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MESSAGE FOR MALE LURKERSsweatydeath/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 05:58 PM
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NICE FOR WHAT?sweatydeath/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/19 08:10 PM
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NICE FOR WHAT?sweatydeath/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 11:04 PM
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MESSAGE FROM MODERATORSsweatydeath/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 07:42 PM
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DUMP HIS ASSsweatydeath/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 12:36 AM
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REMINDER 👑sweatydeath/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 03:08 AM
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LIES MEN TELLsweatydeath/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 06:04 PM
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STRATEGYsweatydeath/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 07:34 PM
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NAH, SISsweatydeath/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:57 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFEsweatydeath/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 07:47 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYsweatydeath/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 05:29 AM
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FDS RESCUE MISSIONsweatydeath/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 07:40 PM
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FIELD REPORT sweatydeath/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 06:55 AM
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PICKMEISHA HALL OF SHAMEsweatydeath/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 06:26 PM
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DISCUSSIONsweatydeath/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/19 04:37 PM
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sweatydeath/r/RedPillWomen24/05/15 01:39 PM
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SCROTES MADsweatydeath/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 04:58 AM
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DUMP HIS ASSsweatydeath/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/19 07:34 PM
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I think the cover looks amazing. I wouldn’t of thought of it myself - it goes well with the rest of the content 👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 05:44 PM
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Nailed it👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 05:35 PM
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That was such a queen move
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 05:33 PM
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FYI — on page 38 it says the author was TheOGJammies but that article was written by me (sweatydeath) I think you’ve done an awesome job. Really appreciate your hard work ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 05:24 PM
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I have no patience for males like this. Throwing them back into the dating pool is the BEST revenge. You deserve better. Next!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 05:46 AM
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Same here. That's exactly how they want you to feel - they first want you to be insecure and then settle. Never again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 05:42 AM
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You are absolutely correct. A quality man wouldn’t want to hide you in the first place. It’s all or nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 04:19 AM
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Love this ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 03:15 AM
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In the menu section of the sub
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 05:22 PM
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Please be respectful of other Muslim women in our sub
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 02:03 PM
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Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 01:55 PM
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Can I just say that this comment is super accurate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 09:23 PM
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Honestly, you made the right choice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 04:21 AM
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My guess is that they’re insecure since they don’t fulfill their version of a masculine male. Men likely resort to this behavior in order to regain some sense of masculinity. It’s like a silent cry for help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 09:50 PM
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They do and it’s sad because most college guys were horrible in bed. I honestly think most of them lied about their sexual history to make it seem like they were a bigger deal in bed than they actually were. college guys are clueless when it comes to the opposite sex and most don’t know the difference between a fake vs real orgasm. Mechanical cum juicer made me LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 06:49 AM
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100% positive that by “girlfriends” he meant his hand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 04:22 AM
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It’s a spoiler for those that intend to watch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 04:19 AM
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Don’t “hook up” until commitment is established. Call it a loss and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 02:17 AM
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Done
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 02:06 AM
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“This sub is so sexist” - random LVM on Reddit 🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 11:27 PM
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No repeat posts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 10:14 PM
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That guy is a turd
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 09:56 PM
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That was a long essay on how we should cut men some slack BUT all advice must focus on maximum female benefit here. BYEEEEE😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 09:49 PM
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Lol bye loser
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 09:41 PM
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Shut up male sympathizer, this sub is not for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 09:40 PM
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I’d block him and his friends - even if these friends were on good terms with you. Have a family member tell them you are sick or depressed. Lay low for a few months and cut off all ties with everyone. If it’s possible to stay at a cousins house a lot then do it. It’s very unfair, I know, but this is about your safety. deactivating/deleting social media will help. Are you in the US? If so, there is are various hotlines you can go to. Don’t be surprised if thugs will try to spread rumors about yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 08:04 PM
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Omg I didn’t catch that one but it’s SO true. The number of quality matches increased exponentially for me when using paid sites.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 03:55 PM
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Removed for promoting violence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 05:38 AM
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Happy Friday! Welcome to the sub <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 04:29 AM
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Ugh, I detest that garbage. I had a similar yet different situation happen when my male coworkers claimed that a work trip would give them time away from the old ball and chain. One guy said “but I actually like my wife” ... the rest remained in some awkward silence like they didn’t know what a happy marriage was 😏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 03:38 AM
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🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 02:57 AM
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She accepted a last minute date. I’ve done that and had to learn the hard way. It’s the beginning of a low-effort romance 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 02:49 AM
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That’s a hell no from me sis. My BF is European and he would not be okay with that either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 02:39 AM
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No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 04:30 PM
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I wouldn't bother replying to that bait thread
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 02:30 PM
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Removed for violating Rule #10 - No Derailing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 05:15 AM
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That took a turn 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 06:13 AM
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This 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 10:47 PM
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🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 06:41 PM
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Flair upgraded
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 04:30 PM
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Yeah my BF is Ukrainian and he spoils me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 12:51 AM
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He’s made speeches at my universities, and I’ve definitely gotten that sweet talker vibe from him. Not going to lie, his accent adds to his overall charm. I mean that still doesn’t excuse his actions since he was a married man though! I feel bad for his wife
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 12:30 AM
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Definitely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 09:15 PM
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If you're male and have a question, please post on r/AskFDS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 07:29 AM
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I feel so humbled reading their twitter bio’s and seeing the number of degrees our girls have 🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/20 08:46 PM
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Wait he’s a pedo?? I didn’t know that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 04:54 PM
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Banned for attacking other subbies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 04:59 AM
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Definitely. No one is safe from male depravity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 03:52 PM
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What the fuck is wrong with people. Why the hell should she feel at fault? This is so awful and wrong. I hope she has the support she needs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 02:11 AM
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Post removed for violating the following rule: No Derailing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 07:42 PM
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It happens, Auto Mod isn’t perfect
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 06:43 AM
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Wee little scrote, please read the rules on the sidebar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 06:41 AM
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Thanks for editing your comment, it was coming off as standard shaming
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 06:19 AM
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Sounds like he’s single!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 04:29 AM
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That’s also a dealbreaker for me. Don’t let anyone tell you it’s because you’re jealous - it’s about respect. You should never feel second best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 04:29 AM
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HPV, for example, does not have negative side effects in men (unless it’s the kind that causes warts which is extremely rare - I’m referring to the other strain of the virus). Men can be carriers but there is no way to test whether they have it for sure - there’s no need for it since they don’t experience discomfort. If a woman contracts HPV on the other hand, then she may get cervical cancer. There are vaccines available against HPV, but they still don’t guarantee that a woman will not contract…
/r/askFDS02/07/20 04:11 PM
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I did the six month one because it’s cheaper in the long run. It’s like a job in that you get better and better as you go on more dates/meet people. Like interviews!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 10:48 PM
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She looks like a queen 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 10:26 PM
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Yup you have to pay. Okcupid is not as good as match. Match is better at filtering out the crazies and low effort dudes. You will encounter some on there but significantly less than other sites. I met my BF on there. Two of my coworkers met their wives on there too (and they’re happy).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 10:22 PM
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Lmfao 🤣😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 10:00 PM
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I did that after you suggested it haha thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 08:11 PM
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I did
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 09:34 AM
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Males after they’re rejected: “ThIs Is A hAtE CrImE!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 02:10 AM
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Low value males on reddit: “we work the same position and she’s ALMOST paid as much as me, but not quite. I guess we are equals now and she should pursue me.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 02:04 AM
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Unfortunately for him I blocked him after that call lmao Savage and ruthless... just the way I like it!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 10:34 PM
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Hi thanks for bringing this up. We do not support transphobic comments and I will search the history to delete the posts/comments you mentioned. If you could also report the comments I can do this faster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 09:06 PM
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He thinks Reddit is really dumb and full of pedophiles and rape apologists at this point. When I told him about the unfair bans he said "see this is why I never used Reddit" LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 08:48 PM
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My BF didn’t know what reddit was until he met me 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 04:39 PM
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I'm approving your comment because this is wholesome. I'm sorry you had to go through that, but just know that we are glad to have helped you out during difficult times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 07:13 AM
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that's not in our ideology at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 05:27 AM
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False
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 05:26 AM
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#3 all the way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 04:56 AM
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Slow 👏fu**ing👏clap👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 04:12 AM
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If you’re a male, please submit your question to r/AskFDS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 06:06 AM
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I wish I could upvote this twice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 04:40 AM
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I laughed so hard that tears came into my eyes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 03:20 AM
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Women are the selective gender because they have the most to lose in any type of male-female relationship. Even in a FWB arrangement, she still loses because STD’s have more negative affects toward women. Men can act as conduits for disease and show no side effects. A woman shouldn’t be doing all the work in a relationship, especially if this man is trying to keep his genes in the gene pool (aka have kids). Centuries of female oppression have also occurred and no reparations have been made on be…
/r/askFDS27/06/20 02:23 AM
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Wtf dude. I’m losing hope in humanity lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 05:28 AM
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Please resubmit with the username blurred out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 11:16 PM
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This is literally the worst type of racism - it’s engrained in him. He doesn’t flinch saying this garbage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 09:52 PM
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He’s disgusting and too stupid to realize that there’s racism rotting in the recesses of his subconscious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 06:54 AM
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He can lurk but he can't post/comment since he's a man. Welcome!! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 03:51 PM
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Pick-me-sha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 03:44 PM
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Welcome!! u/modernmedusaa hope her username doesn't cause confusion lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 10:52 PM
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Lmao sick burn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 04:21 PM
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That’s not really healthy. My boyfriend tries to get me to hang out with him 24/7 like that but I can only do 3-4 times a week before I miss my hobbies and friends. Also I have a roommate so I don’t want her to feel like he is here ALL the time. I definitely don’t hang out with my boyfriend’s friends unless it’s a group thing but I don’t even have their number (nor do I want it)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 04:32 PM
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Thanks so much for sharing this. I also shared this link to r/BanFemaleHateSubs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 03:48 AM
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Congratulations ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 03:48 AM
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I recommend reading Ignore the Guy, Get the Guy: The Art of No Contact Despite the misleading title, the purpose is not to win back a former flame. It’s to learn not to blame yourself and heal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 06:12 PM
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Exactly. This is great advice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 04:23 PM
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Flowers, a nice card, or an inexpensive pair of earrings (or similar). I've heard of girls getting super expensive yet thoughtless gifts like laptops.... but it's just so unromantic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 04:20 PM
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I actually never liked super tall guys because they can look down a girl’s shirt pretty easily haha. Doesn’t mean they will but if they really wanted to, a v neck could be revealing 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/20 08:11 AM
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5’8” (since I’m 5’4”)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/20 08:08 AM
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It sounds like he assumed you’re only dating him even though he is not doing the same. Instead of communicating that verbally, he is trying show you that he can do whatever he wants without needing to offer an explanation. Technically he is correct since you’re not exclusive, but that’s still bad dating etiquette. Typically men that are not used to multi-dating and obtaining female attention resort to these methods. More seasoned daters do not need to post pics of them hanging out with girls - t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/20 08:50 PM
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TRP strategies only attract the type of women that enjoy being degraded. This is the end goal for a TRP man - having a girl that will respond to negging, and insults with her subservience. Then when she snaps and leaves they resort to calling her a whore lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/20 03:48 PM
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Really because he lost me at the first sentence 🤣 Having orbiters is not strategic and can actually hinder a woman from spending time with the right guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/20 07:39 AM
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Communicating feelings clearly in the early stages of dating can be too much for the other person. If a woman communicates that she feels strongly for a man, this man may assume she wants a relationship with him. Even if she didn’t mean it that way, the chances of him assuming this is very high. This can scare off someone who just started dating her. Keeping multiple options open pushes suitors to be more competitive. Ideally a woman shouldn’t have to communicate that she is dating others, but h…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/20 07:38 AM
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Chads always breathe in our direction - that isn’t a compliment it’s just what happens when you treat them like they don’t exist
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/20 06:54 AM
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I had a guy give me bacon instead of flowers because he thought I would like the bacon better (he literally said that). He's still single. I am HOPING the lingerie guy in your story is still single too. That's so gross!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 02:52 AM
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I was basically following FDS for a few months since I read All The Rules before coming across this sub. I joined this sub and integrated strategies laid out in Why Men Love Bitches, which complimented what I was already doing before. The result? I didn't get used by men because I made it clear I had no desire to change for them. I am currently in a 9-month relationship with a man that respects and adores me. I don't have to worry about him checking out girls/hiring cam girls/following instagram…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 02:17 AM
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Kids = “want someday” GOOD LUCK WITH THAT BOBBY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 11:42 PM
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L M A O🤣🤣😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 11:26 PM
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Same here. I definitely got boob greed after surgery. I couldn't believe it was so quick too! I might consider it again after I have kids since I purchased insurance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 10:45 PM
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It definitely is FDS-approved, as long you're doing it for yourself <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 10:42 PM
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I had a breast augmentation 10 months ago and I don't regret it one bit. Contrary to popular belief I did it for myself - I was just not satisfied. Men never complained about my boobs ... my BF even tried to talk me out of it when I shared my plans (he realized very quickly that I wasn't budging). Men usually think of Pam Anderson boobs when you discuss breast augmentation, but doctors have a substantial amount of research now to make them look more natural and appealing. Do you view it as level…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 10:41 PM
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They will use any excuse to reduce us to objects, but if you use an analogy they don't like then they attack us. Some men experience anger when asked to exercise their critical thinking skills, because they don't understand any sexist-based stress (obviously sexism doesn't affect them as much). I literally feel like my IQ drops each second I converse with turds like these.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 09:28 PM
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HVM have the intellect, patience, and tolerance to engage in conversation that broadens their world view. It's what makes them sexy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 09:22 PM
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Saving this just in case a scrote tries to use the lock and key analogy again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 09:21 PM
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This seems like a post that's more suitable for r/AskFDS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 08:48 PM
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This is definitely a red flag and an intro to his abusive behavior. If he’s not respecting you enough to understand that you are not OK doing certain things, then he should not be a sexual partner. He shouldn’t even be an acquaintance. He knows what he did. He just wants you to tell him so he can argue his way into making you think it was okay. L E A V E
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 04:11 PM
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Would you? I think it would make an interesting read
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 01:43 AM
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It was VERY cringe worthy. The worst part is she lied to his ex-wife and said that his last words were "tell Georgia I love her". Barf!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 09:57 PM
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God that sounds so annoying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 06:28 AM
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Me too haha. I didn’t really understand the humor at first but it totally grew on me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 03:44 AM
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The carrot on the stick 🤣 Only the lowest of low value males resort to these tactics!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 11:14 PM
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Thank you for joining 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 07:15 PM
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Further proof that being too nice will inflate a man’s sense of self-worth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 07:04 PM
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My boyfriend knows I am a mod of FDS. He doesn’t care. He agrees with our ideology - that a woman should carefully vet a man before committing to him or sleeping with him. He even laughed when he read the “big dick energy” post on here. Apparently it’s super accurate in explaining male behaviors. It’s unsurprising that my guy doesn’t have a fragile sense of masculinity. Low-quality men are the type to scoff at FDS methods.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 05:59 PM
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Cancel the date. It’s easier to find someone that already has good habits than to stay with a man that needs to change. The latter will lead to disappointment and wasted years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 05:55 PM
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We are here for you ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 03:36 PM
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It’s infuriating now, but getting a lot of dating practice in will make you better at weeding out these men early on. I waded through a sea of duds for months before I was consistently taken out on quality dates. Taking dating seriously puts you in a vulnerable position - view dating men as an excuse to look cute. You will feel less bad for cutting them off at the first sign of laziness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 12:46 AM
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LMFAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:53 PM
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Hard pass on account of his poor communication. If this is how bad he is at just setting up a date, imagine what the sex would be like?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 08:39 PM
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I’m so glad his loser self got rejected. Why on earth should a woman just accept a marriage proposal from someone that’s boning multiple women at once and spitting on them during sex?? He deserves all the rejections. “Can I text you if it doesn’t work out?” 🤣😂 I always LOL when males over-value themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 01:54 PM
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Thank you <3 This entire sub is really helping me too, especially during quarantine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 06:26 AM
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That took a turn!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 05:12 AM
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I love this haha well said and done ✅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 04:19 PM
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💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 03:32 PM
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I totally understand. I hope you can get past losing a friend like this but he sounds like a different person than he was before. Men can be really manipulative with a woman’s history even when they are not romantically involved. Even him telling her about it is so wrong. This is how you know he’s no longer the same person anymore. Would he have said that to a girl years ago? No. Thankfully, he’s his GF’s problem and not yours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 05:10 PM
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He helps me clean and orders us dinner 2-3 times a week. I’m the one playing the video games - he enjoys watching me play Skyrim: Elder Scrolls V (it’s been a great way to pass quarantine). He knows I’ve been having a hard time taking a break from Muay Thai (before quarantine I was going 4 times a week), so he holds the Thai pads for me. I get to practice kicking and punching! It’s awesome because I could still train an hour or so at a time and keep practicing even during this lockdown. He says …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 05:03 PM
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Dump him ASAP This post might interest you: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/d1hnk5/men_only_stay_interested_in_emotionally/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 02:03 PM
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That is so unbelievably sad.... what's sadder is that the loser guy and girl think they are happy and winning in this scenario. Anyone that talks about their partner with such disrespect is obviously not in love. I wouldn't doubt that he was either peering over her shoulder proofreading mean texts before sending them to you or he sent them to you himself. That or she is a delusional pickmeisha. THEY are the ones that sound insane. NOT you. Keep healing sister. Their relationship (relationSHIT re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 01:56 PM
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I’m sorry 🥺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 04:34 PM
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This is really true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 04:08 PM
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Do they honestly truly believe that college aged girls are more than happy to be a therapist/side piece/emotional support pussy for absolutely nothing in return??? Yes. The delusion is real. They think a young gullible girl will overlook the lack of value he provides to her life because "HiS DiCk Is So GoOd" And these are the same ones running around on the internet swearing up and down that young girls are naturally attracted to older men/love them and that it's ok to prey on them bc BioLOgy, g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 03:23 PM
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Sadly, not many LVMs are capable of that level introspection - it takes a big life experience for some to change this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 03:02 PM
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This was literally my fear when my nephews were toddlers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 11:23 PM
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🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 11:21 PM
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You perhaps?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 10:17 PM
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Thanks they’ve been banned
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 07:35 PM
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please remove his first and last name then resubmit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 06:45 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/edit/glossaryofterms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 05:33 PM
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First of all I totally have been there with a guy friend. It sounds like you enjoy his masculine companionship above all things - it doesn't sound like you have strong feelings for him. Missing him is normal but that doesn't mean you should brush other things under the rug. Do you follow him on any social media whatsoever? I wouldn't reach out to him via phone (even if he contacted last). I would do something more subtle and impersonal such as liking one of his FB or Instagram posts. I would onl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 04:29 PM
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Same here - I’m attracted to how men treat me and their values are important
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 05:02 PM
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Yeah so I’m American and I can totally relate to your sentiment toward American males. I actually think their entitlement is particularly unique compared to other males.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 10:16 PM
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No promoting violence allowed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 02:13 PM
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This isn't the case. Average guys literally cant afford to be assholes. Most are as nice as possible, spend their entire lives trying to be worthy of a woman, provide for a woman their whole lives, put themselves last after everything. I choked on my morning coffee reading this word vomit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 03:38 PM
