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Don't be like Me.My ex was like this.Midway through the situationsh*t when he saw i was emotionally attached he confessed he's "clinically depressed" .I was used as a therapist and ego booster and after a year when he felt good again i was slowfaded and dumped .🤡 yeah i learned a hard lesson .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 03:03 PM
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Nothing but FACTS!Learned this the hard way🤡I didn't even approach him but a ex pickme "friend" hooked us up.It was the same thing in the end though.He wasn't interested in me and physically i wasnt even his type, but he gladly took the easy ego boost.I spent the whole situation-shit playing chase the dusty 😒Yup, he slowfaded and then dumped me months later🤦🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 02:04 PM
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"And manipulation includes “being nice” to her, and playing the part of the caring boyfriend, and even introducing to family and friends to keep her hooked." This is EXACTLY what happened to me smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 05:25 PM
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Black men especially always have something horrible to say about plus sized black woman.To them,any "fat" black woman they see deserves verbal abuse.Im sooo tired of these entitled,misogynistic, miserable dirt piles.I've been bodyshamed all my life for not being skinny.Since highschool, black men have gone outta their way to make sure i knew how unworthy of love and respect they felt i was.I've always "stayed in my lane " and never bothered with them either.Still that didn't save me from their c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:48 PM
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Garbage!More bs to have women working themselves into the ground to keep and please some dusty.As if there's not enough books on how to attract an emotional parasite to suck the life out of you. Im sick of the pickme propaganda🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 07:06 PM
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💖💖💖👼awww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 01:52 AM
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😄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 07:54 PM
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This is a fake photoshop pic .i've seen it as spam on other sites.Its one of those fake click bait type pics that randomly pop up.He's using a random pic hes found on the internet to make a whole fake story.#Pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:09 PM
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🏆✨✨✨👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽It's definitely that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 07:27 PM
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"I truly believe my ex was attempting to sabotage the relationship over and over while peeking over at me to watch how I responded." Wow!Same here.Looking back im convinced smh .Its different things he would do and say .Looking back it was so obvious🤡 Being the anxious pickmeisha back then, i made excuses🤦🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 09:47 PM
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It's every point listed here, that makes me paranoid about getting into any other relationship whether romantic or platonic.I experienced every tactic with two covert narcs.One was a "friend" i'd known since Highschool .The other was my nvm ex, whom this "friend" hooked me up with.They were both emotionally abusive and drained me of emotional labor.I was the perfect "supply" ;empathetic, loyal,and with abandonment issues.I made excuses for every single one of their f***ed up behaviors .They were…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 11:37 AM
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My ex checked every box on the list smh .He was also orbiting his "friend" our whole relationsht.I was gaslit into believing i was just sooooo "insecure"and "clingy"😒 Only for him to dump me by text after a year ,when this "friend" and her boyfriend broke up.They got together... jokes on him she set him up and stole half his s***.🤷🏾🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 10:20 PM
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Talk about the future they think you want so they can take advantage view in the moment narcissist use the power of a possible future to keep you hooked as a form of narcissistic Supply NOW This triggered me so damn much smh😠I swear I didn't even know that "future faking" was an actual thing until I found FDS.I just remember feeling anxious and not knowing the word for what he was doing .I was never shown anything solid and was always gaslit when i pressed the issue .I blame myself for not block…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 09:15 PM
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''Men will say they're exclusive with women they don't see a long-term future with, but they'll stay with her anyway while they can get sex, emotional labor, money, or whatever, then dump her down the road". 🤦🏾So true smh Little did my pickmeisha self know.The whole time he told me what i wanted to hear while stringing me along for emotional labor and ego boosts.That dusty was buying time all along while wasting mines.This is why a title don't mean s*** to me at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 10:36 PM
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I stand firm in my belief of " yes all men",no apologies.Call me bitter or whatever idc 🤷🏾If a HVM comes along and pursues me great, but to believe in the lie of some prince charming fairytale and keep getting hurt over and over again...No thanks.#NotAllMen had me out there giving a NVM the benefit of the doubt🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 03:33 PM
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😂Then you'll have pickmes proudly taking pics and posting it on social media talking about #My man knows how to spoil me .🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 08:17 PM
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Congrats👑✨✨✨❤❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 12:26 AM
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A guy i was seeing tried to push me into the frienzone and I cut contact. We didn't speak for a while and now he is trying to creep back into my life Yasss!You too?Mines managed to suck a year and 3 months of my time and emotional labor from me and then tried to friendzone me .After having "dumped" me by text at that🙄He was blocked on everything and i occasionally get a weird text from different numbers trying to weasel his dusty azz back .Im with you ,IF YOU DON'T WANT ME LEAVE ME THE FUCK ALON…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 06:10 PM
