be pinned and added to the Handbook and Sidebar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 06:56 AM
15

It's about as nefarious as my sugar cravings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 05:02 AM
12

Totally. "You're either lying, or you look terrible for your age."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 05:01 AM
2

Right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 05:00 AM
7

Mine said, “The only way you’ll ever have money is if you marry a rich man.” Then she laughed because apparently that was very funny instead of insulting and offensive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 12:44 AM
11

Sexual entitlement and inappropriateness is the biggest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 12:24 AM
34

Honestly, I don’t think they would even care. They dehumanize everyone, including themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 12:09 AM
1

I was wondering that, too. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 12:01 AM
6

Or intelligence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 11:38 PM
53

A lot of them are lying and are considerably older than their stated age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 11:35 PM
4

Right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 11:32 PM
6

Welcome. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 11:31 PM
57

If I could excise the part of my brain that desires companionship and physical intimacy with men, I would. Life would be much easier and more peaceful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 11:29 PM
64

“Females”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 11:27 PM
21

Personally, I have no interest in dating an “industrial metal goth” (his username).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 11:26 PM
12

💪🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 06:22 PM
4

👍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:17 PM
8

I don’t like sports.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:14 PM
42

Without good character, looks and money mean nothing. The quality of character is literally the most important thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:10 PM
24

That’s insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:09 PM
34

Some of them can lift heavy objects and fix stuff, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:07 PM
3

They should start with this. It’s comprehensive and useful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 03:16 PM
3

Nasty racist neg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 05:45 AM
5

Well done. 🏆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 05:10 AM
10

I had a CD of this song signed by Nancy Sinatra.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:42 AM
2

Are there things you can do to expand your social circle?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:39 AM
11

Tell us how you really feel! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:38 AM
8

So true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:35 AM
5

Yes, this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:34 AM
6

I’ve come to hate the words cute and fun coming from men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:28 AM
2

Can you come here when you’re feeling lonely?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:27 AM
9

Another vote here for Baggage Reclaim. Natalie Lue is the best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:26 AM
21

Perfect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:02 AM
9

Effectively. And, yes, you have a valid point. What do you suggest?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 03:59 AM
15

The guy’s ugly, but this is actually kind of cute and clever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 01:15 AM
4

They’re conflating “value” with socioeconomic class and superficial gestures.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 09:29 PM
1

No, you misunderstand. Instead of giving them my home address, I give them the address of the police station or the county jail. They eventually figure it out. 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 09:28 PM
2

😠🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 08:04 PM
1

And, if it’s on a dating app, reported.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 08:03 PM
2

Actually, I send them to the local police station or county jail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 08:02 PM
2

Sex with feelings and mutual respect is the best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 08:01 PM
3

And, let me guess, they’re not reading the introductory material, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 07:51 PM
10

Let’s not pathologize women for having a high libido. Having a high sex drive is normal for many people—certainly for men, and for women as well. It’s not the result of a “hormonal imbalance.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 07:50 PM
1

What’s a “reply guy”?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 05:16 PM
2

How much time do you want to spend with him ideally?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 05:15 PM
3

Where are they all coming from?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 05:14 PM
9

Make some good female friends. Keep a journal that includes a daily gratitude list. Experiment with interests and hobbies and spend time doing them. Exercise at least 5x per week.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 05:02 PM
31

It is perfectly valid and acceptable for cisgender women to have our own spaces. If someone doesn’t like it, they can create their own space.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 04:55 PM
6

I love donkeys. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 04:28 PM
2

This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 04:21 PM
5

You already know the answers that you purport to seek. Instead of expecting us to “call you out,” you could decide to act like a grownup, take responsibility for your choices, and hold yourself to a higher standard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 04:20 PM
65

Pin this and add it to the sidebar and the Handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 07:31 AM
5

Or completely asexual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 11:32 PM
3

Smart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 10:22 PM
1

It’s not as easy as with coffee.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 10:15 PM
1

Right. 👍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 10:06 PM
24

Besides no response, this is the perfect response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 07:36 AM
24

Yup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 07:33 AM
7

Yeah. OP, listen to this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 07:32 AM
14

Or young men telling young women that they’re “too ugly to fuck”—and then the young women set about proving them wrong. 🙁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 05:26 AM
3

👍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 01:07 AM
3

Okay, good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 01:01 AM
3

Are you a male troll?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 12:59 AM
6

Exactly. It’s best to go by how you feel. The anxiety of waiting for him to respond is a bad sign. Look for someone CARRP: consistent, available, reliable, responsive, and predictable. This guy sounds like the opposite of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 12:58 AM
38

You can have sex whenever you want. But if you know that you’re someone who gets emotionally attached during and after sex, then it’s best to wait until you’ve vetted the guy for his intentions and character. It’s really up to you. You’re in control here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 12:44 AM
59

It’s also women’s fear of being alone and without male attention/affection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 12:41 AM
24

Interesting hobby! 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 12:15 AM
2

😂🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 11:41 PM
85

Because men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:59 PM
10

Excellent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:58 PM
6

Ha ha! 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:54 PM
2

This must be recent. Anything else available online?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:49 PM
8

Baggage Reclaim and VioletClair for the win! Also, @ImDatFeminist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:47 PM
4

Baggage Reclaim and ImDatFeminist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:39 PM
2

The most important things are the shape of the cranium and the position of the jaw. Google “Angel skull vs. witch skull” and watch the video.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:32 PM
17

He should text back within 12 hours and no more than 24 hours—unless he tells you ahead of time that he won’t have access to telecom due to some extenuating circumstance. Start the clock as soon as you hit send. If he doesn’t meet the deadline that you feel is reasonable and appropriate, block and next him. Texting compatibility is important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:31 PM
4

It helps to have the right facial bone structure to support that look.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:26 PM
14

You must look badass, like a sci-fi heroine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:18 PM
12

He might be lying or exaggerating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:15 PM
12

How you’re feeling is very common. There’s nothing wrong with you. It takes time and deep psychological work to overcome an intimate attachment. We’re here for you. Outside of FDS, read ImDatFeminist and Baggage Reclaim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:13 PM
5

Agreed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:07 PM
26

No one dates them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:02 PM
35

I feel as though I’ve dated all these guys—sometimes at the same time in the same guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:01 PM
28

I want to feel listened to, valued, appreciated, cared for, loved, and respected.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 09:53 PM
20

Excellent first step. When you feel the urge to reach out to him, come here instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 09:42 PM
19

Yes, 💯. FDS principles can also be applied to family, work, clients, colleagues, school/classmates, and sometimes even institutions. Care for your own needs first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 09:41 PM
2

