A week ago, I found out that my boyfriend of one year had had an affair that went on for 3 months. So literally 25% of our relationship was me being deceived.

I thought this guy was a HVM. He was emotionally invested in the relationship and we had set a timeline for a potential marriage ( some time 2 years down the line). Needless to say, I was very much in love with him and looking towards a future when his infidelity was revealed to me. Without going into unnecessary details, the event has rocked my world and I'm suffering from symptoms of infidelity induced trauma (as Google puts it).

I plan on seeking therapy and professional help to deal with this. But everywhere I look on the internet, Reddit or other websites, I find hoards of write-ups on how to heal a relationship after cheating and how to work with your partner. I don't want to heal my relationship and I want nothing to do with this guy.

So here I am, asking all you lovely ladies to give me ideas on how to heal when you have been cheated on. I know it will get better with time and I will move on, but I don't know what to do right now.