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No promoting violence allowed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 01:39 AM
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I think the LVM posts are helpful to some recovering pickmeishas - it reminds them to know their worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 07:50 PM
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Just skip the posts you don't want to read. The flairs help with sorting through posts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 07:47 PM
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Your life sounds sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 04:14 PM
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That's horrible! I am sorry you went through that. Glad to hear you divorced him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 03:20 AM
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I have no idea why a woman would agree to such a thing! Men are dirtier on average. Why isn't he the one visiting her? Also, if she moves in with him he has a 100% hold on her - not a good plan.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 09:15 PM
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IDK where this recent phenomenon about OLD only being used by LVMs started? I can understand why some women prefer to meet organically, but I still think you can find a HVM via OLD (as long as you are practicing FDS). The paid dating sites have a higher quality of male on there. That being said, the number of absolute garbage messages from LVMs received on the free apps was just astounding. I never heard of Whisper, but 1 month of having Tinder sounds in line with your experience LOL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 09:12 PM
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I make my BF load his in the dishwasher. You are a very nice partner haha 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 05:24 PM
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That explains why they usually ditch their starter wife once they achieve said greatness. They want someone who has only ever seen them at their peak of success
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 05:21 PM
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That is disgusting. Yet another good reason to vet your partners before engaging in anything long term with them. I guarantee that there were probably signs that he was an abuser before (albeit small clues)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 05:17 PM
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He’s going to read one line and respond to that ONE line. In reality he won’t read anything else. “I’m not entertaining him” ....Um, well she’s still giving him female attention so that’s a win in his book
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 05:15 PM
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Read the FDS Handbook before posting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 06:56 PM
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LMAO at him thinking he’s the selective sex. 😂 “I am interested in 3 others girls” = “the only other girl I’m dating is my hand (if that counts)” That’s what he really meant 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 10:00 PM
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P R E A C H
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 01:51 PM
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lol I love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 12:49 PM
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I am SO glad you didn't reply to him - I hope you never will! Bad karma will definitely do a number on this turd. He sounds manipulative even in his apology email.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 06:05 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/edit/glossaryofterms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 05:03 PM
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I would keep it ambiguous. Something like "at the moment I am not sure if I want to be in a serious relationship." This will make him wonder what you DO want - if he wants you only for sex then trust me he will slip up and show his true colors early on in the dating process. You end up saving loads of time, because he will be thrown off by the fact that you're not jumping for commitment. A good man will still linger and try to figure you out and will eventually try to get you to change your mind…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 04:41 PM
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Men will spew out nonsense regarding their future plans until they are blue in the face - all because they want to string you along. Unless he has concrete evidence that he has leveled up, then don't waste your time on projects like these. They are parasites that will literally suck you dry of resources. A REAL man would shutup and just provide for his lady.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 04:34 PM
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I tried it for a total of 2 days last year. The dudes on there are HORRIBLE at maintaining a conversation. Glad to hear you spent less time than I did on there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 03:17 AM
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Bumble is a haven for low-effort men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 02:38 AM
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Their mommies told them they’re awesome and they legit inhaled compliments ever since
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 02:38 AM
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Don’t text first. I never texted first with men and it did wonders at weeding out the low-value males. I did this from the start with my current bf and he always reaches out to this day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 02:36 AM
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Oh god I was seriously rolling my eyes so hard - this guy probably thinks he’s so enlightened. NEWS FLASH just because you did a ton of hallucinogenic drugs in college doesn’t make you more “woke”. It just means you’re experiencing afterglow 🤪😝
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 08:29 PM
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you worded this so well! I used to waste my time making excuses to text men (all in vain) - they never learned. I wish this sub existed back then and I would have skipped that garbage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 08:25 PM
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Male validation. Lmao not worth it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 11:24 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/glossaryofterms?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 04:54 AM
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Removed for violating Rule #2 - All Advice Should Focus On Maximum Female Benefit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 10:21 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/glossaryofterms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 10:04 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/glossaryofterms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 10:04 PM
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Owie 🤕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 04:51 AM
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💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 03:36 AM
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Thank you. At least we have a consensus that her husband was an asshole for doing that to her and ruining her marriage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 03:31 AM
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Lmao that’s part of the handbook We are against dating married men. You’re projecting and bringing all these issues in
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 03:26 AM
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Yeah that was so long but all I have to tell you is you didn’t deserve that. You keep trying to blame yourself but the point is: your ex husband was the turd. Let’s not bring other women down in this sub. Save your disdain for the person that willingly ruined your marriage, which is your ex. I’m not condoning her choice of work, but I’m also not glossing over the fact that your ex was an ass Please read the handbook before posting. I get that you are going through something hard but that isn’t a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 03:16 AM
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Ok Pickmeisha (reflaired). Be mad at your man, but don’t waste your breath insulting other women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 02:34 AM
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Removed for violation of Rule #4 - No Standard Shaming
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 01:36 AM
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Literally would have unmatched and uninstalled the app at this point. N O P E
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 01:14 AM
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Lmfao flair updated
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 08:28 PM
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It’s such bad dating etiquette to tell your date that you are also dating others. Unless they ask there’s no good reason to share. I agree it sounds like he wanted you to compete for him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 07:41 PM
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THANK YOU
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 08:31 PM
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The few long-term guy friends I’ve had are also gay. That being said, I had to cut off one gay friend for sexually assaulting another one of my gay friends. He fed him drinks all night and took him home under the ruse of getting him back safely. It was so messed up, because he was bragging about hooking up with his victim the next day. The victim couldn’t even look at himself in the mirror for months. There are so many depraved males around us - they’re just wolves in sheep’s clothing. The preda…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 06:01 PM
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He was trying to say the quality of sperm didn’t decrease compared to women’s eggs. The moron. You are very welcome 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 05:43 PM
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ROFL you made my day with the car crash analogy but this one takes the cake
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 06:33 AM
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You can only see the deleted comments if you are a moderator. They’re either really funny or really gross so it’s a double edged sword ⚔️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 06:27 AM
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Forgot to add: his beard kinda looks like pubes 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 06:14 AM
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You’re good at reading people 🤣😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 06:13 AM
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He looks and sounds single as fu** FDS is soooo against chasing men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 06:12 AM
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Saaaame omg. Except for me it was 21-25. Goodbye clown years 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 05:36 AM
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Ugh, my Grandfather would complain to my mom that the man must served first. Apparently it was tradition in Mexico too. I’m so glad my mom didn’t take his shit 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 05:14 AM
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No scrotes in here!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 05:11 AM
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I need that on a shirt 👚
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 05:09 AM
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This is a great example 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 05:06 AM
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I agree with literally everything in your post BUT I don’t want to flat out say having a (monogamous) lover is bad. The reason: I’ve never been married and divorced. Sometimes men fall in love with a woman and become monogamous for her, but she isn’t ready yet. She has strong feelings for him but may not want to head back to the altar just yet. Regardless, if either one is still having multiple partners then it’s NOT worth it for the woman. I wish there were more divorcees to chime in on this! T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 04:40 AM
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Get the fu** out, male. You’re not welcome here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 02:15 AM
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I totally believe that. The absolute worst part for the males I mentioned: these guys went to prestigious colleges with majors in the STEM fields. They’re now engineers and scientists working for national defense. Further proof that money and education don’t stop males from being garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 02:09 AM
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I really had to rethink male friendships and subsequently drop them after discussing what constituted rape. I was super disgusted to know that some men think it's appropriate to do accidental anal or have sex with someone while sleeping. NOT ok. I never viewed these men the same again. I'm done with this rape culture and porn is making it worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 10:00 PM
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LOL at them failing to read the FDS ideology. They're not used to so many words in a single sentence. Poor little scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 09:17 PM
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Removed for violating Rule #3 - No Excessive Male Sympathizing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 09:13 PM
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Removed for violating Rule #3 - No Excessive Male Sympathizing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 08:56 PM
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Yup. They waste money on things like eating out instead of cooking for themselves, but when a girl comes along all of a sudden they start penny pinching.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 04:28 PM
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Have you considered dating men outside of your culture? I had to because I was seeing similar behaviors with the men in mine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 01:53 PM
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This is so accurate. The one time me and my BF got into a misunderstanding he didn’t try to gaslight me into making me second guess myself. He let me have some space (although he preferred to be with me), accepted the fact that he made a mistake, and apologized. You can really tell what a man thinks of you when he makes a mistake and how he handles it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 01:45 PM
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Yeah I just looked through their post history and it’s definitely weird lol idk it just sounds made up or something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 05:35 AM
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That’s so cute. Was he always like this throughout your courtship?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 04:37 AM
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It's really great. He always makes me feel cared for through the little things: He gets me flowers every 2 weeks because he doesn't like seeing the old ones die He tries to hang out with me all the time, as if he can't get enough Is respectful when I can only see him 3 times a week because I still want to focus on work, hobbies, and friends I don't have to wonder if he'll remember the holidays/my birthday. He always remembers! I get romantic gifts. Each one thus far has been a nice jewelry set H…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 03:55 AM
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Lol removed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 12:29 AM
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“I want you to be happy” Then why is he contacting you??? “I know I wasn’t great” Pause. He could’ve used better wording. “I know I was a POS a**hole that made you look like a clown after reeling you in with my proposal” the heck? He wasn’t great? This scrote isn’t sorry about squat His justification for emailing you is stupid - he just wants to see that he still wields influence over your heart. He is likely alone, and horny which caused him to be in a vulnerable state. HE DID THIS TO HIMSELF. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 11:34 PM
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How much do you want to bet this chick checks his phone every night to see if he is texting other girls/following Instagram models and has all his social media passwords because she is “secure in her relationship”. I aM sO hApPy WiTh HiM gIrLs!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 11:26 PM
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Right? I like men to have a good relationship with their moms BUT their mom has to be the type that says he needs to treat his girl like a queen. Not that type thinks no one is good enough for her baby boy 🤮 If he wants someone to do his laundry, or clean then he should get a maid. I also remember thinking Vinny from Jersey Shore was cute up until his mom visited and babied him - I never saw him the same again 😢
/r/askFDS12/03/20 11:17 PM
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No Excessive Male Sympathizing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 10:25 PM
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I don't think a woman should stay with a man at her IQ level, if he treats her poorly. Removed for violation of Rule #2 - All Advice Should Focus On Maximum Female Benefit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 10:05 PM
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Their mommies shower them with compliments for doing basic tasks, and convince them they are a catch (usually without putting forth much effort). This goes to their heads and can lead to a dangerous level of entitlement. What these men fail to realize is that their mommy has to love them - other women don't.
/r/askFDS12/03/20 08:51 PM
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Removed for violating Rule #7 - No Personally Identifiable Information.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 08:16 PM
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FIRST OF ALL you are a dude. Banned for violation of Rule # 1 - This Sub Is For Women & By Women Exclusively
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 08:15 PM
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Removed for violation of Rule #3 - No Excessive Male Sympathizing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 08:12 PM
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LMAO I can't believe I wasted 9 months of my life with OLD until I finally met a partner that was as physically fit as me. I could have skipped that garbage by putting no uglies on my profile. GENIUS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 08:10 PM
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Which dating apps were you using?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 05:16 PM
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Completely agree. I hope to behave in a similar fashion when confronted with a situation like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 05:30 AM
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Did you hear his ego crawl up into his asshole after saying that? I would 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 04:21 AM
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Oh god that would be so useful. Men find creative ways to waste our time! Lying about their height, their job (or lack thereof), physical activity, living situation, you name it. Penis size is the icing on the cake. Like how insecure can you be?! Imagine all the death threats she would get from the triggered scrotes 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 04:12 AM
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“I’d rather jack off” This was after a guy asked me if we could have no-strings-attached sex 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 02:10 AM
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My brother is gay and he absolutely does not like small dicks. He makes guys send him dick pics before meeting so they won’t “waste his time”. Guys are even harsher!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 01:00 AM
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You asking for a friend? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 12:44 AM
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Huge cope 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 12:37 AM
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Reading the deleted lurker comments is making my day
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 12:17 AM
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Y E S
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 11:44 PM
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Projecting much?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 10:25 PM
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Saving this in the event I need to use it later!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 10:21 PM
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Lol I’ve seen it happen and the guy looks like a total loser 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 10:18 PM
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This this and THIS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 10:14 PM
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If he was dating you for months and tried to wow you with thoughtful dates, then he likely will continue to do so even after having sex with you. He might pull back though if you fail to date others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 07:54 PM
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Yeah but how was that to your benefit? Having a lover is not bad vs a hookup, but the mistake I see over and over again is that the woman is accepting less. If, say, the FWB shared STD screening results, waited 1-3 months for sex, courted the woman, and consistently pursued her, then I'd say the woman benefits in this situation (especially if she is still dating others and not just boning a ton of dudes at once). However, if he’s still having sex with other women you are putting your health at r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 07:51 PM
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I’m not saying to settle but focusing on only outward appearances is crazy. Flair updated ​ Edit: takesies backsies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 05:40 PM
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Found a scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 05:34 PM
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THANK YOU
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 03:59 PM
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They’re so stupid and also fail to realize that some single moms may have lost their partners unexpectedly. I don’t have kids either but my sister is a single mom. Her current boyfriend is actually the hottest dude & hardest worker she’s been with thus far. Where the fu** do they get this idea that single moms are bottom of the barrel losers? Being a single mom made my sister take 0 shit from men and the reality is this attitude made them pursue her harder. Insecure guys have to make mental gymn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 01:20 PM
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Omg SAME
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 03:26 AM
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Yet tons of males waste money on eating out because they don’t know how to cook. When I tell them how much I spend on my looks they’re quick to judge but these scrotes spend the equivalent (if not more) on their flab. I literally save about $300-400/month by cooking instead of eating out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 12:08 AM
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Financially Dependent Men are More Likely to Cheat - Studies show that men are most likely to cheat if they are economically dependent on their female partners. Men who make 25 percent more than their partners are the most faithful. It takes only a matter of time before they grow to resent you for being so successful. They will begin to devise new and innovative ways to get their power back - cheating is considered a power play for low-value males!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 11:00 PM
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In my experience, online dating helped out with maintaining a rotation. If you absolutely do not like the dating apps then I'd consider going to singles events (like speed dating). Putting yourself out there is not necessarily bad so long as you: Don't make eye contact with a man first. If you happen to walk into a room and a man obviously stares at you, then do give him a sweet smile. Keep an approachable demeanor. Think happy thoughts during these nerve-wracking events. I'm not saying to smile…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 10:20 PM
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Lol and males STILL think they are the selective sex. I think they just become complacent husbands and embrace the law of inertia
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 07:25 PM
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Me too! I had sensitive skin all my life (I can't even use scented soap or scented laundry detergent), so it did wonders for me. It admittedly took 6+ treatments for me (more than the average person) - I have olive skin. It came out to be pretty expensive but worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 06:42 PM
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Thank you! I am definitely reading this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 05:18 PM
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I think he was hoping to lure you in, make you became emotionally attached to his personality, and then slowly reveal his dad bod. LOL NICE TRY 🤡 Lmfao it took me a second to realize that SDE = small dick energy. Perhaps I should add SDE and BDE to the glossary 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 05:15 AM
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I love how brutally honest we are 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 02:09 AM
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lmfao you hit the nail on the head
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 11:55 PM
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LOL at them thinking fooling a Pickmeisha is a feat. The fu**ery they have to resort to in order to obtain validation is pitiful. Oh gee wow you seduced a pick-me.... so did all of your friends. When you have to lose all of your values in the process, it's not really something to be proud about. I had to raise the bar as well because I was only dating guys in tech fields before. I figured since we have that in common, we might be able to have several topics of discussion! WRONG. These males felt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 11:52 PM
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\heaves an exasperated sigh\**
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 11:37 PM
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Wait really? I will never look at a fat guy the same way again........
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 11:36 PM
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Men rate themselves higher on a regular basis! It’s ridiculous! I think their mommies convinced them they were a catch and it was forever cemented in their skulls. I have to laugh when I see them punching above their own weight - their lifestyle would NOT complement a fit girl’s lifestyle. Do they honestly think she is going to sit there and watch him play video games? Yes, yup, yeah. DELUSIONAL. There’s a male dating strategy sub??!! 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 09:13 PM
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LOL I just think it's funny that they think we do this for other men. My aunt had her's done in the 90s and they look really fake. It's unfortunate that tons of research were not available at the time she got hers, but she likes them regardless! Doctors are way more knowledgeable of how implant placement affects their overall look.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 06:44 PM
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NO man is better than a LVM. Keep on keeping on, queen lady 😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 12:14 AM
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When Pickmeisha’s accuse me of stealing their man, I struggle not to laugh and say I’m WAY out of their league.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 11:41 PM
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Ok at that point I’d be scared for my life 😖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 11:39 PM
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The COCKACITY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 11:39 PM
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Being judicious in your dating life is not the same as shutting down all men that are attempting to pursue you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 11:33 PM
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Jesus
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 11:14 PM
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THANK YOU. when someone gets triggered after receiving advice it makes my heart sad knowing they will eventually feel the same disappointment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 10:58 PM
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Exactly this!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 02:40 PM
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LOL u/modernmedusaa observe the LVMs convince themselves they have big peepees 😘😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 06:10 AM
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Accurate AF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 12:41 AM
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Go to singles events! You can meet people there if in-person is better than messaging before meeting up. Idk, the closest big city to me is 30 min - 1 hr away from me in traffic. I didn’t let the distance limit my options because every time I filtered matches to a 30 mile radius the options were scarce. Anyone under my age (27) was a no for me. Not judging anyone that likes the young ones at all! Just not my cup of tea either
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 05:21 PM
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Banned for being a weirdo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 03:15 PM
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Lol what babies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 03:09 PM
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If they're not willing to drive out to you for a date, then they are definitely not worth your time. I'd rather go to the gym than on a date with a guy that wants me to drive an hour to see them. The few times I did that were a huge mistake - the guys were so low effort and all around unimpressive. I really hated getting messages from guys saying "so how often are you in my area"? The fu** do I look like? Didn't you ask me on a date? There is absolutely nothing wrong in being judicious with who …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 07:31 AM
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I mostly did OLD. I started off with Okcupid and then progressed to Hinge and Match.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 06:15 AM
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If you're tired of online dating you can still meet men in a ton of places. Examples: Auto shows, boat shows, sushi bars, industry events, dance class, sports bars (not just any bar), professional sporting events, wine tastings, marathons, steak houses, movie theatres, or school [22]. Definitely avoid regular bars (sports bars are ok) and the gym!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 05:57 AM
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Banned for violation of Rule #2 - All Advice Should Focus on Maximum Female Benefit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 03:02 AM
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They’re just jealous. I have some too and people can’t even tell. I really don’t give a rat’s ass what some entitled scrote has to say about them - I got them for me and me only. Don’t be ashamed. It’s your body and your choice. If you don’t feel like telling him, then so be it. If he DOES ask, then admit to it (but be casual about it). My BF knows about mine and tried telling me to not go through with it. LOL I laughed and said it’s not his money, therefore, he has no choice on the matter. He l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 01:30 AM
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❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 01:03 AM
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Aww thanks so much! Skimming through the other dating subs actually motivated me to post this. I see women older than me making the same mistakes repeatedly yet their strategy is the same - they get hooked on one guy and overestimate his character traits. I TOTALLY understand what you mean when you get frustrated! I get livid reading the top-rated comments, because they're usually men advocating for her to settle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 12:36 AM
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Depends on how long you've been seeing them. After seeing him once a week for the first month, you can see him twice or three times a week during the second month, and three to four times a week in the third month [3]. 4-5 times/week is the absolute max. And if I don’t have anything to do on a particular day I have lied just to appear like i am busy. This is good! It's none of his business what you're doing anyway. I'd keep explanations vague until they continuously ask for more info. I was simi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 10:39 PM
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How are you going to know if a man is a HV/LV if you didn't date them though? Of course most are LVMs, but you figure that out over time. If you're lucky, you figure it out on the first date, but most of the time they sneak up on you - this is why your approach of taking things slow is wise. Once someone practices this multi-dating strategy over time, they will become quick at weeding out the low-effort men from their rotation. You will have high and low periods. When I first started dating, I h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 10:22 PM
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Technically it isn’t his business, so you have every right to tell him this. This response would also work in your favor because you keep things ambiguous - every time you are “busy” he might think you’re on another date 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 09:04 PM
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I was guilty of that too, but the way I was treated after I forced myself to date around was SO much better. It’s really hard to do it since we grow up in a society that says women must be docile, nice and subservient.... yeah screw that. How about men SHOW us that they are reliable, respectful and honest?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 08:54 PM
22