Yeah, he sounds like an insensitive jerk. Good thing you’re not giving him any more of your precious time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 09:25 PM
16

Maybe she lives with a fastidious gay guy. You never know! 😜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 09:24 PM
10

He’s angry that no woman gives him the time of day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 09:23 PM
1

Understandable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 04:35 PM
20

👆🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 04:14 PM
22

You’re not overreacting at all. Trust your intuition. This guy is out of line.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 04:13 PM
4

He sounds very immature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 02:25 PM
153

Lovely home, too. Neat and clean with tasteful furnishings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 02:03 PM
8

💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 01:21 PM
7

That sounds horrible. 😠
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 01:20 PM
16

If his girlfriends aren’t allowed to date others, then he’s not poly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 01:16 PM
7

Maybe it was therapeutic. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 01:16 PM
5

I like the bubblegum pink. Curious as to what this “Things to do” document is for. Also, how old is this guy? Where in the U.S. is he?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 01:15 PM
5

Good work. 🏆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 08:44 AM
3

Good reframing. 👍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 08:41 AM
356

Thank you for this sobering eye-opener.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 08:39 AM
34

He was negging you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 08:23 AM
9

🙏🏻💕 Credit for this idea goes to Natalie Lue. I highly recommend her stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 08:00 AM
10

I understand. Live and learn. We're all working on ourselves here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 06:59 AM
5

They're smart enough to keep it to themselves most of the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 06:47 AM
18

Men have always been like this. It's why they invented burqas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 06:46 AM
10

That was u/2Kate-DaGr8, not me. But personally I'm not a fan of being intimate with people in a relationship without the consent of their partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 06:42 AM
9

Understood. Just a thought. Hopefully she'll find it (or something similar) on her own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 06:39 AM
11

That last sentence is the perfect analogy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 06:38 AM
16

I got the same message from that same stupid little jackass. I think we all did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 06:37 AM
13

Oof. 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 06:33 AM
9

Can you send her a link to this sub?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 06:23 AM
9

👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 06:17 AM
9

No, they don't know—in that the system doesn't explicitly tell them that they've been blocked. (This was designed intentionally for privacy reasons.) They might figure it out on their own eventually, but that's not your problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 06:14 AM
9

You'll get there. You've taken the first (huge) step, so you're well on your way. Just keep coming here and reading empowering material like Baggage Reclaim and ImDatFeminist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 06:10 AM
18

Lovely story. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 06:02 AM
14

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 06:00 AM
38

I understand. Just know that silence speaks louder than any words you could possibly say to them. You'll soon be in a place in which you no longer allow men to take advantage of you, so you won't feel the need to even put them in their place. You'll simply see how they behave, think okay, step back, and silently block. You'll save all that energy for yourself and for people who matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 05:59 AM
12

💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 05:57 AM
99

Many women tend to conflate superficial personality traits (looks, career success, social skills, money, interests) with the quality of character (maturity, empathy, responsibility, honesty, reciprocity, consistency, reliability). Personality and character are two different things. Character comes first. If character isn't there, then personality means nothing in terms of a viable relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 05:44 AM
59

The delusion is strong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 05:40 AM
27

Did you block him everywhere?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 05:37 AM
37

Good for you—but I'm wondering why you felt the need to say anything at all. Why not just block, be silent about it, and let them wonder?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 05:28 AM
1

Goldens look like they're always smiling—and when they like you, they lean against you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 05:20 AM
1

Lots of wagging tails in that video.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 05:19 AM
3

You must be a Yorkie person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 04:15 AM
2

Whoa. I’m honored. Thank you! 🙏🏻💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 12:26 AM
13

This is not a real relationship. Go find one with a man capable of being a real partner to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:27 AM
16

This post is a little unfair to golden retrievers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:25 AM
1

Biologically, incubators are much more valuable than sperm guns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 03:50 AM
1

Interesting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 03:44 AM
6

He sounds like a jackass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 03:28 AM
1

I’m a big fan of hers. I’d be interested in listening to this episode.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 03:26 AM
7

Free emotional labor. And they get to pretend they’re the good guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 03:18 AM
4

She’ll find her way in here eventually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 03:12 AM
12

Text her this sub, plus Baggage Reclaim and ImDatFeminist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 02:45 AM
49

“She” is probably an angry white dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 02:39 AM
25

Right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 02:39 AM
15

Damn, girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 02:33 AM
11

If governments were run by women instead of by men, they’d step in to help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 02:29 AM
1

Not necessarily.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 01:17 AM
1

Ha ha!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 01:13 AM
14

It’s happened in other poor areas as well. No accountability. I wish the mothers could sue the fathers in international courts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 01:12 AM
5

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 06:24 PM
33

Less time spent with men just means more time to read books. (And sleep, exercise, work on something, hang out with friends, etc.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 06:13 PM
26

Yeah, if they cared about us, they’d leave us alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 06:10 PM
14

Ah! Good work. And congrats on leveling up. 🏆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 06:08 PM
69

You nailed it. Sexual imperialism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 06:07 PM
7

Curious, why did you match with him at all?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 06:06 PM
7

If you can prove that you paid his bills and gave him money, you can take him to small claims court and also request that he pays court fees and related expenses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 06:04 PM
1

They do make their rounds, don’t they?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 06:01 PM
2

What’s “sandwich messaged”?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 06:00 PM
2

r/TruFemcels
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 06:00 PM
2

I’m haunted by similar memories. 🙁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 05:59 PM
2

I love the dance battle. That’s awesome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 05:53 PM
2

It’s too late. He’s already not doing it of his own volition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 05:43 PM
3

And use disposable email addresses as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 05:37 PM
2

Other subs are populated by men without empathy and their pick-mes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 05:37 PM
2

You’re doing fine. Keep reading and keep coming back here. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 08:30 AM
2

It’s entirely possible. Look into it! And read The Smart but Scattered Guide to Success: How to Use Your Brain's Executive Skills to Keep Up, Stay Calm, and Get Organized at Work and at Home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 08:24 AM
4

Agreed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 08:13 AM
3

Bullet dodged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 08:10 AM
5

💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 08:08 AM
3

You’re probably smarter than you think. You articulated your issues in this post well. It’s better written than many posts I’ve seen. If you struggle with school, it may be due to an undiagnosed learning disability like ADHD or dyslexia. Would you consider consulting a professional to get tested?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 07:57 AM
5

You forgot the expectation of free labor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 07:20 AM
3

Use fake phone numbers (Google Voice and Burner app).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 07:19 AM
4