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They always come back smh.Narcs with their word salads, gaslighting and non-apologies .That's why both of mines (former pick-me narc friend along with my narc ex-nvm whom she hooked me up with)will forever be paid in dust💅🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 06:34 PM
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This is why im happy to be single, free, and with all my self-esteem intact.These gutter rats don't deserve access to any women's body or time.I remember i would never criticize my ex's body (why would i when i cared about him?), but he always made underhanded remarks about my body tho(because he didn't care). These dusty azz scrotes will neg and joke about your body and still expect to sleep with you smh. Bodyshame them or say anything about their micro,crusty,rusty,porn-sick limp d*cks and the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 04:35 PM
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Yes!This exactly.I always remind myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 12:26 AM
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This will be the same type of fckboi that if you ever did text back ,he'll start the breadcrumb texting game.They will blow your phone up with texting when they know they don't have your attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 02:25 PM
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They mad🙄 ....1.They aint got Steph's life 2.They aint got steph's wife .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 07:36 PM
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🙄I am so tired of these oh soooo tortured souls drowning in tears and misery all because they cant have a hot women.Because surely having her will magically fix every f***ed up issue they have#Pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 05:34 PM
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All of this exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 06:36 PM
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This .Always the triangulating with other girls.whether real women or entirely made up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:56 PM
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After the idealization phase, you'll experience the devaluing phase. This is where you can't do anything right, and you are made to feel as though some real or imagined transgression on your end (or boundary setting) has pushed him away and somehow "tainted" the relationship. There will likely be less physical affection, attention, security, etc. as you constantly try to win back the LVM's approval to get the relationship "back on track" to the love bomb stage. Spoiler alert: It will NEVER go ba…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 12:02 PM
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Meeting a man's family don't mean sh*t.I don't know where that narrative even came from but it needs to die.To me it's another form of manipulation ,right up there with future faking.I fell for it like a true 🤡.It meant nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 02:44 PM
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Yes!!!!My NVM ex liked light complexioned latina women.He was obsessed with an ex of his who dumped him who physically was his type.....Im a brown skinned black women.F*** him .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 01:13 PM
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Emotionally manipulative azz narcs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 01:05 PM
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This is what they all want with their delusional asses.I regret shedding those desperate pickme tears over a dusty.I guarantee it will NEVER happen again💪🏽👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 12:06 PM
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💅🏽 I'm with you on that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 11:48 AM
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"Sometimes they legitimately do not know what they want, which is fine, but don’t let them figure it out on your time." This exactly.Its the easiest way to end up being strung along if you do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 09:33 PM
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"You know how much shit you let slide when you labeled a guy as "sweet" and "good". Too much truth!!!This was my experience.So attentive ,sweet and non threatening.😒It definitely hurt the worst.I know better now smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 05:37 PM
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This!!!!!!Anything for an ego boosts😒They like the fact that you like them.Nothing more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:37 PM
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Triggered .I almost threw my damn phone.🙄Prime example of how f*ck boyz compartmentalize and justify cheating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 02:01 PM
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Realest thing i ever heard.Call me bitter ,idc .This is exactly why i don't believe in fairy tales.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 02:38 PM
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We not doin this NO MORE🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 02:32 PM
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No No just No🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 02:28 PM
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Ask them .They damn sure have no problem asking a women how much she weighs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 05:29 PM
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Men think they want a relationship but what they really want is validation from a woman to boost their self esteem. They think, “hey if I could get this woman to love me, imagine all the other hot chicks I could bang!!!” Once he has enough self-esteem to go out and pick up other women the relationship is done. A tale as old as time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 02:54 PM
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Can confirm😒I had hit rock bottom and was beyond desperate when i entertained a digital penpal type situationshit.I took the biggest "L" EVER for that one.🤦🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 02:11 PM