I’m glad you found the light. Some people never learn and it is so sad to watch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 08:49 PM
41

I remembered this when I was watching He’s Not that Into You. I cringed so hard at her excuses for poor male behavior
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 08:48 PM
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Omg this! Only tell them if they ASK. A HVM will not get pissed, because he knows you have value that others also see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 08:47 PM
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I think it's reasonable! One of our strategy coaches implemented this method and wrote a great post about it, and shared her experience here. I think you shall enjoy reading it! She found her husband this way. She did have to wade through a sea of LVMs though, but I feel like that's how it is regardless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 08:19 PM
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I figured we needed this reminder right before the weekend LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 08:00 PM
3

Nothing! You're not dating him - just wish him a happy birthday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 06:16 PM
3

Lol Craig was SUCH a low-value male He wasn’t even cute in my opinion
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 03:44 AM
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You get more time to study, go to the gym, attend Professors’ office hours, and/or work part-time. I saw too many women fu** off their future by wasting time on guys during college. Then when graduation approached, they were scared because they didn’t do anything worth putting on their resume.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 12:54 AM
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College is a GREAT time to be single. It all depends on what you want though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 12:34 AM
8

he did what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 10:43 PM
2

https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/recommended_reading
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 08:14 PM
19

Ignore him until he asks you out on a date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 02:56 PM
5

I know you are but what am I?! Banned a scrote 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 12:33 AM
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u/fabgab22 just look for your own place. It sounds like he wants the security of keeping everything if things go sour. A man shouldn’t be treating his lady like that. Edit - Just read that you’re the mother of his kids too. This guy is a complete ungrateful ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 12:09 AM
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No problem - here is a link to the book list https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/recommended_reading_books
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 10:16 PM
9

Yeah he sounds like trash 🗑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 08:47 PM
4

Good luck ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 08:47 PM
23

The issues are: you let him walk all over you, you let him have a 3-some with you (which put you at risk for diseases) and you rewarded him for his low effort by giving him attention. Did you even check them both for STD’s beforehand? Did you make it clear you need to be wined and dined for 1-3 months before you allowed him sexual access? This story reads like you are a doormat but don’t want to continue being one. Block and delete, sis. Read some of the recommended readings in our Wiki (link is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 07:52 PM
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Same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 07:44 PM
2

You forget that lib fems are also male.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 06:43 PM
20

And incels wonder why they don’t get laid!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 06:48 AM
16

Don’t ever settle for less!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 06:31 AM
5

19% to be exact
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 06:29 AM
63

Seriously! She dodged so many bullets 🤣😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 06:23 AM
43

By doing ‘other stuff’ does that involve sharing STD screening results?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 05:52 AM
112

Ok I HAVE to ask. What made you leave the 17-minute date?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 05:40 AM
5

That is so cute ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 10:41 PM
5

Awww 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 10:38 PM
17

I went to get a mani-pedi while my BF tagged along with me. When I tried to pay, the nail salon lady pointed at him and said he covered everything. She said “is he your BF? You should make him come with you every time!” 🤣 I make like 30K more than this guy, and he STILL refuses to let me pay for stuff. LVMs really need to get their shit together, because they’re removing themselves from the gene pool at an alarming rate 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 10:36 PM
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Removed for violation of Rule #4 - No Excessive Male Sympathizing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 07:47 PM
6

Ugh I hope you don’t have to see him in class - that’d be super awkward
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 03:27 PM
9

Out of curiosity, how often were you two hanging out per week?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 02:57 PM
9

Omg that is so disgusting! 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 02:37 PM
13

On the bright side males are great at destroying and getting rid of other males
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 06:05 AM
13

Found a scrote! 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 06:02 AM
2

Which acronyms are you specifically talking about? There’s a glossary on our wiki page btw. It’s on the sidebar (if using PC) or in the about section (if using mobile)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 05:53 AM
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Read the FAQ page on our wiki
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 05:50 AM
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Awww that’s sweet of him. I love hearing about HVM husbands. My mom always warned me that men get lazy after marriage, but i beg to differ! I have friends with doting husbands. It’s always good to know that sweet husbands exist 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 05:45 AM
20

Their parents failed so hard if they don’t wash their ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 05:38 AM
22

Banned for excessive male sympathy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 04:28 AM
1

I would sooo be interested in seeing that 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 07:42 PM
24

I couldn’t finish this because I baby barfed after reading the first two sentences 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 11:16 PM
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I didn’t start [seriously] dating white men until liiiiike.... after college. The men that pursued me were Hispanic/Indian/Asian. My current BF is white, and he has an immigrant background as well. It makes a huge difference. I’m Latina and I previously avoided white men because they would say things like: “You have that Latina spice” “You have those curvy Latina hips” “Can you say X in Spanish for me?” Anytime a guy would say that to me, it just made him look like a weirdo with a fetish. I woul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 03:07 PM
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Guys will SAY that they like being chased, but in reality they do NOT stay with a girl that chases them. The girl that chases them is the girl that they will walk all over. Don’t be that girl unless you want to see your friends get flowers from their BF’s while you sit back and do the giving
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 04:57 AM
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Not if we’re the only female attention they get 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 10:09 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/glossaryofterms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 09:59 PM
16

BTW someone made a detailed post on this topic!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 09:58 PM
2

This scrote's kids will be out-competed by our children LOL. The lack of genetic diversity in their offspring will likely decrease their survivability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 09:52 PM
31

FDS works for all cultures. ​ Source: a non-white/non-asian woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 09:49 PM
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Removed for violating Rule #3 - No Excessive Male Sympathizing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 09:45 PM
1

Brazilian laser hair removal is $350 per treatment and lasts wayyy longer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 09:42 PM
2

keep commenting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 09:41 PM
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It’s also the FDS way. Leave his ass on read. Flair upgraded
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 03:30 AM
4

By remembering where you screwed up and staying one step ahead. Trust me girl I’ve been there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 03:22 AM
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Removed for violating Rule #4 - No “Standard Shaming”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 01:07 AM
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Welcome to the FDS side! 💜 Don't beat yourself up too much for your past behavior - it could end up stunting your growth! Continue loving yourself, spending time with friends, focusing on your hobbies, and taking care of your health. It's really hard for women to NOT accept subpar treatment - our society grooms us to be nice and let men walk all over us. Once you break free from this, it's really hard to go back to your old ways. The blocking step is a HUGE step. Don't give him the opportunity t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 01:00 AM
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Thanks for sharing this story. I hope to have a loving husband like yours one day 💕 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 12:54 AM
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I flew 400+ miles to go to a college friend's wedding with my current BF. I got a little too tipsy (lesson learned) and had a horrible hangover the next day. It was so bad, that I couldn't even drink water without puking. My BF walked to a gas station at like 5 AM to get me ginger ale - I didn't ask him to do this!. After I puked for like the 50th time, my BF just brushed the hair from my face and said "I think you're so beautiful". This guy also gets me flowers every time my bouquet begins to d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 12:51 AM
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CLASSIC MALE MOVE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 10:20 PM
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Banned for continuously preaching about the sugar baby life. I understand that you can get dudes to spend some serious money on you but this is a dating sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 07:59 PM
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Banned a scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 07:56 PM
4

I wish!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 06:23 PM
8

Definitely continue implementing FDS! I highly recommend book #2 from our recommended reading.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 06:21 PM
2

https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/glossaryofterms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 06:18 PM
2

Banned for violating the following rules: Rule #2 - All Advice Should Focus On Maximum Female Benefit Rule #4 - No “Standard Shaming”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 06:13 PM
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The only time a FWB catered to me even AFTER we had sex, was after I made him wait at least 2 months of courtship. I eventually left him because I didn't have strong feelings for him, but he always made sure I felt like a queen. Sis, this is why we made this a core tenet in our ideology: 5. Don't have sex before commitment has been established (if you're looking for a relationship) or before he has demonstrated value and investment (if you're looking for FWBs). If a man is really into you and se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 06:03 PM
3

What a baby
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 05:33 PM
1

Found a scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 05:32 PM
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That would make me think he has intimacy issues tbh. Sounds like a smart move on your behalf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 05:20 PM
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Jealousy. One night stands are easy - anyone can do that. Being in a loving relationship with an individual? That requires a whole different skill set that they probably don’t have/refuse to work for. Notice how they tried to drag him down to their level 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 05:18 PM
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Date multiple people until commitment has been established. 70-80% of men will waste your time, so dating multiple people will increase your chances of finding the right one. Dating got so much funner after realizing this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 06:50 AM
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Or when they don’t have sex. The amount of girls that go out raping dudes is minuscule compared to the amount of angry sexless males
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 06:44 AM
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Your mom had 4 kids and you’re probably the only one that’ll be caring for her in her old age. Hope you are doing great! That must’ve been a tough experience to deal with. Happy cake day btw!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 06:41 AM
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When a guy’s friends are douchebag cheaters, it means he is also a douchebag cheater. He isn’t any different. It’s a huge red flag 🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 06:12 AM
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Agreed! A HVM would try to include you in conversations with his bro’s. He’d try to hold your hand every chance he gets, and he would definitely try to keep a good impression in front of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 06:09 AM
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I’ve had two dudes whip out the magnum condoms on me. One of them needed it because it was just massive (girth & length). The other guy definitely got them to boost his ego. I didn’t bother to hide the surprised face when he pulled out the box - his dick was so average. My brother (gay) confirmed that more than one of his partners used them when they were SO not necessary. Men are hilarious 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 04:31 AM
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Have you ever seen the dong size map? I wonder how accurate this is: https://www.targetmap.com/viewer.aspx?reportId=3073&embed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 03:54 AM
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Thank you 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 06:18 AM
2