Use fake phone numbers (Google Voice and Burner app).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 07:19 AM
4

Cute! 🐱💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 07:13 AM
9

Cats do love you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 02:06 AM
2

🐱💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 02:04 AM
6

Totally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 02:04 AM
7

Insecurity, I guess?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 01:50 AM
8

Ben Mendelsohn kind of looks like Hugh Laurie. I can see the attraction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 01:23 AM
10

A much more accurate test is a dating app. After accumulating enough data via regular use, the algorithm figures out who is attractive. It’s problematic because the algorithm ends up being inadvertently racist, but the attractiveness sorting is fairly reliable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 01:16 AM
14

If only men were as trainable as cats.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 11:20 PM
6

And self-pitying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 10:55 PM
7

👆🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 10:47 PM
11

Who are all these pick-mes?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 10:46 PM
15

Yeah, I take OP’s point, but this seems a little unkind to the women, not to mention unethical to use their photos without permission.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 10:45 PM
79

They understand their primary audience. Honestly, dating apps should pay women to be on there. Or at least give us the full premium services for free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 10:40 PM
5

Keep coming back when you’re feeling bad. Your friends are here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 10:33 PM
4

Too bad. Cats are cuter, cleaner, and more reliable than men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 10:32 PM
1

He sounds horrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 09:10 PM
1

That’s good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 07:46 AM
1

That sounds miserable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 07:43 AM
2

This is heartbreaking. 💔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 07:43 AM
6

Yup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 04:58 AM
11

It works both ways. I was for a long time stuck on someone who played hot and cold with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 04:41 AM
23

Your dad didn’t want you to date a cat?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 04:40 AM
10

Hugs if you want them. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 03:27 AM
15

Many are indeed narcissists. She is especially so. Watch her documentaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 03:02 AM
7

I wish I’d been this wise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 02:30 AM
6

Who wants a rod of ice up her hoo-ha?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 02:28 AM
7

👆🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 02:26 AM
6

Yup, it’s not just with men—it’s with everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 02:19 AM
17

Oh, wow. They’re both rich AF. It’s not as though she’d suffer financially if they divorced.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 01:40 AM
9

Thank you! Your post is so good that I don’t want superficial formatting problems to take anything away from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 01:39 AM
18

She’s also a vapid, solipsistic narcissist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 01:36 AM
11

How is it possible that Jay-Z is worth more than she is?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 01:34 AM
2

💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 01:29 AM
21

Good stuff. Hits home for me. u/ModernMedusaa, could you please edit this post to change the ampersands to the word and? The ampersands appear in code format, which is distracting. Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 01:23 AM
22

The story I internalized is that validation doesn’t count unless it’s hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 12:49 AM
11

Smart!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 12:46 AM
37

Not necessarily in that order. 😄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 12:41 AM
43

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 12:41 AM
2

Oh! Yes, much of the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 12:40 AM
2

Curious, why would you “end up bothering” a younger man?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 12:35 AM
18

He could be in the closet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 12:19 AM
13

Religion for men is a cope to manage and/or hide their sexual perversions. I don’t know why women are religious, to be honest. It doesn’t really benefit them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 12:14 AM
3

It’s the (updated) splash screen for the movie studio.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 12:12 AM
10

Good stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 12:10 AM
92

This is all designed to disempower us, to get us to internalize being the objects of men’s gaze rather than the subjects of our own lives. Women having money and being in power would change all this. If we have power, real power, then no one would give a shit about what self-important and entitled men think. So that’s what we need to focus on: education, careers, business, politics. Not what men think of our faces or bodies. Men who spend their time obsessing over women’s appearances are worthle…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 12:09 AM
5

Or it doesn’t even occur to them that they might not be. It’s more like cluelessness and obliviousness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 10:06 PM
9

Ha ha! I know what you mean. I don’t think it’s necessarily whiteness per se; it’s racial dominance. So, for example, in China the dominant race is ethnic Chinese, as opposed to Tibetan or Uyghur. In North America, it’s Western European. Everyone else is second class. And, yes, these dudes are playing life on the easiest setting. Which makes them insufferable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 09:36 PM
11

Right. White men are always in demand. None-white men, not as much. (Unfortunately.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 03:27 PM
3

It’s not our responsibility to teach them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 07:50 AM
2

You’re doing great. Keep working on yourself and practicing self-care. Keep coming here for support.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 07:08 AM
3

Most, yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 06:51 AM
5

That sounds a lot like the U.S.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 06:48 AM
10

Is this true for men of color as well? (Specifically Indian men.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 06:47 AM
8

Can confirm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 06:44 AM
2

😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 06:34 AM
2

Talenti gelato from the supermarket is much better anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 06:30 AM
25

Of course, duh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 06:11 AM
42

No need to prompt. Set a mental deadline and if he doesn’t step up in time, next him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 06:11 AM
7

You’re having a normal reaction to having experienced some hardships and traumas. I recommend learning and practicing CBT and REBT techniques. You can read The Feeling Good Handbook on your own and do the exercises. Keep coming back here for support. We’re here for you. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 10:42 PM
4

While pretending to be clueless and building in some plausible deniability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 10:26 PM
26

Yes! To young women finding FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 06:09 PM
5

Yes—using the word “fun” when someone has feelings is incredibly dismissive, hurtful, and disrespectful. I’ve learned to avoid men who use the word “fun.” Having feelings isn’t “fun.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 08:12 AM
4

Ha ha! Hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 08:00 AM
2

This is a good way to put it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 07:59 AM
10

Yeah, this sub is full of reality and wake-up calls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 07:57 AM
7

It might be beneficial to take a break from your unsupportive mother for a long while.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 10:47 PM
53

We should be pickier. A lot pickier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 10:40 PM
14

Yes, this, exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 07:02 AM
86

I think coffee dates are fine for the first meeting. It’s a matter of safety and comfort for the woman, because it’s much easier to exit than being locked into a 90-minute dinner. I think of it as “date zero.” You’re just meeting. You won’t even have the first date unless you like each other. The first “real” date can be dinner (or whatever). I don’t recommend drinking alcohol at all. What’s even more convenient is a 15- to 20-minute phone screening so you don’t even have to leave the house. (Th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 07:01 AM
7

Ha ha! Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 06:56 AM
1

That was jaw-dropping.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 05:32 AM
6

This is hilarious. OP, do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 05:29 AM
7

I would ignore it and ignore him. If he says hi, you can just shut it down and say you have no interest in him. Anyone who believes him over you is someone you don’t want in your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 05:29 AM
1

Let me know what you think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 01:03 AM
19

