Daily reminder that low value men are perfectly capable of putting you on cloud 9 only to let you drop back down to Earth into a garbage can the minute he thinks he’s got your guard down.
All LVM in disguise will make you feel good and put you on a pedestal in the beginning usually by lovebombing and mirroring what he imagined a woman of your nature (high standards/no bullshit) would want to hear and see to make you feel safe. This may include taking you on nice dates, future faking and even introducing you to his close ones. They will adjust their temperament and act according to the female in front of them.
How he games a desperate people-pleasing naive Pickmeisha will unlikely be identical to how he games you- someone easily unimpressed with high self value and a strong nose for smelling Male bullshit. Men know certain women are less privy to predictable cocky behaviour they’ve seen a 100 x before so they’ll act like a high value respectful mature man to stand out and throw the scent off. Keep this in mind!
They will give you lots of compliments, fake interests, maybe sell you a sob story to make themselves look good, they might even take you on nice dates, do nice gestures and talk about a future with you. They may initially make you FEEL very hopeful about it all - but don’t base your decisions just off this alone- because feelings can be very fleeting. Don’t run off the cliff and give it your all till you know he’s coming through with the parachute first.
Men primarily manipulate women through their thoughts, emotions and FEELINGS which can often be temporary and wear off fast. This is why we shouldn’t make permanent decisions off them alone- bad eggs are perfectly capable of making us FEEL good- it’s their intention since we’d tell them bye if they kept the mask off. Once this wears off, the manipulator can soon reveal himself and then you’ve attached strong feelings to someone who isn’t actually who they claimed they are deep down and isn’t after what they said they were. That’s when you’re likely to chase after an LVM who is trash inside and doesn’t even have respect or feelings for you or even any of the qualities that initially attracted you to him and made you fall for him in the first place. LVM are skilled at ARTIFICIALLY inflating their value to reel women out of their league in - but as the prize you shouldn’t be giving the real thing to a cheap manipulative fraud.
Please remember you’re not actually chasing after the man you thought he was- it was just an illusion to get what he wants. You’re literally chasing a man he is not- just an idealisation that hasn’t come to fruition - so he’s not even worth the energy to chase. This is exactly why they do it: to gain control and give their ego’s a boost. To get higher value women chasing after THEM (artificially) because they’re used to being REJECTED by them (hence why they are entitled, insecure and revengeful- they’re devoid of resilience , accountability and self reflection). If you continue chasing the carrot - you’re never going to get it- it’s a hologram: it’s FAKE! Abort mission! Remember LVM are often in dire need of attention we’re already accustomed and can get easy access to. They attract you to their pretty gentle outer shell and quickly shed it off like a snakeskin once they get you too comfortable. Once they think you’re too emotionally invested to see through his bullshit or call it out.
And believe you me, if he’s risking hurting your relationship by displaying rude behaviour, sending mixed signals or making you feel conflicted or have 2nd doubts before the trial period’s even over yet- his intentions can’t be that longterm or sincere🤔 no matter what he SAYS to make you think otherwise or what he has managed to make you FEEL so far. Ignore his gaslighting tomfoolery- you know what’s up and you’re instincts are indeed correct. And if you’ve been feeling super single of late, you are way more at risk of getting too enthused, flooding yourself with feelings fast or trying to fit a clown into the missing puzzle piece.
Instead focus on his character consistency and his behaviour patterns over time. This is the logical approach with no feels blurring your judgement. As females we have to take the feelings out to analyse at times. He may make you FEEL desired or FEEL loved or safe, he may SAY he wants to get serious or SAY he doesn’t agree with the way his friends behave.....but does his lip service match up to his character consistency and behaviour patterns? Does it make sense?
Does this match up with him frequently ignoring your texts, hiding his phone when app notifications come through and laughing at you when you bring it up? Does this match up to him playing hot and cold? Does his supposed substance and maturity match up to the dumb shit he laughs at? If not sis, he’s probably selling you lies.
Any guy can put on the gentleman act- and in the presence of high value women- most of them will regardless how empty, low value and underserving they’re inside. Most of them are willing to jump through a few extra hoops just for the satisfaction of conquering a challenge and getting the ego boost (so they feel confident to approach more).
Sometimes they get bored of needy pick me’s blowing up their phone and want to step their games up and will approach someone more difficult to manipulate- someone assertive with a lot of options. Sometimes they might keep someone with substance around for convenience cos they need a free therapist sis. It’s like unlocking a difficultly level on a game to them- something to brag about😳.
They’re aware high value women are getting harder to access and string along for casual sex- please keep this in mind when you start to feel confused or psychoanalyse him (red flag he’s game playing and low value). Current field report is: these fake HVM are getting shiftier and trying harder for longer as a response. They know you’re gonna cut them off and they can’t get another fast- so they’ll try breadcrumb you. Keep up some high value behaviours to throw the scent off. They might very well even like you somewhat and be trying to keep you as a background wife placeholder whilst they extend their Peter Pan saga some more or they’re using you as an ongoing ego stroke whilst they’re down in the dumps. Either way- it’s parasitic and you should remove this tick from your energy stream. It’ll only drain you.
LVM are rarely able to keep the gentleman act up long without exposing inconsistencies and character flaws along the way- so make sure you evaluate his character and patterns in entirety for the course of the relationship- don’t just fall for the highlight reel which was designed to draw you in and show you what you want to see- even if the films a hard flop. Read inbetween the lines first- you might just see some fatal errors you overlooked- you might just see his mask slip or some things that don’t quite add up. High value behaviour and hopeful promises alongside sketchy push/pull avoidant behaviour...does not a promising relationship make.
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Yep a lot of bitter late bloomers become NPD or BPD too. Lots of entitlement , revengefulness and resentment towards women. Lack of self reflection, humility and self improvement - so they’ll act ‘woke’ & respectful to women as a shortcut instead. Most fuckboys are butthurt man children /mommys boys deep down that got rejected a few times or don’t feel man enough somewhere. I see through their veneer of confidence very fast now.
I 100% agree- if you start to ruminate going back and forth and ask family /friends for a 2nd opinion too much- it’s time to let go isn’t it? Been there a few times myself - hmmm if he was so good for me why am I so unsure? Why am I asking myself these questions so much? Why am I asking other people? Clearly I’m not convinced? Time to rip the band aid off b4 I get too invested and slip down the blackhole😳.
You always get that creeping anxious overwhelmed feeling that you don’t feel secure- a sense of risk /danger. And then you ask- is he even all that to be feeling like this tho? And you get your answer 🤣 NO- you start clocking up the inconsistencies and come to your conclusion. And they have deliberately cultivated that feeling in you- because inside they’re insecure & want you to feel that too. They want you to feel unsafe. It’s projection.
They’re so scared of intimacy /being vulnerable or mature they have to have control & so they use dirty tricks to get the upper hand & keep emotional distance. That’s never how HVM make you feel- it always feels very stable and sure. You’re not sat there psychoanalysing a guy who truly loves and cares for you- because you’re already convinced and want to be there.
And this goes for when you fall out of love or he changes too- you’ll start pyschoanalysing too much asking your friends for opinions on what to do and something inside you know it’s time to GO. Ive been ready to leave b4 today off my gut instinct alone and found out they’ve been cheating soon b4 I dumped them (clearly doing it out of insecurity lol). So it just goes to show how much that gut instinct rings true! Psychoanalysing too much = time to let go!
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