You and me both! A welcome mat would be wonderful at scaring the male symps off my property 😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 06:02 AM
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Congrats on starting boxing! the workouts can get addictive. I do Thai boxing and my body freaks out when I don’t go for 2 days straight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 05:19 AM
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I’ve been studying for an engineering exam, which consists of completing 300 problems. I already went through them once, but the instructor recommended to do them twice. I’m 50% done with my second round! After this, I just have a set of 4 practice exams (will be spaced out over a month). On the bright side I’m still able to practice martial arts 4 times a week - it’s a great way to unwind. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 05:15 AM
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My sister is a lesbian and she said there are a whole slew of issues that us straights wouldn’t imagine. She is literally always in a relationship - she never cared for hooking up. I also noticed that she doesn’t have to deal with women faking love until they get into her pants, or faking orgasms. Must be nice! 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 03:15 AM
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I’d rather have a girl - she is more likely to go to college. A boy would have a higher chance of ending up in prison. Males are filling up the jails while females are getting more degrees than ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 03:09 AM
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I don't, but sometimes I wish I was attracted to women! One of our subbies made this great post - it might interest you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 11:54 PM
2

It sounds like a great idea, but isn't it illegal to mass distribute?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 11:06 PM
1

Your account is < 30 days old
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 11:04 PM
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Removed for violating Rule #3 - No Excessive Male Sympathizing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 10:17 PM
10

It’s always amusing when males try to overvalue themselves 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 08:07 PM
2

Is this what a guy means by asking you to “sit on his face”? He means “let me eat your ass”?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:14 PM
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They feel entitled and can’t fathom the fact that women have standards. Their peepee is also small and they’re triggered 😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:07 PM
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I hope she does 😢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:02 PM
2

Banned for multiple racist comments and more than one suspected troll post
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 09:08 AM
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Removed for violating Rule #8 - Read the FDS Handbook before posting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 07:38 AM
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Removed for violating Rule #3 - No Excessive Male Sympathizing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 07:36 AM
1

Banned for violating Rule #3 - No Excessive Male Sympathizing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 07:34 AM
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Removed for violating Rule #2 - All Advice Should Focus On Maximum Female Benefit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 07:33 AM
5

Mmmm yeah hard pass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:40 AM
4

No
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:20 AM
36

I second this LOL. Men don't get slut shamed enough!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:16 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/glossaryofterms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 09:34 PM
2

This is a good point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:46 AM
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OK is this a dude trolling? Your comments are confusing. Banned for violating Rule #1 - This Sub Is For Women & By Women Exclusively.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 09:44 PM
5

Definitely THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 09:16 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/glossaryofterms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:35 PM
8

Welcome! 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:28 PM
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It makes sense, because we have had several users flip the switch and attack our subbies despite being here for months (& being familiar with the ideology).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:22 PM
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What do you mean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:06 PM
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You could delete it and repost with their contact info cropped out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 05:56 PM
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No personal and confidential information (first and last name)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 05:52 PM
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Banned for violating Rule #1 - This Sub Is For Women & By Women Exclusively
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 04:59 PM
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Omg she sounds like a pick me friend that I had to drop. My ex Pickmeisha friend would love to rub her toxic relationship in my face when I was in graduate school and focusing on my career. Fast forward to after graduation and now she is married to a jealous guy that steals money from her. Meanwhile I got 2 degrees, a great job, & a healthy relationship. When we were “friends” she would struggle to say congrats to anything I accomplished. Idk if it was the marriage that took its toll on her but …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 02:00 AM
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Thank you 💕💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 01:39 AM
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No. They're just going to lie and say "I didn't think this was working out either." Riiight. That's why you were asking me out for a second date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 12:56 AM
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In that case BJJ would be useful since half of the stuff they do involves choking people out haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 12:30 AM
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It's pretty much useless anywhere off the mat though. Everyone that cross-trained in BJJ at my Muay Thai gym complained about the injuries and medical expenses associated with them. I haven't seen anyone break anything at my gym and you can strike anywhere - in a parking lot, a park, your room. With BJJ you can only spar on the mat unless you are ok with bruises and poor performance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 10:15 PM
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Not a red flag. I also practice a combat sport (Muay Thai) 4 times a week and my boyfriend practices Brazilian Jiu Jitsu (2 times a week). If anything, practicing MMA will make you more level-headed - you have to be calm when you are sparring/fighting. Gyms kick people out if practitioners are combative or are disrespectful to their opponents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 10:11 PM
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Little scrote, please read the sidebar: Rule #1: This Sub Is For Women & By Women Exclusively
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 06:54 PM
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I'd move in with a fiance if (1) there was a ring AND (2) we had a wedding date set. Boyfriends are a hell no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 06:00 PM
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Great post and wonderful advice. I have never moved in with a BF and never will. For one, most guys are messy and I've had friends make this mistake - their breakups definitely took a toll on them. Moving in with them will put you at risk of losing months to years on a man that will not commit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 05:57 PM
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Found a scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 06:34 AM
47

Wtf happened to us 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 06:33 AM
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Banned a scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 06:26 AM
42

Same shit with Mexicans - my brother never had to do crap. I hate the misogyny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 06:26 AM
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Aww thanks we try to make it a safe space here 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 04:34 AM
12

This is why I love your reminders 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:51 AM
12

Nah, sis. You should call him 'it'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 11:57 PM
12

Holy f**k I hate this guy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 11:56 PM
14

Welcome to our sub queen! I hope our ideologies align with your dating goals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 11:53 PM
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u/LasOlas12 I like how he thinks he should be the one to think about things when the reality is that women are the selective sex. Keep your options open. Put him on the back burner and date others. Reply to his texts less than before. Get busy - participate in your hobbies, hang out with friends, get a manicure, pedicure, facial, etc. Guys will ALWAYS try to give you this wishy washy answer if you give them too much attention. Don't let him gaslight you into thinking he is choosing you, when it'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 11:51 PM
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He has cat allergies and I have 2 cats. Thankfully, Claritin works wonders for him! Once he runs out of it he has to basically run to the store though LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 08:58 PM
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FYI - we also have r/FemaleLevelUpStrategy which is more geared toward leveling up than dating. Might be good to post this there too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 08:47 PM
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Justifying his porn use by blaming the woman... makes total sense. (yeah right!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 08:41 PM
30

Male entitlement really knows no bounds
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 08:38 PM
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OMG she cleaned his house? And then he lied and said he did it for his actual GF? Girl, please bring her to the other side ASAP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 08:34 PM
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The difference is we are giving her advice and you are resorting to name-calling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 08:26 PM
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Removed for violating Rule #4 - No “Standard Shaming”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 08:17 PM
20

UGH this one is so true. I've seen this happen so many times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 08:15 PM
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They're not making fun of you. They're trying to tell you that working on yourself is WAY more important than asking a guy out. You have mentioned anxiety multiple times, and this makes us think you are focusing on your flaws. Why not focus on your awesome traits instead? 💜 No one's perfect but if you are already anxious then why is it fair to you to stress about asking him out while he gets a free pass because "he is shy"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 08:09 PM
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THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 08:02 PM
49

This is the female-only perspective. Other dating subreddits are male-dominated. Their advice benefits males, while ours benefits females
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 08:00 PM
59

Or another box that says "I don't like you, but I will waste your time because I am flattered you gave me attention."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 08:00 PM
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Don't you think any man would be lucky to have you? Shouldn't he be the one pursuing you? I've been there, and let me tell you - it does not work. Men are natural hunters. When they work hard for something, it will be more precious to them. They love a challenge. You asking him out (even if he says yes) destroys the challenge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 07:56 PM
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lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 07:52 PM
41