All of this. OP can also come here for support.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 12:31 AM
2

They studied psychology to understand themselves better. Then they found themselves stuck in a career path.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 12:29 AM
1

Denial and self-delusion are powerful. Also, she’s a psychologist, and you know the stereotype about how messed up they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 12:00 AM
9

Which should be another bitter incel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 11:59 PM
38

This is exactly what’s going on here. It’s not very funny, alas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 11:51 PM
29

Why is he even a star? He has serious pitch-control problems with his voice. Also, he came out against abortion when he was sixteen. What a dumb jackass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 11:50 PM
16

If girls were taught this in early childhood, it would save so much heartache and grief.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 11:48 PM
18

And a really dumb one at that. Who’s going to respond to this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 10:05 PM
24

42 😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 09:56 PM
1

😂🐶
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 09:22 PM
10

Is this Anna Akana of “I Have Six Cats” fame? Update: Never mind; it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 09:06 PM
10

Good for you. 🏆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 08:57 PM
13

You’re giving him the girlfriend experience for free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 08:56 PM
8

I agree with this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 08:45 PM
3

You’re welcome. Outrageous, wasn’t it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 08:43 PM
1

The biggest shocker for me was the Pickmeisha at the end. 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 08:42 PM
24

Well done!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 05:02 PM
90

Trying to separate you from other women (even psychologically) is not a “compliment”—it’s a transparent manipulation. And good for you for maintaining such a cryptic poker face. It gives you power over them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 04:25 PM
1

Yes, of course.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 04:23 PM
21

This guy is trash and you should get a handle on your use of recreational intoxicants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 04:15 PM
2

Good insight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 04:12 PM
15

Upgrade your friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 04:07 PM
4

The question is, will law enforcement and the justice system see it that way? It’s better to try to avoid a physical altercation altogether.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 04:05 PM
14

Good. This should be the standard reaction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 04:00 PM
8

This guy is either obsessed with you or you’ve become his default backup option.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 03:31 PM
25

Right. Actions have to match words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 03:28 PM
13

Along the same lines, This American Life episode “Five Women” will make your blood boil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 03:23 PM
21

🎓🏆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 03:17 PM
74

The exponential growth speaks to the long-existent hunger for this sort of support and information.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 03:16 PM
8

Right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 03:13 PM
16

This guy is 30?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 07:56 AM
5

If you have to convince someone, it’s never going to work. Feeling compelled to convince them is an indicator that we need to step back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 06:29 AM
28

I know exactly how you feel. But we’re not dumb. We were naive, lonely, vulnerable—in other words, human.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 06:20 AM
41

You’re not dumb. They’re just lazy and emotionally incompetent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 06:14 AM
10

I know the one you’re referring to. I received a message from him as well. It’s tempting to react, but ignoring these losers is the most effective strategy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 04:08 AM
7

No need to answer any questions you don’t feel comfortable discussing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 02:53 AM
26

Many of us are recovering Pickmeishas ourselves, so we have a lot of empathy and compassion. No need to feel ashamed. It’s the awful men who should be ashamed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 02:37 AM
3

😮 That is the clearest case of karma ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 02:32 AM
2

My tastes are aligned with yours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 02:22 AM
11

Exactly. He’s in no position to date right now. (Maybe not ever.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 01:59 AM
11

That’s the same guy?! Amazing that he thinks anyone buys his ridiculous fantasies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 01:59 AM
7

I received this copypasta from this angry troll, too! I didn’t bother explaining to him that these things mean more to me than a $120 date (the silly example he used with me): - respect - reliability - consistency of communications - understanding of women and feminism - good conversation - intelligence - open-mindedness and creativity - maturity - having his act together Sigh. He’s doomed to loneliness until/unless he’s able to develop empathy for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 01:57 AM
3

What was it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 01:46 AM
4

The stuff of nightmares.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 01:02 AM
8

“You’re getting fat; tighten up" would be an instant dealbreaker for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 12:38 AM
5

Feel free to ignore any question you don't want to answer or feel is inappropriate. Don't allow him to control the conversation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 12:35 AM
44

It seems like the racial version of "You're not like other girls."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 11:40 PM
191

This one hundred percent did not happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 11:23 PM
87

A lot of women reach this conclusion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 11:19 PM
6

Bizarre, desperate, and pathetic. Great that you're away from him. Good work!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 10:42 PM
6

Poor cat. Comb your hair?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 06:25 PM
1

The link between brothers and emotionally unavailable men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 09:34 AM
1

Ha ha!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 03:02 AM
4

Anonymously send her here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 06:17 PM
1

I noticed it, too. Very summer camp.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 06:13 PM
5

That first guy seems like a dumbass who’s relying on bluster to (inadequately) cover his transparent insecurities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 06:07 PM
1

Oh, god, I hate that garbage. Did you just ignore them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 06:02 PM
2

Can you remember any examples?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 10:14 AM
13

Unattractive but defiantly smug?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 07:36 AM
3

Can you share some of the photos?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 07:33 AM
18

Yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 07:32 AM
2

I agree. We should not be giving them any attention at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 07:25 AM
4

🙏🏻💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 03:00 AM
6

Succinct and so true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 02:45 AM
11

Or "my app is buggy."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 02:23 AM
56

Why haven't men figured out that anger is not attractive to us "females"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 02:17 AM
8

🙏🏻💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 01:25 AM
30

And sometimes just the penis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 12:57 AM
9

I thought you’d enjoy it. Credits at the top.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 12:56 AM
10

I think he meant “organize a Bar Mitzvah party.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 10:48 PM
6

Your list of examples made me laugh out loud. I can relate to your story about having to let go of a childhood friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 10:46 PM
31

Also, he misspelled Bar Mitzvah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 10:43 PM
13

This entire comment is perfection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 10:20 PM
3

Ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 10:08 PM
13

These stories break my heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 10:05 PM
7

He would just blame it on her baking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 10:03 PM
13

We thought that if we could just find the right words and put them in the right order, we could convince them and they’d finally understand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 09:57 PM
15

He pressured and manipulated me into getting up out of bed to go meet him in the middle of the night, pretending it was for “coffee” or some such nonsense. He agreed that we’d stay up all night talking. I believed him. I was naive and vulnerable, so I didn’t know better. We ended up having sex in the back of his work truck. (I was tired and nervous and not making good decisions.) As soon as he orgasmed (I didn’t), he put on his clothes. I’d never seen someone put on clothes that fast. Then he sa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 09:25 PM
12

Unfollow and block. Read Baggage Reclaim and ImDatFeminist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 08:28 PM
10