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Damn !!!This hit home.Im saving this 👏I was GUILTY as charged🤦🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 12:39 AM
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In my experience, men do not appreciate compliments about their looks/achievements from women they date. It blows up their ego and makes them think you are below them and they can do better. Yup!This was my experience as well.Yet they always whining about not being validated.I feel like they see it as you being thirsty🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 03:55 PM
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Negative zero
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 06:24 PM
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Damn!!!This is my list from #1-5!Wow.Word for word👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 05:01 PM
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Yes they can be , if they're not the insecure type.Me personally, height isn't a deal breaker .But girl if that's how you feel , then do you.You're definitely not obligated to date somebody who dosen't meet you're standard.Men got standards through the roof and they damn sure aren't gonna date a woman who dosen't meet them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 12:37 PM
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Just try texting them friendly banter sometimes. They'll barely respond. Because they ain't your friend and don't gaf about you. This!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 12:12 PM
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🏅🏅🏅🏆✨✨✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 01:34 PM
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Thats what porn addiction does.Its layers of filth.The more they progress , the more depraved categories they watch to get off.They're nolonger aroused by the typical abuse porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 01:27 PM
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When he says he dosen't want a relationship, please believe him.Dont make the same mistake i did and take being used emotionally as a relationship. He's hoping you'll stick around in hopes of changing his mind .He will use you up and discard you when he's bored.He's trash.He dosen't want a relationship ,yet has no issue with reaping the benefits of your emotional labor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 09:46 PM
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Maybe he dosen't hit you...but he neggs you .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 04:58 PM
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"Or show him you're 1000% down for him". Oof,this made my damn stomach hurt🤦🏾 They DO NOT respect you for that s**t.You will look like a clown because you are a clown 🤡.My NV-ex told me to my face ,"i know you ride or die" and laughed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 11:37 PM
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💯✅✅✅🏆🏅✨✨Yassss!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 05:37 PM
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Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 12:35 PM
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👏👏👏💯 The truth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 08:25 PM
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👏👏👏👏👏✨✨✨✅✅✅This. right here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 01:40 PM
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emotional labor/free therapist😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 02:43 PM
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This is one of the top reasons why im no longer pressed about being single for the rest of my life or being somebody's bride.The thought that somebody can feel like they had to settle for me and resent me the whole marriage. All the while im thinking i found the love of my damn life.No thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 05:50 PM
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This gave me a flashback. My ex was into light skinned latina women.....i am neither.He couldn't get what he wanted at the time so he used me a brown skinned black women.As soon as he found what he wanted , he dropped me.Not gonna lie, It definitely hurt and my self-esteem took a huge hit.but im not about to let it define me .I am who i am.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 01:58 PM
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🙋🏾🤡 there’s the heartbreak you get from getting played by the “nice” guy who was a fucking charity case to begin with. 😩The truth and nothin but the truth.Im still mad about it .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 06:25 PM
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A capricorn like myself🤦🏾I dont think his zodiac was to blame.He was just trash😄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 01:09 PM
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Trash!!!He's mad you didn't do the pickme dance 1.Trying to dangle the relationship carrot all of a sudden 🙄2.Bringing up the alleged girls he had sex with (triangulation)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 11:09 AM
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This!!!!!👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 02:23 PM
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This hit too close to home🤦🏾🤡😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 12:44 AM
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Facts on facts👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 08:03 PM
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Girl because my former pickmeisha self tried it 😄All he gave me was a clown suit 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 11:34 PM
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There's so many ways they manipulate through a false sense of intimacy its crazy.My ex lovebombed me early on and then he would dangle the marriage,kids carrot🙄He even introduced me to his mother ,sisters, and nephew.He knew i was looking for a serious relationship and he wasn't so he had to future fake to keep me on the hook. Once he knew i was emotionally invested, he strung me along telling everything i wanted to hear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 02:20 PM
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This is why you cannot build a man. They'll use you and once they are "healed" will chase their "ideal woman" Ask me how i know.🤦🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 06:27 PM