Even the shyest guys have asked girls out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 07:51 PM
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u/Castor346 why are you asking him out? If he has seen you in class, I would wait until he does the pursuing. If he hasn't asked you out then he likely has a girlfriend, is dating someone, or you are not his type. When a man wants you, he will do whatever it takes to spend time with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 07:42 PM
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Removed for violating Rule #2 - Advice Given is Not Beneficial To Women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 07:30 PM
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Removed for violating Rule #4 - No “Standard Shaming”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 07:30 PM
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Which posts are you referring to? Please report posts like the ones you mentioned so the mods can delete them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 07:09 PM
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Removed for violating Rule #4 - No “Standard Shaming”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 07:06 PM
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You can have ADD, anxiety, depression and still be high-value. OP just has different standards. Just like I would never date a man that has a crap relationship with his parents. To each his own. EDIT - trolls were zeroing in on this one. Don’t listen to them - there’s nothing wrong with being diagnosed. Very flattered that they follow me religiously though 🥰😘💕💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 04:52 PM
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Banned for violating Rule #1 - This Sub Is For Women & By Women Exclusively
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 09:19 PM
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Ok
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 08:12 PM
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Removed for violating Rule #2 - All Advice Should Focus On Maximum Female Benefit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:50 PM
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What does LSA mean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:31 PM
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Removed for violating Rule #3 - No Excessive Male Sympathizing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 05:49 PM
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Removed for violating Rule #3 - No Excessive Male Sympathizing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 05:46 PM
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Really? Being bald isn’t a dealbreaker in my book. It’s not really something you can control and it looks better when it’s completely bald vs patchy Anyway I’m banning you because you’re a guy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 07:32 AM
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I literally open this up as I am drinking my morning coffee
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 12:27 AM
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This is why I visit everyday <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 11:58 PM
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I wouldn't bother replying because they've been banned LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 07:47 PM
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Removed for violating Rule #3 - No Excessive Male Sympathizing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 07:44 PM
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LOL this is actually a pretty interesting example since you exhibited high-value behavior when it came to what you were looking for. He wasn't boning others while boning you, but did he get tested for STD's?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 05:58 PM
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I don't think there is a way for men to test for this though, which sucks because they can definitely be carriers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 05:50 PM
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You are no worse than incels or MGTOW. Banned for violating Rule 2 - All Advice Should Focus On Maximum Female Benefit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 05:38 PM
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That's really sweet of you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 11:29 PM
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FWB means lover. In FDS terminology I would have to say sexual acquaintance sounds like a one-night stand. Not all women want a long-term relationship. We are against one-night stands because they do not maximize female benefit (STD risk, etc.). If a woman chooses to have a lover, than it should be because he desires her to be his GF (though this doesn't align with her goals), has demonstrated value and investment, constantly pursues her, and treats her like a queen. If a woman wants to have a l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 10:52 PM
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At least when you masturbate you're guaranteed an orgasm LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 07:46 PM
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That story almost made me tear up - his lack of sympathy is unbelievable. I'm so glad the feminists in my country made it extremely difficult for men to file for divorce and take kids away from their mothers anymore. This how he treated the mother of his kid? WTF??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 07:34 PM
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Having no money is not an excuse. He could have just cooked a nice meal with you and given you a nice card with a lovely note. It’s not about the money it’s about making you feel special.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 05:35 PM
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u/spicybeanburger have either of you brought up Valentine’s Day plans with each other? Did he forget or just intentionally plan something and tell you he was sorry & that he couldn’t hang out with you that day? If he forgot, then I’d ignore him until he seeks you out. It’s a red flag if he doesn’t remember. If he remembered but made plans anyway, maybe this a good time to pull back, see if this relationship is what you want, and date others. How a man acts around the holidays is an indicator of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 05:21 PM
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Weed out the ones that don’t want to spoil you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 05:13 PM
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A man should ADD value to your life - anything otherwise is absolutely useless for you. It’s ridiculous that women still have to deal with standard shaming from bottom of the barrel males. It’s 2020 idiots! Women are getting more advanced degrees while men fall behind. Males need to step up their game and the low effort ones need to be weeded out by our firm standards ASAP. LVMs want to complain about high maintenance women? Well then you don’t deserve a GF - you deserve to be pleasured by your …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 02:45 PM
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Maybe he’s a unicorn 🦄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 05:32 AM
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Omfg I’m so glad you made it out. Block immediately! It’s really scary when their mask starts to slip more than 3 months in. His personality already sounds like shit - him showing his true colors months in was TOTALLY premeditated
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 03:43 AM
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QUESTION: say you are in the hypothetical situation where you are in a relationship. He is learning your boundaries, but at a slow pace and you are losing your patience/interest. Instead of getting angry when his mask slips, would it be considered maximizing female benefit if you just pull back and start dating other people ASAP?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 03:27 AM
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See, this is why I don't bother checking their phone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 12:27 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/glossaryofterms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 12:11 AM
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EWWW wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 11:12 PM
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Can you elaborate on the specific red flags you noticed?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 11:01 PM
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You handled this like a Queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 08:17 PM
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It's nice to know other women feel the same! I re-watched this a billion times after a terrible breakup and eventually went to grad school partly because I was pissed - a man had the audacity to treat me like I had no value. Imagine the feeling I got when I obtained a prestigious job in my field post-grad and found out he had to have his daddy pull strings for him to obtain a job that isn’t even relevant to his field.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 08:05 PM
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It is! We made an entire subreddit for the male "fan mail" we get (r/FDSSuperFans)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 07:46 PM
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Spot on assessment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 07:42 PM
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Just don't offer to pay. I would bring cash just in case he tries to split the bill. If he does split the bill then don't argue about it - just do it. Will this affect his chances of a second date? Absolutely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 07:40 PM
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Dude YES
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 06:42 AM
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The difference is men do these things much more frequently than women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 06:02 AM
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Nay in my opinion. My BF has offered to let me look through his but I’ve declined (honestly I’m not interested and I wouldn’t let him look through mine)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 05:50 AM
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I’m talking about the guy u/holds_up_spork said “cool” to 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 04:15 AM
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That suuuucks. Same for men in my culture (Mexican)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 11:29 PM
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flair re-assigned
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 09:54 PM
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This right here is the truth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 09:44 PM
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Yesterday lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 11:10 PM
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What a loser lmao. I absolutely love your response
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 04:22 PM
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First thought: Donald and Melania Trump LOL The answer is no 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:09 AM
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That garbage would get lost in my DMs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 03:27 AM
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It’s the least he could do for the woman that allowed his genes to remain in the gene pool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 11:59 PM
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Funny that you bring it up because I was thinking this subreddit was my version of the rules support group as well!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 11:09 PM
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Welcome!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 11:05 PM
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Yeah but when we tried that, the straight males pretended to be trans in order to post their garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 10:03 PM
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See, this is why I always call them males
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:59 PM
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She’s going to get a UTI if she sleeps with this clown 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:58 PM
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I didn’t have mine until 27. Honestly think I look better than my early 20s lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:41 PM
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🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:39 PM
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Awww 💕 I might actually buy the paper today lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:26 PM
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You came to the right place
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 05:41 PM
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Welcome back! We just have to help you re-adjust that crown real quick 👸🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 05:41 PM
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No excessive male sympathy. Please read the rules on the sidebar or ‘about’ section (if using mobile).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 05:36 PM
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I love you all for making this happen 😍😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 04:48 PM
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You can report it as spam (include a note that it’s a repost and message us the original post). We can take it from there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 04:39 PM
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Men tend to act first then think later. I would be a little sad if I was pregnant with a boy - imagine all the resources he will waste for the sake of learning the ropes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 04:36 PM
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How’d that go?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 03:59 PM
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I’m so happy to hear this! Thanks to all the young ladies that make this sub prosper 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 03:29 PM
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On the bright side since the men are too busy destroying themselves, us women will find it easier to rise to the top. We’ll continue getting more advanced degrees and men will continue to fill up the jail cells. Males are really useful at getting rid of other males 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 03:23 PM
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What do you mean? Guys like it more?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 03:20 PM
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I used to date older and you are absolutely right. They do expect women to drop their panties for them after being wined and dined. On the bright side since they were older they were easy to avoid having sex with since I wasn’t as physically attracted to them. I ultimately left the last older dude I dated for a serious relationship with someone my age. That feeling you get when you cut down an entitled male’s ego by walking away & leaving his dick in his hand is fantastic. I used to love doing t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 03:18 PM
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AKA jacking off 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 03:28 AM
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Me too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 01:13 AM
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I was literally contemplating getting a new book yesterday and saw you posted this. Thanks! I will give it a try
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 12:06 AM
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WOW men need to read this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 12:00 AM
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Stay strong and trust your gut. This feels bad now but it would have been much worse if you had wasted months (even years!) on this guy. You will find the right man for you and he WILL try to lock it down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 11:58 PM
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So what you're saying is, the entitlement only gets worse? How is that possible?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 11:32 PM
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Yes, I was like you once. I thought that because I had my BS and MS in civil engineering, I didn’t have to play games for men to respect me. LOL. I have since learned how to deal with men and am in a happy relationship. Please feel free to explore other subreddits for dating advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 10:54 PM
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I don't think this sub is for you. Not gender roles, but natural human instinct New flair assigned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 10:42 PM
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Read Rule #4 - No “Standard Shaming”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 10:39 PM
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Read Rule #4 - No Standard Shaming
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 10:23 PM
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Ugh see that is my fear. What if the dude likes the pegging?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 09:53 PM
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This communicates the message firmly without anger or drama, which I've found works so much better. This is great advice - anger just makes them think they are in control of your emotions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 09:42 PM
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Welcome newcomer, I see you are generalizing our entire sub based on one post. Please see our ideologies section to determine whether this aligns with your current dating goals. Note that rants are allowed in this sub. We also have a glossary and FAQ section if you have any questions. Additionally, please read Rule #3 - No Excessive Male Sympathizing. Have a wonderful day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 09:38 PM
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Jesus christ you made me laugh so loud at work
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 09:27 PM
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I love the Rules! It's one of my favorite books BUT I have to take it with a grain of salt too. For example, dressing for men - not really my style. Men don't know what they want and few straight men can dress. I dress for me because I know what I look good in. I do draw a line when the authors of this book, both female, give such strict advice on how a HVW should look. Agreed. They shouldn't be telling you to have straight hair especially if it's to women who have naturally curly hair. Not all …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 09:09 PM
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Hey OP, my BF is also a mechanic. He pushed back our date by 60 min one time. As soon as he walked in I made it clear that if he is more than a half hour late next time, I will make other plans with a friend. I told this to him calmly and in a matter-of-fact way. He hasn't done it since. I think you shouldn't have shown that you were upset, BUT you did well in telling him that your time is valuable. Next time I would let him know as soon as he walks in that your dates with him can't be pushed ba…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 08:28 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/glossaryofterms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 08:22 PM
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My BF asked me once, and I said yes on the condition that we try pegging. He hasn't brought it up since LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 08:19 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/glossaryofterms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 08:08 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/glossaryofterms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 08:05 PM
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Lucky you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 07:55 PM
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OMFG THIS. I'm dying lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 07:54 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/glossaryofterms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 07:36 PM
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Rule 3 - No Excessive Male Sympathizing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 06:57 PM
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Agreed! Post removed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 06:52 PM
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It’s a good way to find out if someone likes their job. I used to weed out dudes that didn’t like their are jobs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 02:15 AM
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Omg thank you!. So many pick me’s get angry with their new flair but they don’t realize they can improve. It’s not an insult, it’s just a way to show others that you are still learning. A lot of us have had our own pickmeisha phase but the difference is we LEARNED and leveled up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 01:09 AM
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Best method lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 10:18 PM
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.....I had to demote you for that one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 12:20 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/glossaryofterms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 11:25 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/recommended_reading
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 11:18 PM
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I'm sorry for your loss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 11:02 PM
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I never message first. That’s why I never used Bumble
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 12:42 AM
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Him: "Hi" Me: Unmatch. Block. Delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 12:09 AM
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The truth is they either do not know what they want or refuse to admit it. I will laugh so hard the day a man admits he wants to chase the girl that plays hard to get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 10:32 PM
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Sick burn LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 10:28 PM
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I don't say anything - I just pay my portion of the bill. If he asked me out for another date I would DEFINITELY give him a knee-jerk rejection though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 10:28 PM
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I'm not surprised Guy B texted you today - you kept a cool and calm demeanor throughout your introductions (so they didn't think you were desperate for male attention). Definitely glad you chose to continue with Guy B instead of Guy A. Sounds like he would treat you better anyway!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 10:27 PM
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LOL it sounds like he has absolutely no game. A HVM doesn't need to flaunt the existence of other women he's dating like this. It's ridiculous that he is low-key trying to make you compete for him. You handled this quite well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 10:23 PM
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Shutup scrote Read Rule #1 - This Sub Is For Women & By Women Exclusively
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 08:50 PM
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They think women don't have options and yes, they think they are stupid. I would have blocked him the second he suggested "chilling" was a great date idea. I hope you are at least dating others while this guy fumbles and loses the ball - he sounds like low-effort trash dick LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 08:30 PM
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All the chicks on the right look hot and I’m totally straight. I would NOT go for any of the dudes here.... they look icky
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 03:38 AM
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I would do a phone call. A text is too informal for this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 12:54 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/glossaryofterms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:58 PM
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I imagine FDS as that angel on your shoulder telling you not to put up with a man's BS. That little pick me devil on your shoulder always tries to confuse things!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:47 PM
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Welcome <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:23 PM
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Welcome! If you have any questions regarding the terminology used here, we have a Glossary and FAQ page. ​ Glad you haven't reached out to him. Keep up the good work sis <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:17 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/glossaryofterms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:07 PM
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I try to text them every half hour, but I ALWAYS find a reason to cut our conversation short after about 10 exchanges. For instance, I will say "I'm about to go to the gym, gtg!" If their first text is after 5 I just wait until the next morning. This prevents us from exhausting topics that could have been discussed during the date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:00 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/glossaryofterms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 07:18 PM
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On the side bar we have a Wiki link - this will take you to a table of contents. We have a Glossary and FAQ page that may be helpful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 04:09 PM
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Welcome!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 12:52 AM
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u/blueorange22_ didn't read the FAQ
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 11:57 PM
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They probably also swear that they've never faked an orgasm LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 11:40 PM
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Read Rule #3 - No Excessive Male Sympathizing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 08:31 PM
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flair assigned
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 08:26 PM
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I'm going to have re-flair you for that one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 08:19 PM
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Good job!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 10:36 PM
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Casually tell him that you and your good friend want to look for apartments once your lease is up. Don’t even mention that you are breaking up. Just pull back and begin looking for places. He will want to know what he did wrong. Tell him nothing is wrong, but you feel like you are ready for a new living situation/chapter in life - this way he does not feel pressured to propose and instead gets scared shitless of losing you. He will realize he needs to give you a good reason to stay without you t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 04:01 AM
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Definitions can be found here: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/glossaryofterms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 09:21 PM
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Thanks! One of our mods wrote it a few months ago
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 08:07 PM
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You might like this: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/e017h7/the_dumb_fox_credo/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 08:01 PM
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Thanks for answering her question. We added this to the glossary: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/glossaryofterms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 08:00 PM
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GENIUS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 07:53 PM
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Welcome! You can find the definition here: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/glossaryofterms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 07:24 PM
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What?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 07:04 PM
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Are you a male?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 06:51 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/glossaryofterms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 10:07 PM
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EXACTLY. It's like giving him ammunition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 10:02 PM
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Don't EVER give men your strategy - they're already hard-wired to figure it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 09:31 PM
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QUESTION: Are you still dating others? If not, then you should. The 90 day rule is a recommendation but if you define the relationship before sleeping together it’s ok. Or if he demonstrated enough value or investment it’s ok to have him as a FWB. It sounds like the latter is where this relationship is headed though, which is why I’m wondering if you’re dating others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 06:26 PM
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Yup this is why playing the dumb fox has its perks. You see their true colors that way!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 06:23 PM
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Ask him if he wants to work out together, so that he will likely wear basketball shorts around you. Basketball shorts can be telling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 05:17 PM
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Queen 👸🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 06:11 AM
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Your account is pretty new
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 12:16 AM
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You blew my mind right there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 11:33 PM
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Pussy is precious. Dick is abundant and low value. Keep your standards high sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 11:31 PM
1

What is SD?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 11:22 PM
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PLEASE READ THE RULES ON THE SIDEBAR... specifically: Rule # 1 - This Sub Is For Women & By Women Exclusively
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 11:20 PM
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with him asking to stop taking my antidepressants (!!!) has led me to develop a mild stutter DO NOT get off of this medication without consulting your doctor. He is in no way qualified to help you get off medication that likely requires several weeks of weaning off of it. How long until your lease expires? My advice is to put up with him until it expires and then dispose of him accordingly. This is NOT a healthy situation to be in. I absolutely agree with u/bellamocha in her approach. CUT HIM OF…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 11:16 PM
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I feel resigned to finding a sexually and emotionally fulfilling relationship because any man that I desire hasn't desired me back and there really isn't anything I can do about it...I don't know how not to feel like a casualty at this point. You need to re-wire yourself to become attracted to how men treat you. Keep going to therapy, BUT remember that men are not your therapists. Being honest with your therapist is essential, but being too honest with men can be dangerous. I have to keep remind…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 11:09 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/glossaryofterms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 10:44 PM
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I don't understand why your cervix was bleeding though. That is SO scary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 10:39 PM
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I did OLD for 9 months this year and I completely relate to your disappointment. Society IS shallow. I was guilty of this as well! I learned that I needed to go for something different each time. I used to place a heavy emphasis on career and wealth (still think it's important) but then realized I would be stuck with the same type of person over and over. In my case it was scientists or engineers that were geniuses but were not competitive, insecure, entitled, didn't pursue, and didn't treat me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 10:22 PM
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If he happens to seek advice and you happen to be there, then I don't see the harm in sharing FDS-approved methodology. Just by the fact he frequents /r/redpill makes me think he will listen to your advice and then argue about the effectiveness of your strategy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 10:11 PM
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I think it's better to be aware of some of their strategies and keep the posts. It gives us opportunity to discuss how we can counteract them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 08:20 PM
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As someone who has size 9 (US) feet, getting a pedicure helps. On the bright side, your toes are long enough to where the technicians will sing you praises. Long toes are perfect for French tip!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 08:17 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/glossaryofterms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 08:13 PM
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Don't offer to pay next time. Luckily since this is the first instance, you have a lot more opportunities to let him make it up to you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 07:43 PM
50

If he is my boyfriend, then I don't mind paying for drinks (if he paid for dinner). If this is someone I am just dating, then he should also be paying for drinks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 07:25 PM
5

Are you a male?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 07:07 PM
4

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 01:14 AM
7

🤣😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 01:10 AM
1

Right?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 01:04 AM
1

Flair upgraded
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 01:03 AM
8

I don't cook for my man - I give him leftovers. When we first started dating he tried to make me cook for him though. Fast forward several months and now he thinks all of my leftovers are REALLY tasty. He even cleans the kitchen after eating something I made (for myself) lmao. It's a great way to get rid of tupperware from my fridge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 01:02 AM
2

You keep getting reported for this comment but in all honesty I think you have a good point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 12:24 AM
5

Their mommy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 12:23 AM
4

Nice username!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 11:33 PM
3

It sounded like you were a male sympathizer for a sec
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 11:31 PM
1

Read Rule #3 - No Excessive Male Sympathizing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 11:29 PM
50

WTF they are nowhere near the same league. ​ Delusional ass scrotes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 11:17 PM
1

HE DESERVED THOSE SLAPS. EVERY. SINGLE. DAMN. ONE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 11:15 PM
2

Makes me look forward to pregnancy!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 11:10 PM
2

No
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 11:10 PM
40

This scrote doesn't have much depth. Is that his idea of stimulating conversation?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 11:09 PM
7

That man is a prime example of the trash taking itself out. I hope your other suitors are treating you well!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 11:07 PM
31

Most of them don't realize that dick is abundant and low value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 11:06 PM
1

Read Rule 1 - This Sub Is For Women & By Women Exclusively
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 11:01 PM
3

Count your blessings he isn't in your life anymore... because he doesn't sound too bright. lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 11:00 PM
36

The Rules is a solid book. I wish I had read it in my early 20s!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 10:59 PM
3

...........I think you deserve a round of applause for moving on. Good job girl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 10:57 PM
13

If you can't share your success with him because he feels inferior - next him immediately. Great post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 10:34 PM
2

He had a little dick (3.5 inches), had phimosis so his fore skin wouldn't retract and was always scabby, had cheese under the foreskin, couldn't support his own weight during sex, refused to learn how I liked to be fingered, and generally treated me like a flesh light. Nuuuu why?? Did you learn from this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 10:21 PM
2

THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 08:39 PM
3

Can you see this in your browser? I was having trouble before, but the glossary may be up: ​ https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/glossaryofterms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 08:35 PM
1

Accurate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 08:17 PM
20

Next is my favorite word
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 06:16 PM
23

And it SEEMS every time there is a woman bringing up an issue it is called "forever alone" and no ones allowed to talk to her but when men do it it's a "discussion". Something soooo similar happened to the u/OGJammies. She posted about it too Not to be all conspiracy theory, but it makes me think that the mods at dating subs are descrete redpill. Honestly, I also got the same vibe. I used to frequent that sub a lot before I came here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 10:15 PM
3

Sounds like he was dead weight
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 09:17 PM
15

Even if a guy isn’t mad at you... he will likely show his friends the nudes. My brother always told me this so I legit never sent them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 05:39 PM
5

Bummer. Skiing would make such a fun activity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 12:57 AM
10

I wouldn't bring it up on the date - I'd just offer to pay my fair share. That being said, I would flat out NEVER date them again. I guess that's my subtle way of saying "you didn't make the cut"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 12:51 AM
11

I hope you focus on the relationship you have with your son! I automatically weed out men that have poor relationships with their moms - they treat women differently. The guys that LOVE their mom are so much easier to date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 12:37 AM
17

Don't be surprised if this was just a one time thing and it's back to Thursdays again... I feel like this is such a red flag - a girl's possibly dating a married dude if he's only trying to date on weekdays
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 12:33 AM
2

Great post! You have been assigned a new flair
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 11:50 PM
3

He DEFINITELY needs to work on his transition
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 11:42 PM
1

Read Rule #1 - This Sub Is For Women & By Women Exclusively
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 10:09 PM
6

FUCK U OCEAN I would NOT fuck with the ocean....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 11:55 PM
8

All us queens have to do on first dates is show up, look good and then go home. You are right - you shouldn’t be stressing before a first date. Good job girl and I can’t wait to hear about your other first dates!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 04:00 AM
1

In hindsight it does sound racist lmao. Currently debating whether we should leave this up... or just racial preference?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:56 AM
5

I think you just had bad experiences. Indian men are super nice, or at least the Americanized ones - they’re the ones that know how to cook! I jokingly told my Indian coworker I should marry an Indian man (cause I love the food), and she told me “HELL NO. He will want you to work 8 hrs, have your own career and will STILL want a clean house and warm meal from you at the end of the day. Get with an Indian guy that was raised in the US because they are not as sexist.” Sad part is she is married to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:55 AM
2

Match
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 11:49 PM
4

Oh yeah me too definitely. I don't care if he's getting "separation anxiety" I'm at work so I respond when I can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 09:58 PM
7

I like that I can reply to my BF whenever I want, and he gives me absolutely no attitude about it. I DID have an ex like the one you described though - he would do passive aggressive crap in retaliation for me not responding. The worst part is that I was in UNIVERSITY so while I was dealing with midterms and finals this asshat would stir up drama for attention. I dumped his ass before the 3 month mark for a reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 09:56 PM
15

As if they know how to spin plates! Women are the natural born plate spinners: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/d2lg9t/girl_game_pt_1_males_monogamy_and_mateguarding/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 05:55 AM
12

I would’ve stopped replying at his last text 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 04:56 AM
17

Holy shit I died reading this thank you for that 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 04:52 AM
29

Glad you made it out alive 🥰 It’s pretty grimy over there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 04:50 AM
11

Glad you brought her here 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 04:47 AM
3