You’re not alone. I can guarantee that just about everyone on this sub has experienced something similar. Don’t beat yourself up about it. The shame is part of the abuse. You were naive and vulnerable, and he took advantage of that. You know a lot more now. You know what to look out for, and you know that you deserve better. Just keep coming back here, read the sidebar, read Baggage Reclaim and ImDatFeminist, and you’ll be okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 07:52 PM
51

I hope she finds her way here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 07:39 PM
1

Yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 05:47 PM
2

Don’t give up. I understand your frustration, but you’re too young to give up. It’s entirely possible for you to find what you’re looking for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 09:01 AM
6

Right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 07:53 AM
1

There’s still a high chance this could happen. You’re very young and have lots of time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 07:39 AM
4

This should be its own post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 07:36 AM
14

Ha ha ha ha! Hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 07:23 AM
8

💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 07:09 AM
25

Let me guess, the women in Germany didn’t want him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 07:04 AM
28

It has a cherry on it. 🍒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 07:02 AM
6

Can we send her the URL to this sub?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 07:01 AM
4

Many of us feel conflicted, which is why we’re here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 06:53 AM
13

Neither of my fuckboys can get laid. Women just don’t give them the time of day. Meanwhile, I still get more male attention than I have time to process. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 06:51 AM
26

They never change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 06:44 AM
10

Every single element of this is utterly absurd.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 06:36 AM
8

Hilarious. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 06:13 AM
12

What’s their problem with Meghan Markle?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 06:11 AM
2

Thank you! Yes, it is horrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 06:02 AM
6

They all seem to be operating from the same playbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 05:09 AM
1

RT?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 01:21 AM
2

This is always what it comes down to. No woman of any age wants him, so he pretends to have high standards in order to protect his battered ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 01:18 AM
11

He used to be considered cute. What happened?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 08:18 PM
16

Don’t beat yourself up about it. You weren’t expecting someone to speak to you that way and you were in shock. If you see him again, try to get his name and report him for harassment and for pretending to be a trainer. Gym managers hate it when regular customers act like trainers, because it infringes on their revenue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 02:04 PM
55

Amazing that a pop star would feel nervous around one guy—a guy who’s not even that smart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 01:59 PM
4

Excellent advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 07:14 AM
5

Shop around for a good therapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 07:11 AM
17

Research narcissism and trauma bond. Read Baggage Reclaim and ImDatFeminist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 07:10 AM
7

True.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 07:03 AM
6

True.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 07:02 AM
2

Well done. 👍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 01:09 AM
2

That’s really cool! I like car shows, too—especially classic cars and low riders. I’m not a mechanic, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 01:08 AM
6

Raccoons are cute and smart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 10:59 PM
3

She’s way too old to be behaving like this. Not even close to acceptable. She won’t change, so it’s best to leave her behind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 10:58 PM
2

Yeah, she’s got to go. Be ruthless about weeding out unsupportive people in your life and don’t feel bad about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 10:55 PM
5

Don’t worry about it. Do what’s good for you. If he gets out of line, drop him. Whatever “boost” in ego you’d inadvertently given him will be more than negated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 10:34 PM
3

Really sound advice here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 10:33 PM
3

😂 Hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 10:08 PM
8

This sounds scary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 10:03 PM
5

Without reliable access to competent health care, this is what Americans have been reduced to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 10:03 PM
66

If he’s super hot, he’s probably not used to being rejected. He didn’t see that coming! Now you’re an extra challenge to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 10:00 PM
13

If he thinks I’m too eager and starts acting aloof and/or entitled, then he’s a problem and I’m out, no big deal. Really, we should do whatever is most convenient for us and stop worrying about what they think one way or another.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 09:58 PM
3

Will broke student at McDonald’s make you feel special?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 09:47 PM
17

Yes, I agree with this. I even prefer a 15- to 20-minute phone call to prescreen so I don’t even have to leave the house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 09:41 PM
2

What’s the “guy” hobby?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 06:28 PM
18

I don’t believe in astrology, so I would answer “What’s your sign” with Use Caution.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 06:15 PM
2

Wow, that sounds intense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 05:42 PM
2

I can totally relate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 07:39 AM
25

Right. We can’t force enlightenment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 09:50 PM
26

Compersion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 09:49 PM
2

That’s a reasonable amount of time for a deadline.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 09:30 PM
3

Fountain of youth in his case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 09:26 PM
2

If this works for you, that’s fine. Personally I don’t like to have to think about it too much. If I have time to reply immediately, I do. If I don’t, then I wait until I do have the time. Going by my schedule rather than his creates the addictive nature of random-intermittent conditioning that we seek anyway. In addition, if a guy takes too long to text back anyway (according to my own comfort), I fade or drop. I don’t respond to their games anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 09:25 PM
18

He obviously has no intention of reimbursing you. Let it go and consider it an expensive lesson in never paying for rides in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 03:50 PM
18

You’re not obligated to take care of your parents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 03:47 PM
3

It’s not uncommon, unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 03:20 PM
2

Absolutely. She’s on the wrong trajectory. By comparison, you’re heading in the right direction. It’ll become painfully obvious in a few years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 10:18 AM
7

A great song.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 10:16 AM
4

She was projecting. Sometimes the trash takes itself out. You’ll be in very different places in five and ten years from now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 10:11 AM
36

They’re all physically unattractive and, unlike us, never get attention from the opposite sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 07:12 AM
35

We don’t hate men. We just love ourselves and each other. A radical concept.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 07:05 AM
8

Mail order.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 06:43 AM
41

Personally, I think it’s OK to text back whenever you want. If you like punctuality and you want to text back immediately, then that’s fine. If it’s more convenient to wait until you have some downtime, then that’s fine, too. If he thinks that you’re too eager because you text back quickly, then he’s a problem. If he gets mad at you for taking your time, then he’s also a problem. Texting compatibility is a thing. The only thing to avoid is double-texting. Other than that, do whatever you want an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 06:31 AM
11

He’s probably married and cheating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 06:25 AM
14

He probably inherited most of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 05:24 AM
6

Photo! Please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 05:23 AM
7

What does this guy look like? Do you have a photo?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 05:23 AM
1

Do your actual friends treat you like this? He's not your "friend." He never was and never will be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 05:16 AM
2

Don't worry about appearing bitchy. It's fine to be bitchy to a bitch. And he's a bitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 05:15 AM
6

Trying to decipher texts is always a bad sign. Worthwhile people don't play games and send mixed messages.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 05:14 AM
5

He's trying to re-plate you. Block him again. Don't announce or explain—just block. If you feel like reaching out to him, come here instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 05:11 AM
3