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Manipulation by triangulation.He did not have to bring your mother into it .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 01:20 AM
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This exactly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 07:32 PM
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Well said!!!!!✨✨✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 03:51 PM
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She posted this all proud like it's cute and funny.🙄I bet if ever he cheats the other woman doesn't even have to be his mommy and will be catered to for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 09:50 PM
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Im the same!!😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 07:24 PM
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This is why i blocked the hell out of my ex.He led me on for over a year and dumped me last December by text. He had the audacity to leave a voicemail almost 2 months after saying without my "emotional labor " he "wouldn't even be here".So pathetic, It enraged me .You don't get to hurt me and think you can just magically ease your trash azz back in to use, manipulate and discard me again.He was having fun not giving a damn when he was stringing me along and lyin.They end up leaving and finding o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 04:48 PM
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This is another one of the biggest things that i will NOT tolerate ever again.You got these grown ass men well into their late 20s and 30s on up, out here playing jealous games.My ex would just randomly let me know some woman or women (usually a female "friend" ) was flirting with him, "Wanted" him.He knew it hurt me .Anything to gas his ego.This same man was very insecure and self deprecating. When i would express how i felt he would gaslight me and laugh it off, in typical f*ck boy fashion.Lik…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 12:52 PM
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Make no mistake, these sorts of women are narcissists and their rage will almost certainly be evident in one way or another. Every word spoken nothing but facts.Acccurate pickme description. i dropped my pickme so called " friend ",who ive known for over 15 years(highschool) almost 2 yrs ago and never looked back.Shes still trying to weasel her way back in my life.Shes blocked everywhere and still request me on FB with new pages.I couldnt tolerate any more of her bullshit.Shes the one that intro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 01:53 PM
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If someone did not want a relationship he would not try to dangle the commitment carrot or put relationship ideas in your head Exactly!! Creating a false sense of intimacy and future faking."CuZ if I dONt dAngLE thuh reLATiONsHIp caRroT hOW ELsE wIlL i bE aBLe tO emOtIonaLlY EXpLoiT HEr tO hELl aND baCk?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 03:29 PM
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👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 Exactly!!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 01:35 PM
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Because its so damn "funny" manipulating somebody into believing you're someone you're not. Cause ya know, "iT aiNT MuH faUlT sHE sTooPId ".😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 03:51 PM
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Nobody has the right to fuck you, use you as their therapist, hang out with you whenever they feel lonely, and then say, "Oh, we're just having fun." I'm here pouring out my heart, freeing up my time, putting my body at risk for you, and you're just going to say, "It's nothing." This!!!!The audacity and disregard 😠Its so damn selfish and cruel.Im so sorry op💔You didn't deserve that😩i know how it feels .i was unknowingly being used as a place holder and therapist until a woman my ex was orbiting …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 11:22 AM
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And then they go look for a woman who doesn't put up with any of that shit for a relationship. Oh yes!!!! Im convinced they view woman who play therapist as weak and pathetic.They will exploit you for being empathetic and will not respect you for it .I believe they see it as a woman being desperate and thirsty .Which is exactly why i promised myself i will never be that woman again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 10:55 PM
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Exactly👆🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 12:42 PM
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They always wanna play the victim🙄How many women have his azz ghosted?Bruised lil ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 09:00 PM
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He is toxic trash !!!😤Dump and move on .What he did was just one of the many forms of negging by lvm.My ex did this s**t.Whether he is comparing you to some unattainable actress or whoever, it is disrespectful.He knew when he did that it would upset you.He doesn't take the relationship seriously because if he did, he wouldn't want you to feel that you're not enough.Men like him will have the audacity to accuse you of being insecure and jealous while they constantly provoke you .In his mind he se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 01:06 PM
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Preaaaaaaaaaach!!!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 04:02 PM
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All of this!!!😩I know my smug ass ex just got a kick outta watching me jump through hoops like a good eager pickme desperate for crumbs and scraps of attention and affection. No wonder why these lvm walk around with entitlement and delusion.Low self esteem is NO JOKE.I actually believed that If i just loved him and was sooooo loyal he'll realize my worth and reward me by reciprocating.🤡🤡🤡Im so glad im a new woman these days and now know my own worth✨✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 03:30 PM
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Me too!!Strung along for a whole damn year🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 04:29 PM