Not sure if you are able to see this but here it is: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/glossaryofterms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 12:29 AM
6

THANK YOU
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 12:21 AM
9

My BF has the same makeup preference. I feel that way when my BF wears contacts - it looks more natural lol. ANYWAY, I have to ban you since you are guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 12:13 AM
2

Welcome!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 12:11 AM
26

To answer u/shadyblonde231 By asking a man out instead of letting him reach out to you, he knows you are readily available. A man's interest is piqued when a woman is aloof, busy, and only occasionally available. Let HIM approach YOU. Otherwise, you will never know if he actually wanted to seek you out or was just reciprocating your advances. Why? He will lose interest in you eventually for someone that he is willing to pursue. Dates should not exceed a max of 5 hrs - you should leave him wantin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 12:08 AM
38

Didn't you know r/datingoverthirty mods have a disdain for the high-value woman? I bet the comments are encouraging this poor girl to pursue him. That's the type of dating advice that goes on there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 10:30 PM
5

This will easily weed out 95% of them LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 07:44 PM
12

Men will often try to make you jealous, or make you “compete” for his attention. Being aloof will nip this issue right in the bud!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 07:35 PM
7

Good luck, and let us know how it goes! <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 07:31 PM
20

That's a good approach because the last thing you want to do is appear threatened by her. Remember, you are a queen. Any man that makes you compete for his attention is not worthy of your time. Females are the selective sex. Males will subconsciously try to make you think otherwise but gently remind them this is not true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 07:30 PM
23

I wouldn't show him that it worries you. That's probably what he wants. Next time you are on a date and he does this, immediately give an excuse to cut the date short. Say you are tired or something. Then when you leave the date, do not contact him. Banish him for a week so that he has to call and text. Let him freak out wondering why you are pulling away. If he likes you, he will try to reach out until you are ready. Once you are ready, be direct (refrain from showing too much emotion) and tell…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 07:25 PM
11

Does he text her while you are on dates?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 07:12 PM
3

You have been assigned a new flair
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 07:11 PM
12

You might think this post is interesting: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/d2lg9t/girl_game_pt_1_males_monogamy_and_mateguarding/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 06:52 PM
2

I think it's different in Scandinavia because sex isn't viewed as something dirty - sex is viewed differently in the US. Women don't have to have or pretend to have little to no sexual history in order to be considered long-term material. Women are treated as equals (usually expected to pay for a date) and are not shamed for having a sexuality. One of my friends briefly lived in California, US and he was from The Kingdom of Norway (lol I didn't know it was kingdom). In the US,a woman that has a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 06:45 PM
5

Yeah sometimes they could just be too drunk or tired lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 06:19 PM
3

Welcome! We have a ton of dating book recommendations here: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/recommended_reading_books #1 and 3 are my personal favorites. Hope you consider them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 06:17 PM
2

Lol me too. Ending the work day and unwinding 😏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 05:09 AM
38

Agreed - if you’re broke then you shouldn’t be dating. These dudes claim they want an understanding GF or NSA sex but they just want an extra mommy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 01:14 AM
5

Except nobody said anything about initiating the DATES themselves - item 4 in the list talks about letting him PLAN the dates. As long as you are not advocating for women asking men out - flair reassigned. I mean really, you going to watch a movie you're not interested in? Eat at a restaurant you don't like? Attend some testosterone fueled sports match that redefines boring? THAT is not the FDS way. It's not. Or are you suggesting that the "FDS way" is to do whatever HE wants whether you like it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 12:58 AM
4

This is the pick-me in her natural habitat - she relinquishes financial independence for her man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 12:48 AM
2

I'm considering doing it LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 12:46 AM
6

Initiating dates is not the FDS way. Please see the ideologies of the sub to determine whether they align with you. https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/ideology
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 12:39 AM
3

Or what about 4, about taking the initiative - I mean really? I'm an independent, opinionated modern woman. If I want to take the initiative I will! If I pretended to let "the man" make all the decisions in the beginning, how do you think it would go down the road when he finds out I'm not really a meek, mild doormat? Also a little aggressive to OP here: Grow up. Get real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 11:30 PM
0

Read Rule 4 - No “Standard Shaming”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 11:02 PM
5

You have been assigned a new flair
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 10:26 PM
5

Same I take 2-month breaks every now and then so I don't advertise it. CBD just makes your body relaxed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 10:16 PM
10

Repeat x50 until he ends up with a pickmeisha baby mother he will later accuse of 'trapping' him & dragging him to court. What a fate perfect for the LVM!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 10:11 PM
16

LMAO. Same happened with me & some guy at work. Thankfully he works at a different office, but I saw him one time. Luckily I had my lashes and hair done that day so I looked professional (sometimes I come to work casual). He struggled to make eye contact - it was great. My initial thought upon seeing him was "my BF is way hotter".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 10:07 PM
2

That was literally my first thought when I read this. They’re not that expensive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 07:43 PM
19

He’s probably still processing this because your words were a little too big for him LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 01:19 AM
8

HVM = high value male LVM = low value male
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 12:51 AM
0

lmao I love this response
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 09:36 PM
1

low value male
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 09:03 PM
1

low value male
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 09:01 PM
2

low value male
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 08:56 PM
2

low value male
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 08:54 PM
1

Low value male
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 08:46 PM
1

No he'd be demoted already lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 07:02 PM
1

Same here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 06:52 PM
17

Realistically, constant access to sex and/or spreading their bad genetics is the only reason why they consider either of those things. ROFL. See we are doing the world a favor by refusing the low value males!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 12:12 AM
-4

When you watch the video again, the song playing was written for a girl that he'd been dating since she was 16 Was he > 18 when she was that age?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 12:05 AM
14

Yeah a lot of guys that are married/in a relationship still use the apps. It's definitely a red flag if a guy has something last-minute come up before a date or only dates you on weekdays. It may be a sign he is not single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 12:03 AM
15

It sounds like they got caught. In all seriousness, I used multiple dating apps and would schedule multiple dates during the same week to counteract this. This does tend to happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 12:00 AM
18

LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 11:04 PM
3

Read How to be a 3% Man by Coach Corey to see what low value man is NOT. Also banned because you are a dude
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 10:38 PM
5

low value male
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 10:27 PM
4

Low value male
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 10:16 PM
12

Read Rule 3 - No Excessive Male Sympathy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 10:12 PM
29

Read Rule 3 - No Excessive Male Sympathy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 10:11 PM
8

Low value male
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 08:34 PM
3

Great post! Your new flair has been assigned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 11:37 PM
36

The "airs dirty laundry on FB" guys make me think they have a LOT of free time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 09:41 PM
11

?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 09:19 PM
6

My BF is allergic to cats and I have 2 as well! He spends a lot of time at my place. I noticed these tricks helped against his allergies: - he wears glasses vs. contacts at my place - air purifier in living room - claritin is on hand when needed - no cats allowed in bedroom -floors/carpets are cleaned regularly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 08:39 PM
23

EXACTLY. This is why having multiple suitors helped me out in the long run. You see multiple guys try to use these LVM tactics and you can dodge the bullets easily.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 12:18 AM
66

This is SO true. What's hilarious is when multiple suitors send you the same good morning text ... at the same time. It's like they talk to each other and agreed on the same blanket text
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 11:36 PM
15

He wants to get laid but is too lazy to forge a connection with a new person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 09:16 PM
52

my friend told me she thought that relationships only work when the man likes the woman more than she likes him, which I totally believe. My older brother has been telling me the same thing all of my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 09:13 PM
3

Welcome fellow queen! Please see our ideologies to determine whether these align with your dating goals: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/ideology Hope you stick around! I love reading the advice and book recommendations from this sub
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 09:08 PM
3

Low value male
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 08:53 PM
20

We don't hate men. Why would we date them if we did?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 05:51 PM
26

I'm definitely getting a prenup and I refuse to marry without one. I recommend ensuring that BOTH parties have their lawyers review it, else it could be overturned in court.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 05:35 PM
2

How old is "too old"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 05:13 PM
49

Shit like this makes me wish I was a lesbian. Not kidding
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 02:00 AM
34

She’s giving a slow blink that says “you’re still talking....WHY” throughout his spiel 🤣 Her lashes look gorgeous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 01:57 AM
6

I mean you are growing a little human inside of you. I'd hardly call that "not doing much" LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 12:08 AM
6

Welcome to the sub! We listed a few of our principles here: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/ideology I hope you stick around!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 11:55 PM
9

I make enough for the both of us, don't worry about it. That's hot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 11:29 PM
4

Disgusting Just learned about this phenomenon today
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 11:18 PM
11

he expected me to keep fronting him rent money even when he kept cheating on me He doesn't sound too bright LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 11:17 PM
3

Read Rule 3 - No Excessive Male Sympathizing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 09:28 PM
2

Seems like you're getting defensive in your responses. I understand that your man couldn't get you anything other than fake diamond $60 engagement ring because it was Christmas time so everything was sold out. That's fine, but giving a man the ultimatum deviates from the FDS ideology (https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/ideology). Your flair has been updated to 'At-Risk Pick Me Youth'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 09:19 PM
1

No excessive male sympathizing. Please read the rules on the sidebar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 08:56 PM
1

Not your mother's rules GREAT book!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 05:10 PM
0

What if they don't exist?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 11:38 PM
3

Low value male
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 11:37 PM
3

Online dating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 11:32 PM
5

Reddit is a work in progress lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 11:27 PM
1

Bumble is a TOTAL waste of time. I used Hinge, OkCupid, Match and Tinder. Was most successful with Match.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 11:18 PM
20

She's not his girlfriend, she's his MOMMY. I couldn't help but read lol. Classic mistake!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 11:18 PM
38

The bullet points you listed above pretty much confirm that this dude doesn't have much game. He couldn't get it up? Wow.... NEXT!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 11:15 PM
4

be intense with filtering LVM out Sage teachings! I think as I continued to get more dating practice, I became more and more efficient at weeding these out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 10:33 PM
5

I think OLD is useful if you are a busy person that doesn't get to meet many new faces. At my job my coworkers are more than a decade older than me so there's no hope meeting someone there (I wouldn't want to date anyone at my work anyway). It's good at filtering out people with glaring differences but you still have to be cautious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 10:32 PM
20

Oh god I just read that post
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 10:28 PM
1

Thanks for your service
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 10:26 PM
12

I lost so many brain cells reading that garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 10:20 PM
5

But I should add that he did say its only a temporary ring (were not rich) and he's going to save up and he will upgrade and get a better ring for me at a future date, because I did tell him that I wanted gold but he got silver anyway and I immediately brought that up, so Ive already complained about the ring once to him as it is.. IDK why he didn't just wait to give you the ring you wanted. I don't think you're being ungrateful... my BF's sister made her fiance take the ring back. Apparently he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 10:16 PM
2

Low value male
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 08:40 PM
3

Low value male
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 06:04 PM
6

Low value male
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 06:04 PM
15

Low value male
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 05:59 PM
3

HVM = high value male
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 06:41 PM
9

Keep commenting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 06:03 PM
4

HVW = high value woman LVW = low value male
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 06:02 PM
10

No excessive male sympathizing. Read the rules on the sidebar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 12:18 AM
8

I’d move him to the back burner. Blocking is used when I feel like they disrespect me or I am sure they are someone I don’t want to be with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 10:55 PM
9

No standard shaming. Read the rules on the sidebar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 06:25 PM
15

Lol yeah they love to overvalue themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 07:33 AM
6

Good luck! Remember, you’re a queen! Even if you feel like going out with another guy is a waste of time... DO it. You can get valuable dating practice and try restaurants - you could suggest the next time the guy you like asks you where to go. 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 02:23 AM
3

Going to have to demote you for that one... most women go on dates to learn about potential suitors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 12:24 AM
6

FDS = Female Dating Strategy LVM = Low value male POS = Piece of shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 12:12 AM
7

Being 'fair' is something you do with coworkers. A man you are dating seriously could hypothetically be the father of your kids. In that case, pregnancy is NOT fair. You give up your body in order to keep his genes in the gene pool. This is why men should pay most of the time - it's their opportunity to show they can provide when things get tough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 12:10 AM
1

It's not nearly as bad as using OLD for the average dude. Die mad, scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 12:02 AM
2

Rule 3 - No Excessive Male Sympathizing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 11:58 PM
3

Trash dick for sure, it's like they want you to be grateful they gave you the time of day. I bet if you sat down and compared the number of matches you have their asses would shut up REAL QUICK
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 11:56 PM
2

Read Rule 3 - No Excessive Male Sympathizing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 11:54 PM
1

Read Rule 2 - All Advice Should Focus On Maximum Female Benefit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 11:52 PM
1

So I'm mostly unsure if I should really be myself and want to do laid back and casual dates or if I should try to be more demanding and set an expectation of nice dates to keep him interested even though I don't really prefer these kinds of dates. Sorry if this a little confusing. I would recommend the latter. Anything someone works hard for increases in value the harder it is to obtain. By taking you out, he is given the opportunity to impress you. You will have Netflix and chill dates like onc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 11:40 PM
2

Rule 3 - No Excessive Male Sympathizing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 11:33 PM
1

nice username
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 11:29 PM
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I love this so much. When the subject of drafting comes up it's really interesting how men developed arguments against women being forced to conscript ("how can they control their emotions during that time of the month blah blah"). I honestly believe they keep women from the draft to justify the wage gap between the sexes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 07:59 PM
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Once he says that he doesn't want a relationship, PLACE HIM ON THE BOTTOM OF YOUR LIST OF PRIORITIES. Treat him more casually, and show him that he can't have the benefits of a relationship without the commitment. This right here is great advice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 07:57 PM
4

Best of luck! My liver was never the same after (jk)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 07:49 PM
15

I'm a civil engineer and I agree with this statement LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 07:49 PM
3

I am surprised you didn't get the "you need therapy" response that is so common there. Glad you found our sub!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 06:03 PM
5

My one loud ass fart that didn’t even stink is NOT the same things as you tear gassing me all day and night (every day and every night) with your inhale-through-the-mouth-exhale-through-your-ass-protocol This is just so eloquent
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 06:01 PM
7

I am glad you found us! Their advice was ridiculous. Literally tons of posts defending guys for leading a girl on with an LTR and then dumping her after sex, or encouraging women to have sex whenever they want (& accusing them of playing games). Um, NO - your pussy is precious, therefore, it should be awarded judiciously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 05:58 PM
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One-itis is so self-destructive! Dating got so much better for me after I adopted this ideology. There are some behaviors that only manifest themselves when you date multiple men. It's important to see this before you commit to anything. Good luck girl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 05:53 PM
3

He usually pays. I offer to pay every 2-3 dates since a relationship is a team effort. He doesn't really like it as much as me cooking for him though. Instead of going out I began suggesting cooking dinner and he has appreciated it much more. In his culture (Ukranian) women do not pay for dates, so that's probably why he isn't so crazy about me paying for stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 05:49 PM
7

Out of curiosity, why pilots?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 05:38 PM
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Date 👏other 👏men 👏until👏 you👏 become 👏exclusive👏. You’ll be too busy to spend too much time on him and his interest in you will likely be piqued. You might also find someone that is interested in something long term while he figures out what he wants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 05:28 PM
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That mod’s response is EXACTLY why this sub exists. Thanks for the misogyny r/DatingOverThirty mods! You made me come here when I was looking for a worthy dating subreddit, and your poor quality advice made me frequent this place so much that I eventually became a mod here. No, post nut clarity is not an excuse to treat women like garbage after getting what you want. Yes, women should be mad when men use the carrot on the stick strategy to get them into bed. You won’t get banned on r/DatingOverT…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 12:35 AM
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Even if you do have loads of free time, they don’t have to know 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 10:09 PM
13

It is a breakup so it has to sound like one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 10:08 PM
20

Lmao maybe replacing him would be better 😭🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 08:46 PM
19

This a female only space. Go comment somewhere else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 08:41 PM
9

Who called you that? This isn't a feminist sub - it's a dating sub. Please report all hateful comments to the mods.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 08:38 PM
4

He should make his way back to you without much prodding on your behalf. Men don't get many matches, so you are probably still sitting high on his inbox queue
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 08:35 PM
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I always ended dates first. He tried to reschedule a date with me last-minute for the following day, but I couldn't (I had a date with another man). He respected the fact that I had a schedule and stuck to it. Even as a GF, I don't choose him over my work and hobbies. He wants to hang out Monday, or Friday? I can't because I'm busy with Muay Thai training. You want me to stay in to cuddle with you? I'd rather not skip work and save my sick days for when I need them. I also didn't have sex with h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 08:32 PM
21