Yes, this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 05:09 AM
3

Please read and listen to everything by Natalie Lue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 05:08 AM
1

Good work. 👍🏻🏆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 04:52 AM
5

I just watched the Patrick clip. That is frakking hilarious. 😂 It's like watching the animated version of the Dunning-Kruger Effect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 04:45 AM
10

My therapist said that growing up I had to fight for every scrap of love and support, so the lesson I internalized was that validation doesn't count unless it's hard. Hence my attraction to the perennially emotionally unavailable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 04:40 AM
3

Your username is cool. Angel, Riley, or Spike?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 04:29 AM
31

How did he respond to your "What?!"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 04:10 AM
47

At least Bugs Bunny is smart, cool, and cute. I'd swipe right on him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 04:08 AM
16

I like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 04:00 AM
5

I love seeing great music, too. Going alone is just fine. Sometimes I talk to the musicians during the breaks or after their set. Your former friend sounds like an annoying poseur and Pickmeisha. Good thing you dropped her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 02:40 AM
11

Definitely report.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 11:02 PM
16

I noticed that, too. 😄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 11:01 PM
12

Yeah, they should be ignored.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 10:55 PM
3

Or “my ex-douchebag.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 10:50 PM
6

Good call. She’s still young; she’ll learn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 10:46 PM
8

Would you have done this to a friend?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 10:43 PM
5

Stop wondering. Curiosity only gets you in trouble when it comes to man-babies like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 10:42 PM
30

Except to be annoyed at you for being such a buzzkill. Take back your phone and lock him out of all your apps immediately. No explanation. Then block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 10:39 PM
7

Is this an offense worthy of a breakup? Whew. I’mma take a deep breath here and ask you to read the sidebar, Baggage Reclaim, and ImDatFeminist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 10:37 PM
9

Women their own age don’t want them, either. No one wants them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 10:28 PM
8

Yes, spot on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 10:13 PM
7

Sounds fascinating! I’ll take a look at that, thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 05:26 PM
17

They complement each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 04:44 PM
18

Interesting parallel between cults and men’s entitlement. Seeing through men’s behavior makes me feel as though I have escaped from a cult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 04:43 PM
11

What are your favorites? I love Natalie Lue’s The Baggage Reclaim Sessions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 04:14 PM
26

Solid plan.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 04:11 PM
59

It helps a lot to learn to love books, other media, and solo hobbies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 04:00 PM
7

Yeah, he should have worn a condom with his baby mama.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 03:45 PM
152

She’s not wrong that a lot of guys think this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 03:37 PM
45

Projection and negging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 03:37 PM
8

Don’t be hard on yourself. You know better now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 08:17 AM
3

🤖🎹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 06:41 AM
9

So perfect. 👌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 04:33 AM
6

Well, being a smart cyborg, you’ll pick it up in no time. Especially since you only need to recharge 45 minutes a day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 04:18 AM
23

He’s broken. That’s why he’s on Tinder instead of working on his issues. Avoidance is the easy way out. He’s his next girlfriend’s problem now. You, on the other hand, are about to level up and embark on an exciting new journey. You just haven’t seen it yet—but have faith. Your new life is starting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 04:14 AM
67

Spot on. “Easy choices, hard life. Hard choices, easy life.” —Jerzy Gregorek, weightlifting champion
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 04:09 AM
11

Singles events?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 04:00 AM
3

Or: “My picker is off and I prioritize appearance over character.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 03:54 AM
17

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 03:52 AM
13

JFC. 😵
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 03:51 AM
2

Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 03:45 AM
4

I developed a method that is effective but requires constant practice for a long time. I’ve been meaning to write a post about it, but it’ll probably have to wait until the end of the semester. Here’s the abridged version: The common wisdom is to block, go no contact, practice self-care, find support, and stay busy. All of these things are crucial, yes. But the issue goes deeper than that. Your attachment to and obsession with him is not about him; it’s about you and what’s going on with your li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 03:39 AM
2

I got all that, thanks—I was wondering what the emoji was specifically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 05:35 PM
3

What is it? (Too small to see on my screen.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 06:09 AM
9

Yeah, that’s annoying. I would just ignore them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 04:49 AM
7

Wow, that’s disappointing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 04:38 AM
6

It’s a classic jazz fusion piece. Its significance would have eluded him. Pearls before swine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 04:21 AM
8

I would have told him to listen to Herbie Hancock’s brilliant “Watermelon Man.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 03:55 AM
2

I’ve had similar thoughts since a very young age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 03:52 AM
6

When you no longer care about what he thinks of you, you’ll be free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 03:23 AM
11

Which app is this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 02:57 AM
94

He’s wrong. He has no idea what it’s like to be female and obviously lacks the empathy to imagine it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 02:58 PM
3

The irony that is opaque to them, of course, is that they aren’t Stoic at all. They’re just overgrown adolescents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 02:56 PM
8

Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:55 AM
14

Oh, god, how completely immature and dehumanizing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:30 AM
8

Thanks for this detailed and thoughtful explanation. Your last paragraph is hilarious though bleak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:29 AM
12

What is this "frame" business that Pillers are always going on about?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:10 AM
8

What's the appeal of Stoicism and The School of Life videos to them, do you know?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:08 AM
12

Why did he disagree?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 05:56 AM
5

Fantastic! 🩺🔬💉🧬🦠🧫📚👍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 05:43 AM
3

I hope everything is less stressful these days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 05:42 AM
23

OK, so—a question borrowed from The Pursuit of Happiness—what did you do, and how did you do it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 07:59 PM
30

That's because it is. Inhuman and inhumane, really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 07:55 PM
6

Spill the tea!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 07:53 PM
5

You’re welcome. I recommend reading and listening to everything else by Natalie Lue as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 03:50 PM
19

And with your family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 09:14 AM
3

No, it’s not bad. As long as you’re honest and responsible and all your partners consent, it’s fine. Google “relationship anarchy.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 09:06 AM
9

😂👍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 04:29 AM
2

Yup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 04:29 AM
13

Maybe you just don’t want a long-term relationship, at least not right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 02:05 AM
30

Beware the future fakers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 11:54 PM
11

Beware the “connection.” It means nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 11:22 PM
35

This is the problem. They expect this from all of us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 11:14 PM
16

I get it. We all have guilty pleasures. 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 10:48 PM
45

That was a lot of investment on your part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 10:46 PM
6

Message the mods about your flair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 06:19 PM
6

It’s copypasta. My ex used it with every match because he didn’t know how else to break the ice. It means absolutely nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 04:45 AM
2