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8. Breakup Panic This one really stands out to me with my ex.I picked up on his slowfading towards the end of the relationsht.In a years time he went from hot to cold to breadcrumbing the rest of the way.When i picked up on the slowfade(pre FDS i didnt even know there was a term or it was a thing )i called him on it and was tellin him its over.He gaslit me and made me feel like the bad guy and i forgave him.🤡 😒 well a few days later he text me he had something to tell me.He didnt tell me that da…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 10:52 AM
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Ooffff👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽yes!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 03:37 PM
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*Emotionally unavailable *love bombing *Negging *Hot and cold games *Bringing up exes and or other females in order to get me to compete for him *Comparing me to other women *Any addiction(drugs,porn alcohol) *Too many female "friends" *Mamas boy *Peter pan syndrome *laziness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:44 PM
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My ex was insecure and self deprecating.It wasn't cute at all.It was a huge red flag and i just thought "awww hes just a little down i can love him and he'll come out if it".I played pickme the free therapist and was led on for over a year 🤡. I was often negged and gaslighted because thats what insecure lvm do. "You're too good for me ....im not good enough for you", was the last words i got before he dumped me by text and completely ghosted. Don't waste your time,It wont get better.Walk away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 10:56 AM
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👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽All of this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 08:29 PM
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Good post👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽I fell for this bs before and i'll be damned if i ever do again.This was one of the biggest lessons ive learned dealing with a lvm.They will waste your time and future fake .They will tell you whatever it is they think you wanna hear but the actions wilI never match.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 02:53 PM
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They will mirror whatever standards they feel you have just to get that validation and keep you around (mategating you)- but LVM always get resentful of this effort(which is what attracted you) & drop their masks at some point bc they weren't doing it from a sincere place to begin with- just for self gain. Big facts👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 02:09 PM
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Live and learn.i damn sure did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 02:50 PM
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Same here.Therapist for an emotional gold digger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 08:08 PM
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This is why too many female "friends" is a deal breaker for me going forth.Reading this article confirms what i expected all along.its all apart of their playboy delusions.i was apart of a female "friend " harem and didnt put it all together until the breakup.He had me thinking we were exclusive, but i was just the one that gave him the most emotional labor at the moment.He did alot of triangulation . Each "friend" serves a purpose and it is to stroke their pathetic egos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 04:49 PM
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Now this is damn good advice👏🏽This is definitely where i went wrong in the past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 02:06 PM
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They’re doing it for attention and validation! There are likely many others waiting for food. 10,15 even... a harem... all getting bits. At the same time it’s someone else’s turn to get a full bowl! This exactly👆🏽The hot and cold, mixed signals always outs them and their bulls***.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 02:40 PM
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Another thing she would do is she’d have to have a direct relationship with everyone who entered our friend group. She had to be the contact person so she would immediately start a phone or text relationship with any new friends who came into the group. This was so she could play telephone between each member in the group, distorting facts and making up stuff to make everyone think she was their closest friend and everyone else couldn’t be trusted. Omg!!!!!!We had the same friend.Yes i went No c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:39 PM
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Oh yeah, that gut feeling .I was gonna dump my ex because i couldn't take the games and emotional unavailability anymore.He then played the victim who just couldn't take me leaving .He gaslit me and lowered me back into a false sense of comfort and broke up with me the following week.He just couldnt take being dumped again and had to pull a power move🙄I struggled a while forgiving myself for that sh**😒That and being naive ,allowing somebody to use me as an emotionally crutch/place holder.Live an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 07:01 AM
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My ex did the same thing.Wtf does that?A emotionally stunted fckboi looking for an ego boost.Why would you want your partner to feel insecure?Because he never took the relationship seriously🙄Thats one of the redflags im looking out for going foward.Any sign of provoking insecurity and its over.I wont tolerate the games.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 04:20 PM
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But after I eventually broke up with him, he realized how much he actually needed me for my emotional support. And I realized why the relationship made me so damn exhausted all of the time.** This!Except he dumped me🙄 .Whoever he dumped me for obviously Isn't playing therapist,giving him the emotional support .I remember shortly after the break up i went no contact and began to heal .He left a pathetic message saying he "wouldn't even be here without my emotional labor."Basically thats all i was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 02:18 PM
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As if treating "him" like a "king" will make him commit or be faithful. They will take it for granted ,get bored and move on anyway.Next😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 01:19 PM
20