Hey scrote, can you read rule #2 for me? Course you can't Rule 2 - No “Standard Shaming”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 08:17 PM
3

You're in the wrong sub...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 08:11 PM
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I would demote him to FWB, start dating others, and leave him for a more worthwhile suitor. Actually just dropping him would be more beneficial - can't have the porn sick take up space in my rotation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 08:08 PM
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He should be able to connect the dots if you do the following: You are not always available. Only offer 2 days out of the week to hang out. Be sure to say 'or' unless he expressly asks for both days. As a rule of thumb, he has to book dates at least 3 days in advance. Do not answer his first text until 4 hours later. Do not answer texts during the weekend until about Sunday. Try to end text conversations first. Do not share your plans on days you are not hanging out with him. Just say you are bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 07:58 PM
3

3 months is the goal but in reality, it doesn't always happen. One thing I like about this sub is this idealogy: 5.Don't have sex before commitment has been established (if you're looking for a relationship) or before he has demonstrated value and investment (if you're looking for FWBs). If a man is really into you and sees you as girlfriend material, he will commit to you in two months (or three months max). If you're looking to have a dependable FWB, you must still require investment from him …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 06:00 PM
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Read Rule #2 - All Advice Should Focus On Maximum Female Benefit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 05:56 PM
6

Sometimes your partner doesn’t want sex and that’s ok. It really shouldn't be this hard to grasp this concept. It really shows how strong the rape culture affects men to this day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 05:23 PM
3

No standard shaming. Read the rules on the sidebar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 08:26 PM
1

Thanks I am going today and Wednesday (my gym is closed tomorrow). Needed this daily reminder to not get lazy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 08:25 PM
20

Agreed - these men make it sound like they view you as an erotic flavor of the day instead of as a human being with a conscious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 08:14 PM
3

Why did you sob the entire movie? I love that book too 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 06:20 AM
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Read Rule #2 - No Excessive Male Sympathizing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 10:14 PM
91

Exactly. You shouldn’t be confused
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 09:29 PM
6

This 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 07:00 AM
3

He does not respect your boundaries, doesn’t trust you to have male friends and is dishonest about your relationship to his female friends. He asked you to send nudes. That is not okay. Why are you accepting this? Get out ASAP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 07:00 AM
38

Wow lol. What’s dating coming to? 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 06:43 AM
2

I got it from Crazybitchprobs on Instagram. Her posts are hilarious I recommend it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 01:18 AM
6

Damn I really wish I could edit the title of this post now. “Nice try chode” 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 07:45 PM
5

Username checks out 🤣 Read Rule #1 - This Sub Is For Women & By Women Exclusively
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 03:09 PM
14

Shut up scrote. Your opinion is not welcome here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 03:05 PM
7

I wonder if it works lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:59 PM
35

“Feeling like a casual relationship”. Glad you didn’t fall for that garbage. Some men will make you waste months and years of your life for low effort relationships. Good job OP 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 01:46 AM
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Pick me’s can’t stand being alone and happily settle for scraps. They don’t realize that us queens PREFER to be alone than play GF with a shitty dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 01:08 AM
3

No standard shaming. Read the rules on the sidebar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 12:06 AM
36

Same. Talking about money is in bad taste (for me anyway)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 11:45 PM
27

Best. Dating. Book. Ever. The Rules is good too but this one is funnier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 09:48 PM
7

That’s why I date up to 3 men until commitment is established. Anytime one of them exhibits one of the aforementioned behaviors I weed them out of my rotation. The quality of man I interact with improves drastically over time with this approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 05:28 PM
27

Congratulations! He sounds like a keeper
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 04:28 PM
13

Congrats on taking out the trash! There’s definitely more men out there that are worth your time. Girls have such an advantage when it comes to dating - dick is abundant. Get yourself that shirt queen 👸🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 06:19 AM
19

I’d leave it in the box
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 06:05 AM
18

This is just so sad 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 06:05 AM
35

HARD PASS. My BF actually asked me how much he should save for a ring yesterday... I told him $7,000 to be safe 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 06:03 AM
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Read Rule #1 - This Sub Is For Women & By Women Exclusively
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 12:55 AM
44

LMAO at him thinking his opinion is relevant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 11:24 PM
5

Maybe there are plenty of women that enjoy easy, no-strings sex as well? Um, obviously she's not one of them? So many idiots in the comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 11:04 PM
3

I am so sorry you went through this. I hope everything made you stronger. He is a disgusting man. One day, especially if he has daughters, he will remember the garbage he's done. He will have to PRAY that his daughters don't meet a man like him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 06:49 PM
4

This is stellar advice. I hope OP reads it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 06:48 PM
1

Real Rule #2 - All Advice Should Focus On Maximum Female Benefit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 06:43 PM
1

Read Rule #3 - No Excessive Male Sympathizing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 06:43 PM
41

It does work! Dating became fun once I treated men as if I was only MARGINALLY interested in them. That’s when the lavish dates started. I began to weed out the low effort males from my rotation in a quick manner. Each time I almost zoned in on a guy and began to doubt dating multiple men until commitment, I read The Rules and Why Men Love Bitches. Those books seriously changed dating for me! They’re also what FDS is about. Glad to hear you aren’t entertaining losers. We are here for you sister!…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 06:49 AM
4

This 💯 I also didn’t have strong feelings for them so I didn’t have the patience to teach them 😂🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 06:38 AM
4

Let's hope their diet didn't consist of cheetos and twinkies. else the roasted BBQ won't have nutritional value LOL. Even roasted they might be useless!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 01:06 AM
3

Awww that is so adorable. My BF (Ukrainian) has given me 5 bouquets in a span of 7 weeks. He also isn't super loaded or anything (he's a mechanic) ... actually I make more than him (I'm an engineer). I totally agree that LVM are the ones that think giving flowers to a girl is lame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 01:04 AM
16

The girl in story #6 is a textbook "forever girlfriend" - moved in without a ring and ok with Netflix and chill dates
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 11:50 PM
24

I've had pretty similar experiences, but the well-endowed men didn't really learn how to be good sexual partners. Their big penis was cool in the short-term, but I eventually left both men for more engaging partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 11:40 PM
3

He’s definitely a keeper for sure. That is so cute 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 02:15 PM
7

🤢 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 02:40 AM
14

Best advice ever lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 02:39 AM
4

This. 🤣😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 02:13 AM
37

I don't even think I'd want them at that point LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 12:25 AM
27

In my limited experience, American men do not buy flowers. The only BF's that gave me flowers were from different countries (Mexico and Ukraine). I wonder if it's starting to be taboo in American culture now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 12:24 AM
6

I think it's because you labeled yourself as a "red pill woman" (RPW) in one of your previous comments 1 month ago. RPWs are considered "pick-me's", so someone could have assigned the flair based on that notion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 11:51 PM
12

Get the number out of your life by focusing on YOURSELF. Pamper yourself - try a manicure, a pedicure, or a new hairstyle. Go out on dates. Attention from other men can be the ointment to your wounds! DON'T EVER GIVE MEN MONEY AGAIN!!!! EVER!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 11:27 PM
12

Yup. He has to make you feel like a queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 08:34 PM
7

It depends on what you want. Do you want a serious relationship with this person? Then I'd wait 1-3 months (after defining the relationship). Are you looking for a FWB? Then I'd wait 1-2 months until he has invested time and effort into your happiness. Anything less than that wouldn't be worth it for me personally, because my orgasms will all be fake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 08:31 PM
5

I wait until we are in a serious, monogamous relationship and nothing in between. Usually it takes about 1-2 months (ideally 3) if he's someone I can see myself with
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 08:29 PM
2

I never spend more than $200 on a gift tops.... $500 is almost my rent!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 08:06 PM
13

That is unbelievably disappointing. How can someone stay in a relationship like that for so long?? I was dating someone for a few months (we were monogamous already) and he gave me a pack of bacon one morning. I was confused, so he said "I wanted to give you a surprise and figured you'd like this instead of flowers." NOPE. I threw him back into the dating pool and am now in a relationship where I get flowers and jewelry as gifts. Not bacon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 08:05 PM
7

After 2+ months it’s either he knows he wants me or I just walk away and save time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 06:07 PM
47

I like your response better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 05:56 PM
22

I agree with this post , because some men are persistent in gathering details of a woman's past. If he absolutely does not respect your boundaries and insists on knowing your sexual past, then you have EVERY right to lie. I don't lie about my sexual history - I flat out refuse to share it. Why? It's NONE OF HIS DAMN BUSINESS. You are not a piece of meat that he's inspecting at the butcher shop before buying. If he doesn't understand that, then drop him ASAP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 05:25 PM
6

works in finance or investment banking Out of curiosity, why include this one?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 04:54 PM
4

Which country do you live in?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 03:25 PM
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Don’t respond. Your time is valuable and he didn’t respect that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 05:46 AM
11

If he doesn't get you anything for the holidays, then DUMP HIM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 11:57 PM
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Men complain about women only liking tall guys but in reality it's the tall guys that love the short girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 10:56 PM
12

Rule #3 - All Advice Should Focus On Maximum Female Benefit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 01:04 AM
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Read Rule #2 - No Excessive Male Sympathizing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 12:53 AM
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Read Rule #2 - No Excessive Male Sympathizing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 12:29 AM
1

You didn't break a rule - this comment was just inaccurate and stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 12:28 AM
4

Rule #6 - Do NOT Feed The Trolls!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 12:27 AM
2

Rule #3 - All Advice Should Focus On Maximum Female Benefit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 12:23 AM
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Read Rule #3 - All Advice Should Focus On Maximum Female Benefit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 12:18 AM
32

Not prioritizing men over women = a slow and painful death for men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 12:15 AM
13

then i'd ditch the dude and become friends with her lmao I LIKE THIS ONE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 12:14 AM
3

What if she's a lesbian?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 12:02 AM
4

Read Rule #2 - No Excessive Male Sympathizing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 11:41 PM
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Read Rule #2 - No Excessive Male Sympathizing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 11:39 PM
5

HVM = high value male LVW = low value male TRP = the red pill (subreddit)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 05:46 AM
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I’m seriously considering a “dump him” or “Unmatch. Block. Delete.” tank top right now 😂🤣😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 04:03 AM
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Rule #1 - This Sub Is For Women & By Women Exclusively
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 11:45 PM
3

Casual sex is basically faking orgasms. You hit the nail on the head for sure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 11:40 PM
8

I agree! Someone in this sub recommended it to me a few months ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 09:30 PM
9

This is golden advice! Texting too much shows them that you are OK with low-effort communication and attention. It's also very impersonal for deep subjects.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 09:22 PM
37

After reading Why Men Love Bitches... I would prefer to be called a bitch instead of nice. Good job on cutting off the toxic men!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 08:05 PM
45

Bumble is a haven for low-effort men (with VERY few exceptions). In my experience, they put less effort into upholding a conversation and almost expect YOU to ask THEM out. I suspect the woman initiating messages makes some men think that they can sit back, make mediocre attempts at conversation, and somehow magically land a date. I ultimately dropped it in favor of Hinge, OkCupid, Tinder, and Match.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 07:57 PM
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Edit: I blocked him, fuck this guy Smart move. Sounds like he just wanted a reaction out of you, but all he got was 'good'. LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 07:52 PM
4

I am so glad I'm not on the pill. I tried it for a few months about 8 years ago and noticed a dramatic decline in my libido. Literally never tried it again after that. This article confirms that I wasn't the only one that experienced this! Condoms or no sex. That's my rule.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 07:17 PM
5

Yes he should! He should be suggesting places at least
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 02:07 PM
8

Omg I’m so happy for you! Congrats on the new relationship. I still practice FDS rules with my BF too, and I did since the very beginning. FDS methods work!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 06:31 AM
7

Exactly girl, your time is valuable!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 06:29 AM
8

Have you ever met up with any questionable characters that insisted on meeting up first? That's my only fear with that method. Your method is definitely good if you hate chit chatting online. It gets exhausting sometimes lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 11:19 PM
7

Read Rule #2 - No Excessive Male Sympathizing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 10:48 PM
23

Depends on (1) his age since older guys prefer in-person interaction and (2) the content of the conversation up to that point. If he wasn't trying to get to know me in the first few exchanges then that's a red flag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 10:44 PM
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Rule #3 - All comments and posts, should be focused on how the woman can derive maximum benefit for herself, and herself only. Mutual benefit should be a byproduct, not a goal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 10:07 PM
15

LVM = low value male HVM = high value male Same with women except we use LVW, and HVW
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 09:36 PM
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the only men threatened by this idea are the types that don't see women as people. This is the TRUTH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 09:15 PM
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He's going to get his fee fees hurt when he can't compete with a 22 year old man at the peak of his virility, with an intact hairline, all of his teeth, and the ability to sustain a boner without pills :/ It's fascinating how these men STILL somehow, find a way to overvalue themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 08:31 PM
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he was like pfft, knowing he wanted me and would do anything to convince me to choose him. It is SO attractive when a man is confident and doesn't mind competing for your attention! This is why he is your BF now. He didn't expect you to do the work - he did the pursuing. In my opinion, healthy relationships start off when the man is doing the pursuing and NOT the other way around. That snap chatter wanted a pen pal to string along but you were way to smart for that garbage. Good job sister! My B…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 08:13 PM
10

This. I have dated engineers, dentists, etc. that were cheap on dates. Hard pass for me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 08:04 PM
2

I would drop #7 and #8 ASAP. It's really hard to date people that you are not attracted to or that remind you of your dad!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 06:12 PM
7

That is a beautiful memory. May your cat Rest In Peace 😢. I would be so broken if my kitty left me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 01:51 AM
15

I have a theory that cats know what you're feeling. On more than one occasion, my cat has curled up on my chest when I was feeling especially sad. It made me feel loved! She never does it when I'm laying down otherwise
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 12:17 AM
8

I would have hired a maid service and left him with the bill LOL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 11:34 PM
2

Rule #1. Please read the side bar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 10:46 PM
2

I think the facials were great for my acne scars, but for the acne itself Clinique Acne Solutions helped alot too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 07:11 PM
15

WHYWHYWHY do you keep these assclowns around? why do you feel the need to respond to them in any way and keep them in your life in any way? I think a big reason that women keep them around is because society tells us that we have to be nice. In reality, we need to be ruthless in our assessment of men - block LVMs as soon as they try to use their pitiful strategies on us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 06:13 PM
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This pretty much summarizes FDS strategy in a nutshell. Great post OP!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 05:55 PM
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Focus on yourself. A man that really cares about you will make you feel like a prize. He is treating you like you are auditioning to be his long-term GF. What he doesn't understand is that women are the selective sex, not men. Observe what happens when you pull back from him - start getting busy with your hobbies, friends and family. Give yourself a manicure, pedicure, facial, or just spoil yourself. Turn him down for a few dates because you are doing something important to you - be honest but v…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 05:51 PM
5

Nice username 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 01:55 PM
6

I'm in the engineering sector
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 01:54 PM
27

Wow that’s brutal and embarrassing for him. Queen sh** right here 😂😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 05:35 AM
4

Depends on your skin! I was prone to acne/acne scars so it helps prevent them. If you have good skin I doubt it would be a big deal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 05:28 AM
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The key thing is that even if you ignore the direct monetary investment that women invest into beauty products, the sheer time investment that women put into preparing for dates should be enough to merit the men paying, at least with today’s societal expectations that strictly require women perform these actions for dating. This. If I include literally everything in my routine that falls under health & beauty it consists of: Laser hair removal ($1000 for 6 treatments) Semi-permanent eyelash exte…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 12:36 AM
3

For me, cheating and physical abuse are instant terminations If everyone adopted this no BS mentality then it would happen far less than it should. The excuse of "but I love him!" does not work for any of these acts!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 12:26 AM
2

Yeeeeah I was thinking the same thing. OP pretty much gave him the equivalent of her business card. In my opinion, HE should be asking HER for her contact information.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 12:25 AM
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I think the best revenge is throwing your ex back into the dating pool because it's not fun for the average man. Meanwhile, you enjoy the company of a HVM catering to your desires. Awesome job girl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 11:56 PM
8