I noticed that bullshit, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 06:56 PM
5

I hope women from here periodically brigade DoT and invite women in there to FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 06:53 PM
23

That's exactly what happened to me! I left DoT with all their obnoxious, sexist male mods, came here, and never looked back. The lonely dudes who can't get laid and their pickmeishas can have it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 05:45 AM
33

I left r/DatingOverThirty because a mod (male, of course), gave me an obnoxious "warning" for "misandry." Here's what I'd commented: Post-nut clarity = post-nut misogyny I love how being blatant about misogyny equates to "misandry." 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 05:42 AM
1

Why do they look up to this guy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 03:16 AM
18

Because most men are sneaky little cowards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 01:53 AM
57

Perfect answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 01:51 AM
20

Done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 01:39 AM
3

Read the sidebar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 01:38 AM
21

Yeah, no. You don’t need that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 01:32 AM
25

It’s disrespectful. Drop him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 01:32 AM
6

I don’t even bother answering “what are you looking for” anymore. It just means that he is looking for easy sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 01:29 AM
2

That is surprising.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 10:06 PM
6

I’m not whom you’re asking, so sorry to intrude, but it’s been my observation that it’s as close to zero percent as to render the number of men who have done this work essentially meaningless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 09:49 PM
13

But women are generally treated much better there and have more equal rights. So if men want us to split the bill, they have to fight for our equality (and not just pay lip service).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 09:41 PM
3

Read the sidebar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 09:39 PM
2

Read the sidebar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 09:38 PM
4

No one is calling you “stupid” except for maybe you in your own mind. Have compassion for yourself instead. Now that you know better, you’ll do better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 09:21 PM
1

Well done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 09:17 PM
9

I hope you stay. There’s more of a diversity of thought here than one might assume.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 07:36 PM
3

That’s actually a really good way to phrase it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 02:21 PM
2

It’s too bad that you felt you had to quit. 🙁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:50 PM
3

This advice, if it were gender-neutral, would be empowering for anyone. But those who dismiss us would never understand that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:49 PM
1

Thank you! I can’t take full credit, though. I didn’t read the entire book, just the summary. That was all I could stomach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:46 PM
3

She has to have sex with him and bear his child. So totally not worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:45 PM
3

The readers of that sub don’t seem to take it as good advice. There was a lot of pushback in the comments. That’s good, I guess? Although the existence of a “seduction” forum anywhere seems both predatory and pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:23 PM
1

Don’t we all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:20 PM
4

Interesting the pushback he got in the comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:19 PM
3

Yeah, that was scary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:11 PM
4

This show was created, produced, and written by men, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 12:47 PM
1

Hmmm… 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 07:12 AM
3

Interesting take.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 07:11 AM
3

You me first sentence: Ewww!! Everything else about her sounds toxic. How did your SO turn out decent enough for you to want to be with him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 07:06 AM
1

Duly noted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 07:04 AM
2

Have you experienced this type of role-reversal with her in other ways?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 06:47 AM
2

I don’t think there’s anything you can do. Except maybe anonymously send her the URL to this sub?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 06:42 AM
1

🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 06:39 AM
5

Perfect!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 06:39 AM
3

Cringe. Would she consider therapy? Or simply taking a break for a full year?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 06:37 AM
5

Yes. 👍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 06:33 AM
2

Same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 06:33 AM
3

Thank you! Although, to be honest, I don’t know if I can stomach it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 06:16 AM
2

Right. 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 06:06 AM
1

Thank you for this excellent advice! Do you have a link to the video?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 05:51 AM
6

Culture is dead people’s baggage Wow, that is perfect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 05:49 AM
7

Good for you. How did he take it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 05:36 AM
5

🛎🛎🛎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 05:20 AM
12

Abusive, sociopathic men prey upon girls and women in this vulnerable state.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 05:19 AM
10

You don’t actually need to answer why. He doesn’t need a reason or a justification. If he’s interested, he’ll make the trip.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 05:08 AM
7

This is great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 05:02 AM
5

Yup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 04:51 AM
8

Honestly, I kind of feel like they deserve each other. She is not a good person. Pretty on the outside, maybe, but not pretty(and not too bright) otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 04:50 AM
10

They'd rather just complain about us because it's easier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 03:59 AM
4

Leave him on read until he steps up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 03:58 AM
5

Hold up a big wooden cross and a braid of garlic. He'll hiss and slink back into the shadows, now that you're onto him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 03:57 AM
9

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 03:54 AM
25

Sorry, old dude—Melania is already taken. But I'm sure you'll find the pickmeisha of your dreams nonetheless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 03:52 AM
11

🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 03:50 AM
8

The OP's history seems female, so it's a bit confusing. Your second paragraph: Yes, totally. He's a nasty douche.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 03:45 AM
30

Twenty is way too young to think that your life is over. Not even close. It's possible that you broke up with that dream guy simply because you weren't ready for a relationship at the time. You're probably still not. Honestly, it doesn't sounds as though you are. This is fine and normal. This sort of overly dramatic language: it still hurts so bad that I got the death penalty has got to go. You're not doing yourself any favors by thinking that having a boyfriend gives your life meaning. You give…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 03:43 AM
11

One of my favorite gurus blew my mind when she wrote: If you're chasing someone who's emotionally unavailable, it's because you're emotionally unavailable. You might not see it yet, but that's what's going on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 03:23 AM
13

Your life isn't falling apart. You don't see it yet, but your life is just beginning. 2020 will be the best year you've had in a while. Trust me, I've been there. Here's what you do: Allow yourself to mourn and grieve. It's okay to have feelings. Write them down and talk about them to kind, respectful people who support you. Focus on yourself, not on him. Every time you find yourself thinking about him, refocus that attention onto yourself. What are you feeling in that moment? What just happened…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 03:20 AM
6

It could be part of a larger pattern. That only fuckboys "excite" you because you're not fully emotionally available.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 03:10 AM
2

It's almost as though you're pretending to be the app. 😜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 03:08 AM
12

They never make it up to us, do they? They never even try.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 03:04 AM
3

Yeah, you're probably right about the OP (I just checked her history), but JFC. I don't know where she's getting the "broke frame" business from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 03:02 AM
15

If I were a man. I'd be lurking on this place and taking notes. I'm sure many of them are. Your second paragraph: I think some of those PUA "experts" were decent-looking in their youths, learned a few manipulation techniques, and just got lucky. And now they're using those same manipulation tactics on naïve and stupid young men to buy their nonsense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 02:59 AM
23