Or you could've just been a real man and maybe your family would still be there .But as always, that's just asking way too much🙄.Now he wanna whine and stalk online.Looking for sympathy likes,trying to piece his ego back together.They never think you'll move on ,let alone to bigger and better😂 Im sure he aint about to put the whole story out there though.Gotta play the victim.Now he suddenly wants his "family back" .He didnt value his family and still dont.All it is , is that the baby mama's new…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 11:19 AM
8

I hear that💁🏾 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 10:00 PM
14

TRUTH!!!!Word for word.In hindsight, I know for sure this was what i dealt with for a year and a half.Its always about a damn ego boost.Im sick of these shape shifting, emotional leeching f** boyz .I dont have time for games.This makes me even more proud to be single and stress free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 04:38 PM
14

"abuses me for appearing happy with other friends on social media. Stays "friends" with exes so she can get validation from them when she needs it and then has a meltdown when they move on and get a new gf. Gets pissy and jealous when I'm dating someone but when she's dating someone I no longer exist to her. Tears down other women "*** Wow!!!We had the same damn "friend" .😮I had to cut all ties with her toxic a**.we were friends since highschool .i could not deal with her anymore.Very narcissist…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 08:18 PM
18

That part👆🏽Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:20 PM
5

Nothing but the truth!!👆🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 03:33 PM
4

Yes!!!!!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 03:29 PM
30

"Oh and I almost forgot, I can point out hot girls to you and talk about other women to your face because we are CAZUAL" Yup😠 disrespectful asf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:49 PM
17

"Dont believe in disposable relationships"😒 yeah right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 07:01 PM
144

This!Im not ugly but im not conventionally attractive (im plus sized) .Back In highschool , i was always friendzoned by guys.Contrary to popular belief, women get friendzoned too.They wanted to use me for whatever else but i was unfckable.Yes they were so nice and sweet towards the ones they wanted to fck but not me.I guess i didnt deserve it because i didnt meet their physical seal of approval.Only when they needed me to do their school assignments etc they'll fake kindness.That was the only ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 03:46 PM
46

Had a man just randomly walk up to me in the grocery store and have the audacity tell me how "pretty" my face was and if i just got "some of that weight off" me i'd be really fine.He said it in a manner that he just complimented me or something.This has happened on more than one occasion too.Thank goodness idgaf about male approval Mr.Random ass stranger😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 11:40 AM
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Yeah i bet🙄Yet he took her for granted and didn't value her emotional labor .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 04:51 PM
2

This!!!!!!That's way pass games, that's flat out cruel smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 03:58 PM
15

The last man I dated was very interested in me/chased me, then suddenly lost interest--right at the six week mark! However, he didn't have the spine to tell me he was over it, so instead he lied to me, tried to ghost/fade on me, and then gaslit me when I asked if he just didn't want to see me anymore (he basically blew up at me and said he couldn't believe I would accuse him of not wanting to see me anymore-** Wtf do they do that? I had the exact same thing happen.I confronted him like "lets cal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 03:31 PM
11

From my experience ,i was immediately labeled a "hater" because i was "mad " I was "lonely" and "didnt have a man" .This was from a person who i thought was a best friend by the way. Thats why when it comes to other people's relationship matters i mind my own🤷🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 04:44 PM
3

Yesss!👑🙌🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 01:56 PM
2

Omg me too 😩 therapist/ego booster smh .I was high off the crumbs lol truly pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 07:23 PM
13

Yes!!!!!Its that simple.I was devastated but i didn't think about the fake lovebombing and mirage he put on while he was stringing me along.If i did that i'd never move on.Everytime i felt like crying again, missing him ,stalking his social media and calling him i focused on the REAL...him future faking ,using me as a emotional crutch over a year and then when im most emotionally invested, dumping me by text. Thats the reality.Hes a liar and manipulator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 12:31 PM
3

"They will treat you the same, if not WORSE. And worst of all...they WILL become cocky as a result of you giving them the time of day." Yup 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 10:28 AM
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Loyalty and "building" is weakness to them.They don't appreciate that type of woman.Idc how many memes they post around the internet about "Build him , be his ride or die" .Once the project is finished , they leave you for what they really want every time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 09:47 AM
4

Hard cold truth🙌🏾but i needed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 03:21 PM
3

👑👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 01:25 PM
13

Oh yes 👏🏽👏🏽Red flag!!!!Then they will gaslight you and tell you you're being "jealous" and "insecure" .No matter what they tell you, he either is 1.having sex 2.has had sex. Or 3.Is planning on having sex with these "friends" .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 12:44 PM
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,"he is seeking a loving, giving person to validate him and rehabilitate him. So once he "feels better," he can go after the girls he KNOWS he deserves, and will drop you like the toilet paper he wipes his ass with." This is the truth smh I will NEVER get over being used like that .It changed me completely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 02:51 AM
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9!!!!!! I promise to never be that stupid again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 11:58 PM
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And is any of this bulls** gonna make him commit ,value and not cheat on you?HELL NO!!!!!!There are too many good woman out there who sacrificed for these f**k boyz with nothing to show for it in return.Just stop it🚫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 07:35 PM
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He so damn petty .Im glad his little attempt to bring you down to his level went nowhere.The fact that you've long moved on and looking good tore his ego up .Im sure he wishes he still had you when you were "secluded" and with his lv azz.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 11:57 AM
3