The first 5 minutes of the date were a huge lady boner killer. Does this guy not realize women literally have hundreds of options in the dating realm?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 11:51 PM
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I would ask them questions about their job and home life - this weeds out jobless and homeless men with OLD profiles. In all seriousness, I look to see if they can keep a 2-way conversation. It baffles me how many men out there can't for the life of them talk about subjects other than themselves. Most of the time THEY ARE NOT EVEN INTERESTING.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 11:46 PM
15

I definitely wouldn't follow up and would wait to see what he does. If you begin doing the initiating in the early stages of courtship he will rely on you for everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 12:00 AM
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They need to raise the bar - if women are judicious in who we they spend the rest of their days with, then low-value men will be kept out of the gene pool. "Yeah we sleep around in our 20's and then settle down with some beta we don't really like and divorce him for his money. Is it wrong for a human beings to explore their sexuality in their 20's? Or just for women? It's inherent human nature to settle down at one point in your life. That stereotype goes both ways. That divorce bit is garbage -…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 06:45 PM
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I up and left everyone to be with him. I’m 100 miles away from my friends, family, and my old life. This isn't going to end well for OP. You can just tell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 06:34 PM
17

I think he believes you're playing hard to get vs. being genuinely uninterested. It gives him hope LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 12:45 AM
65

Fascinating how some men can’t fathom that their FWB actually sees no long-term potential in them 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 12:10 AM
63

That guy sounds like a turd but she made a CLASSIC MISTAKE by letting him think she wasn’t pursued by other men. This is literally one of the worst things you can do in the early stages of dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 12:07 AM
26

When I get upset I walk away and ask for space. I wait until I am calm before I communicate, which is when men usually freak out and apologize for disrespecting me. My absence is enough to make them think "wow I must have done something messed up if she really wants to see less of me". If they don't apologize, then I cut them off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 04:50 PM
50

I would just run away from this dumpster fire as fast as I could. I’d also date others and not rush into anything too quickly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 03:17 PM
15

👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 04:34 AM
13

Doesn’t matter as long as he is generous, treats you right AND signs a pre-nup (especially if they want to have kids with you). It’s not fair for a woman to do irreversible damage to her body and at the same time lose half her earnings because the guy she married turned out to be an ass a few years into the marriage. I learned that some of the wealthiest men are the most frugal on dates. This isn’t always true but the rule is not to settle for subpar treatment like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 12:40 AM
15

Wait is this for real?! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 02:32 PM
1

We never had a male figure or role model to lead our home, i even grew with a mental disorder because i wasn't raised i was watched, i grew out of with personal effort, a lot of blood sweat amd tears. (i never talked about my mental disorder before but see my other posts if you want to know what kind of man i am) N I don't feel sorry for you scumbag. Illiterate woman beater
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 07:14 PM
10

Welcome to the sub
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 07:00 PM
6

Bonus points if you kick him out before he busts a nut 😈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 01:48 PM
20

Men will literally jump at the opportunity for sex regardless of what they claim to be looking for. They NEED it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 12:02 AM
2

My n-count just went down to 3.... wow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 10:35 PM
3

Congrats on your recent successes. You truly turned a bad situation into something beneficial.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 03:49 PM
18

I was just so turned off. Yes, she was indeed pretty but I don’t know what the point of it was. To show off that he was once with a hot girl? Yes. Exactly. I would next anyone that did this. You handled this gracefully OP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 03:45 PM
7

Lazy parents are to blame for the overwhelming amount of entitled men out there. I swear to god I can't compare my accomplishments to theirs because I will be sorely disappointed. Yet somehow, they think they deserve a model type that sits back and takes their garbage. Delusional AF Ok WTF if my brother ever tried to hit my mom she would have his a** handed to him in an instant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 03:42 PM
11

ACCURATE AF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 05:05 AM
22

This. 😂🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 04:37 AM
10

Happens a lot to me in this sub 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 04:37 AM
19

I never sent nudes out because my brother warned me that guys do this. SO true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 11:00 PM
1

This! Roses and jewelry would be chill 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 06:44 PM
1

It was his instructor that called him, but my Muay Thai Kru’s agreed he shouldn’t have answered (even if he’s on the fight team). He’s apologized profusely about it, but I just want time to cool off. I’m glad I waited before saying anything in the heat of the moment though. I didn’t even need to say it, he already knew lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 06:32 PM
2

I just told him I was hurt that my time wasn’t valuable to him after he kept calling the next day. I didn’t have to say anything more than that - he knew it was wrong. I have no idea. I think it was because I was drunk and felt bad for cutting the night short. In retrospect I shouldn’t have offered. I am not worried about it anymore, to be fair I also have pics with me and famous male Muay Thai practitioners. He does use FB often. He said he’s sorry but I still don’t feel like spending time with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 06:27 PM
11

I pretty much backed off, never responded and am re-reading Why Men Love Bitches. Going to focus on me right now. Thanks so much 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 07:43 PM
7

Yup he’s being clueless so I just haven’t responded. Thanks for your valuable advice 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 07:41 PM
3

This made me re-read Why Men Love Bitches. I’m just letting him freak out on his own and just doing me right now. I love your response ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 07:40 PM
6

Even our Muay Thai instructors don’t call us randomly like that. It’s weird
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 07:38 PM
3

He has yet to admit his actions were rude and is trying to figure out why I was mad. I still haven’t replied and won’t until he realizes it on his own/after consulting friends and family. What are the two reasons?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 07:35 PM
11

ok thank you! My fellow muay thai friend said this was uncalled for as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 07:20 AM
62

You pretty much hit the nail on the head. Men are always trying to see what they can get away with. If you shower him with attention and compliments and he rarely does it in return, then he'll take you for granted ASAP. Unless you are a mental challenge to him, he'll always operate under "the grass is greener on the other side" mentality. I had to learn this the hard way. It's quite liberating once I did though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 12:34 AM
107

Yeah that’s a total myth. I had a partner try to convince me of this but once he saw that it was either my way or the high way he came in the condom like a big boy lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 08:38 PM
35

This is exactly why I never gave insecure men the time of day
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 08:36 PM
11

What is PID? Sorry if that’s a dumb question 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 01:41 PM
7

It’s always a no for me when they have a shirtless pic, but flipping me off in a shirtless pic? Anyone that’s turned on by this must have some SERIOUS issues
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 07:06 AM
7

As a 1st-generation Mexican-American, I also embraced these concepts! My BF is a Ukrainian immigrant and he hasn’t done those things to me - he respects me. I don’t ask him to speak Russian as a weird fetish or treat him as exotic either. These are solid points for all cultures, OP. Thanks for this. 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 05:55 PM
12

Don't text him. Your unresolved feelings will make literally any response he gives you into a big deal. Take this time to focus on YOURSELF. Think hobbies, manicures, pedicures, etc. Date others until someone tries to lock you down. Why spend so much of your time on a guy who is obviously not ready?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 11:15 PM
25

Yes, all the time. They want to know that you're at home on a Saturday night twiddling your thumbs. I just don't reply until way later and keep it vague - I don't lie or anything though. If I was on a date I just say "hanging out with a friend". It drives them nuts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 10:02 PM
1

What about "manlet"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 09:32 PM
3

I would cry if they did that lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 09:32 PM
3

Seconded AF - not worth the drama
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 09:19 PM
17

6-year girlfriend?? Moved in without a ring?? Girls this is a recipe for disappointment and wasted years
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 07:22 PM
93

Let me get this straight: he wants YOU to drive to HIM 30+ minutes away for his pitiful version of a “date”? Chilling at his place is not a date 🤣 I wonder if women out there actually agree to that garbage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 07:19 PM
14

I’d next him immediately for spewing out such stupidity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 01:05 AM
15

....hard pass 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 12:47 AM
7

Depends on how long you’ve been going out. In person or over the phone in my opinion
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 04:03 AM
3

When their actions match their words. Sometimes it could happen as early as 2 months in. I’d be cautious for anything less than that unless they clearly are being serious and it is manifested in their actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 04:01 AM
4

Congrats on running the heck away from that psycho 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 08:39 AM
12

Don’t continue with it. Date others until commitment is established
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 08:36 AM
29

Girl is nice to dude = rejects her. Girl doesn’t even know dude exists = he’s obsessed with her. Men are hilarious 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 08:35 AM
5

I like your friend already 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 09:37 PM
25

Yass lmfao 🤣😂😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 08:14 PM
1

We learn from our mistakes. That’s how I learned 🤣😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 04:59 AM
2

I totally agree with your Snapchat comment lol. When I was a newbie I agreed to exchange snaps and was sent a pic of a shirtless dude with his hands down his pants. Never. Again. EVER.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 04:58 AM
8

They usually want to send you provocative pics and it’s the easiest way to do it. Sleazy level 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 04:56 AM
27

“I don’t do drama” = I cause meaningless arguments for the sheer reason of reveling in your attention. I will stage conflicts and then gaslight you into thinking you are the problem. I’m also insecure so even negative attention is a win for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 01:25 AM
13

I was tempted to lower my standards on more than one occasion on OKC for the same reasons. I just acquired different platforms all together instead. Hinge, Bumble (very quickly abandoned that one though), Tinder, Coffee Meets Bagel and Match kept me from lowering standards. Ultimately it was beneficial but anytime someone pushes me for a Snapchat or WhatsApp I nope the fu** out of that conversation ASAP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 01:21 AM
21

Dating insecure men is dangerous for this reason! Their end goal is to make you as insecure (if not more) than them. I’m glad you got out of that situation. There are plenty confident men out their that would kill to be with you. Men are of abundance. Glad you found our sub girl 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 03:29 PM
23

You’re such a sweetheart! Glad to have another nice gal around. This is a safe space for us queens 👸
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 11:22 PM
4

I had such a laugh reading this you pretty much summarized our different ideologies perfectly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 06:53 PM
10

That would have been such a sick burn 🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 06:34 PM
13

I loved it when more than one guy I was dating would send me the “good morning beautiful” text AT THE SAME TIME 😂😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 06:20 PM
5

I would recommend working on being receptive. Don’t dodge someone the second you realize you have feelings. Don’t do the pursuing either. Just act really comfortable with your surroundings and maintain a pleasant demeanor. If your crush makes eye contact with you, then give him a sweet smile. That should be enough for him to feel like he can approach you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 06:06 PM
38

This is a perfect example of a MALE GOLD DIGGER. He was obviously projecting when he tried to guilt you for dating a surgeon lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 06:00 PM
47

I can’t agree with you more. I ignored my now-BF after a couple of days of texting because he didn’t set a date. He proceeded to spam my phone until I replied. Once I replied, he very quickly asked to set up our first date. GIRLS, DONT FEEL LIKE YOU ARE BEING MEAN. You’re doing them a favor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 05:44 PM
13

I love this. A new year a new slogan ☝️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 05:42 PM
4

This sub is for women only. Boy bye!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 05:38 PM
15

I’m going to be blunt. If he didn’t put a ring on it, then it’s going to be difficult for you to ask for anything. Men usually start changing when they move in with someone without establishing any commitment (a wedding date). You can try to talk to him about it, but the most effective way to do it is by being less available. Idk how you can do that if you’re living in his place though. Edit: maybe bring up the fact that a friend has a lease that’s expiring soon and needs a roommate? It might li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 05:15 PM
32

This. It’s ridiculous how they encourage a certain behavior and then try to punish the woman for it. Sometimes I wish I liked women, because men make me sick at times 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 05:12 PM
12

It makes sense after reading r/RedPillWomen women posts and the "advice" they give on there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 12:05 AM
4

27
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 11:28 PM
6

I’m keeping this one 😂😭🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 11:22 PM
4

Lmao 🤣😂😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 09:32 PM
1

Clinique acne solutions coupled with Aveeno lotion everyday. I also get facials every 6 weeks as well. My skin is pretty much flawless now 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 08:22 PM
16

Block him on everything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 07:58 PM
10

At this point he doesn't have the looks much less the money to keep another girl interested during the early stages of dating. What are they going to do on dates? Netflix and chill? GOOD LUCK WITH THAT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 07:52 PM
3

I was thinking the same thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 05:11 PM
7

LOL it's really hard for some men to take a step back and assess their relationship potential. If he actually listened to the women in his life instead of calling them crazy, he would have at least one LTR under his belt. I dated a guy similar to this with only 1 LTR, but from the sounds of it "she started all of the fights" and they would regularly engage in shouting matches. I pretty much "nexted" him after he kept mentioning his very unhealthy LTR, and he subesequently friend-zoned himself. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 04:58 PM
3

I was thinking of the people that didn't pay for dates (it was only 1 guy out of 13 this year), and noticed that he was definitely a manlet (5'5") LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 04:25 PM
13

Thanks for reminding me that I need a pedicure soon. I actually recently noticed that the guys I've dated pay attention to this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 09:17 PM
4

Whenever a guy does that it's a total turn off. I think you handled this well and essentially saved yourself from a lot of wasted time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 08:44 PM
10

I know exactly how you feel! Nice girls finish last. Men respond better when we stick to our standards and refuse to lower them. Welcome to our sub sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 06:26 PM
27

"How dare women not assume exclusivity! How dare they continue dating others when we haven't discussed monogamy!" - TRP men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 04:54 PM
1

None of my business if we aren’t exclusive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 02:37 PM
7

YUP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 04:47 AM
6

Dude THANK YOU! People think the side labels matter. THEY DONT. Side labels mean you are still single. AKA date others
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 04:21 AM
1

Damn right! Know your worth!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 04:18 AM
15

Believe me some guys actually try to use post-nut clarity as an excuse lmao Edit: I was drunk lmao grammar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 04:18 AM
6

No response is the best response. Men respond more to no contact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 02:39 AM
21

Sounds like he doesn’t have options. If he DID have options he wouldn’t have had to tell you about it and instead moved on with his life He sounds insecure and uncompetitive AF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 12:02 AM
19

That’s what gets me mad about it - it’s a huge double standard
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/19 10:46 PM
75

Welcome to our sub sister! 🥰 I came here after I realized the other dating subs gave women TERRIBLE advice. Things like: Don’t play games with him just sleep with him if you want to. Ask him out it’s 2019. You should forgive him if he cheated on you within the first few months of being serious, no one is perfect. You should know that post-nut clarity is a thing. You shouldn’t be mad at him if he changes his mind about you. The above advice only benefits men. In this sub, we are all queens and sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/19 10:42 PM
19

Apparent-fucking-ly we are. Guys like this are living a fantasy or something I’m like 100% sure his 1-yr dry spell wasn’t by choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/19 10:28 PM
39

That guy is a moron. They were dating casually for 4 months before being serious. She has every right to sleep with someone during that time. Another example of THE FRAGILE MALE EGO. Don’t share what you did when you were not together, it’s none of his damn business. You know he’s just mad that his dry spell was longer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/19 09:50 PM
-1

They keep coming and I love it 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/19 06:51 PM
6

That is a derogatory term and not allowed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/19 06:50 PM
8

Bye scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/19 06:49 PM
7

Cool story bro tell it again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/19 06:22 PM
-14

Enjoy your ban
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/19 06:21 PM
7

Oh that last part. It makes me have no problem breaking their bank.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/19 06:16 PM
8

Haha I read that part and cackled too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/19 06:05 PM
8

It is a cultural thing. I’d expect to pay for my fair share if I were dating, say, a Scandinavian, but not an American. Women in Scandinavian culture enjoy more freedoms and sexual liberation without negative repercussions than women in the US do. I’d have no problem paying for the date in that case but if an American man tried to go Dutch I would next him immediately. PS — boyfriend for 9 years? That is way too long. Next thing you know you’ll be living with him without a ring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/19 06:01 PM
0

Men get raped too but this is a female only space. There are other subs for you on Reddit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/19 05:50 AM
4

Women are the selective sex. LEAVE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/19 04:21 AM
3

Sick burn 🤣😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/19 12:51 AM
5

Amen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/19 10:55 PM
14

That would require some introspection, which they are not capable of
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/19 10:51 PM
11

I'm getting a maid to avoid cleaning up after a man-child
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/19 04:07 PM
5

I want only the best genetic material I love this lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/19 04:03 PM
9

That last sentence is gold and should be on a T-shirt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/19 03:45 AM
6

It surprisingly works really well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/19 03:37 AM
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