But I don’t know that I can recover from how badly I broke my frame Are you actually a woman? "Frame" is Red Pill nonsense-type language.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 02:39 AM
2

I've had fantasies of removing it and putting it on someone much better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 02:36 AM
23

They know. They just want it to not be true, so they keep trying to convince themselves of their pseudoscience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 02:35 AM
20

Watch out for them trying to legislate away our rights. It's already happening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 02:33 AM
17

You're right; he's wrong. Women want the whole package: physical attractiveness and having one's act together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 02:33 AM
47

All of these problems stem from the fact that so many men simply don't view us as human.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 02:30 AM
20

They're skipping over the "build rapport with good conversation" part first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 02:28 AM
19

The cooking part is fine. The inviting you to a private space (his home or yours) before you feel comfortable is not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 02:25 AM
12

Thank you! Pro-tip: You can also click "Save" (with the little bookmark icon with a plus sign) to keep any post or comment in your "Saved" list. Access your Saved list in the menu under your username.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 02:24 AM
30

I thought it was going to say, Welp, better treat her like garbage—until she finds the FDS sub-Reddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 02:22 AM
3

The only good thing about my last fuckboy was his penis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 02:21 AM
2

Ah. 👍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 02:20 AM
20

Yes, this. And also, only have sex with people who are decent human beings. I've supported even neighbors in their times of need. It's certainly something a man should do for the woman who's giving him the most intimate part of herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 02:19 AM
2

Even his own grandmother knew he was a douche?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 02:15 AM
2

Don't wait for it. Just do it. (On your timetable.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 02:12 AM
3

Interesting. With regard to your last point, I'm reminded of the aphorism that feminism benefits men, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:53 AM
8

I'm truly honored! 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:48 AM
1

Practice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:47 AM
9

This has never happened to me, but maybe, "Chain restaurants don't appeal to me"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:39 AM
21

🙁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:35 AM
20

Yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:34 AM
31

On your second point: most of us are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:33 AM
2

Same. It usually stems from our childhoods, adolescence, and youth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:30 AM
12

Thank you! I really appreciate this, especially coming from you. 🙏🏻💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:28 AM
5

For the OP, here's a good, quick guide to shadow work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:26 AM
6

Sex, validation, ego, a bulwark against loneliness and boredom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:24 AM
3

🙏🏻💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 12:56 AM
11

Excellent advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 12:47 AM
6

Well done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 12:44 AM
3

I've had this fantasy myself (along with a Dexter-type character who assassinates rapists who aren't incarcerated). The problem is that there are simply too many pickmeishas. In addition, some of us have a sex drive, too—and, unfortunately, we've been cursed with heterosexuality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 12:42 AM
10

Would you consider starting therapy to find out where this comes from and what to do about it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 12:40 AM
3

Yes. Running away from loneliness is the thing that causes the most trouble for us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 12:37 AM
4

Eighteen months is about right. I wonder why it takes that long?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 12:34 AM
2

It's "pick me" (as in "Pick me! Pick me, please!") turned into a female name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 12:32 AM
12

I'm an atheist, but this is hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 12:30 AM
39

This sort of sexist brainwashing happens in every society, although the specificities are unique to each culture. Since you're young and you've already figured this out, you're already well on your way to unlearning this nonsense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 12:28 AM
17

If you're not comfortable with potentially being pressured ("seduced") for sex, don't go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 12:14 AM
30

They call it "boasting" and "locker room talk."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 12:12 AM
6

Good for you. Same. 👍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 04:42 PM
1

I was similarly awestruck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:41 PM
2

I don’t even need to be hanging around with a friend in the laundromat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 05:36 AM
1

He didn’t do well with it. 😄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 05:26 AM
1

See my comment below.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 05:20 AM
14

When I was twenty, one guy’s idea of a “date” was taking me to the laundromat to watch him fold his underwear. He pressured me for sex later that evening. I declined and ignored him after that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 05:19 AM
4

Good luck. Keep us posted!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:43 AM
5

What’s an errand date?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:40 AM
5

That’s a good idea. The first woman doesn’t understand the logic or simply disagrees. The pickmeisha sounds insecure. You don’t need those two.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:39 AM
5

Can you take a break from the entire group for a few months?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:25 AM
1

Why?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:22 AM
10

Then why waste your time at all?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:09 AM
14

Yes. How do you respond?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 02:13 AM
11

Personally, I think it’s fine to schedule a short prescreen meeting, whether it’s a phone conversation or a coffee meeting. That way you don’t waste too much time. Think of it as Date Zero. If you like each other, then he better bring it to the first real date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 11:39 PM
7

Men who “spin plates” = keeping multiple female FWBs, often who each think they’re the only one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 10:54 PM
83

“So…what are you looking for?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 10:45 PM
3

Good idea. Also direct them to Natalie Lue and ImDatFeminist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 09:11 PM
2

😅👍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 09:08 PM
8

I understood every word of what you wrote. I have no answers, other than to advise you to have compassion for yourself. These sociopaths no longer hold any power over you. You’re free of them if you decide that you’re free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 07:44 PM
3

Your last line: 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 07:27 PM
3

Excellent advice. OP can give her “friends” the URL for this sub, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 07:24 PM
3

This comment is so good that I saved it for future reference. 🏆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 07:13 PM
14

LVM have converted my HVW friends into LVW by parasitic extension. I’m impressed with this apt and astute phrasing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 07:08 PM
10

👆🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 07:04 PM
3

👆🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 06:17 PM
6

As soon as you can let go of this desire, you’ll be free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 06:17 PM
14

Or find a good (non-man) hobby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 06:09 PM
1

Very good. 👍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 06:07 PM
11

Unfortunately avoidants are overrepresented in the dating pool because they’re always cycling through new (so-called) “relationships.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 05:51 PM
6

And racist and ageist, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 07:34 AM
3

Read her books as well. They’re very affordable. And read her most popular blog posts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 07:24 AM
3

Ah, that makes sense. And I totally agree with your second point. The manosphere is basically a cult of misogynistic abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 07:24 AM
11

It means that he is looking for easy sex. Unmatch immediately upon this question without explanation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 07:22 AM
10

Read and listen to everything by Natalie Lue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 07:12 AM
1

It’s basically the immature dude’s version of FDS. But if players can accomplish what these “studied” PUA edgelords can without even trying so hard, then why would that be “inferior”?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 07:00 AM
34

😂 OMG, what a pathetic jackass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 06:33 AM
2

We’re here for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 06:32 AM
3

It seems that players use PUA techniques without necessarily realizing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 06:32 AM
11

I know, right? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 06:05 AM
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