Periodt🙌🏾👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 04:42 PM
3

Same here.i got oneitis .He played me and ill never be the same in another relationship.i felt so helpless and dumb.its only been a month for me.Im over him and the act of him dumping me but not how he played with my emotions the way he did.The manipulation and lies.Dangling a relationship and a future in front of me for months, to get me emotionally invested and then up and deciding "we should just be friends"(nope blocked deleted). to top it off he dumped me by text.I never mattered, the relat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 09:38 PM
9

Yesssssssssss!!!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 07:00 PM
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I love this entire post✨✨Nothing but truth.im saving it. "We talked all day everyday for 9 months. He used me as a crutch during a particularly difficult time in his life" This hit too close to home 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 03:23 PM
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"If I am not enough for him just the way I am then he’s not for me. Never feel like you have to be something more or something that you are not to keep people in your life." Yessss!✨✨✨✨✨✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 01:50 PM
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"He was an extreme introvert and I helped encourage him to overcome his shyness. He did... and found himself a new girlfriend and disappeared. Not a new story." Ask me how i know 🙄This is what happens when you fall into the give the shy guy a chance trap.You play "Ms.Build him up" in hopes that he'll pick you.But then he just ghosts you and takes his new big ego with him .The grass looks greener until its not and then they wanna come back.🚫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 06:35 PM
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"I swear, the moment my life stopped being depressing and difficult was when I stopped looking for the good in people and started taking their actions at face value." Yes👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 04:13 PM
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Coming here helped me more then anything.A lot of things make sense now.i know what is truly acceptable and what's not in a healthy relationship.Im learning to recognize the true nature of men and how to better protect my heart .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 02:56 PM
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And he will dump her for the next before her stitches even have time to close smh😒One thing i learned ,is that over-extending pickmeisha s*t is pointless.I had to unlearn it .IT has never kept a man and never will.You will not be valued no matter how many hoops you jump through .You're a placeholder and clown.The end game is the same.He will get bored and discard you at his earliest convenience.All you'll have to show for it is the deep emotional wounds. Fck you're feelings and sacrifices.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 01:53 PM
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I fell for every last one of these bs excuses.One big cope.The last one i stupidly gave him the benefit of the doubt on because im a private person too .i have social media but i barely post.one thing,i refused to make any mention of him on my social media though because i was waiting for him to make the first move.....which he never did.He had no problem liking and sharing twerk vids up and down his timeline though.stalking booty models.why? Because to him i wasn't worth mentioning , to him we …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 01:14 PM
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"They're worse than fuckboys in my opinion because they are a lot more manipulative and sneaky. They make women think they're special and they dangle a relationship in front of them, but once they're bored they drop the act. What's more, they often act like the victim afterwards, so that they could get pity sex in the future." 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽Yes!!!! 😲This is what i dealt with .Now i have a name to describe his ass.youre damn right they are waaaaay worst than an outright f*ckboy.Very sneaky and manipu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 11:01 AM
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"I tried to push for closing the gap a little after a year. He future faked me with saying he wants to marry me and start a family. But yet he also was unsure of me because of the distance and "what if you change?" This is why im against LDR.It hit that year mark for me too.He did nothing but future fake. In the end i was nothing but an ego boost for him nothing more.The man i dealt with was avoidant attached so it definitely worked to his benefit.That was my first and last LDR.I know i played m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 12:16 AM
7

👏🏽this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 11:07 AM
21

Too many f*cking games out there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 10:15 AM
2

"I'm too agreeable - in the past, I valued 'keeping the peace' over stating my wants and needs. I also had/have weak boundaries. I've tolerated behavior that feels shitty to me because I was too afraid of losing what I thought I wanted." Same here.im working on this nonstop.With me it came from past abandonment issues ,which caused codependency.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 02:56 PM
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Success is always the best revenge in any situation .i can truly say at this point idgaf about why my ex left ,or what or who he's doing.Thats why i blocked and deleted so my healing would be complete.idc about him missing me, because im sure he's out living his best life not thinking about me🤷🏾Why not do the the same? I don't want anyone back who said he,"didn't love me "and "wasn't attracted to me anymore". I had low self-esteem and was willing to settle .I made the mistake of believing breadc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 10:19 AM
8

🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥yasss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 01:16 AM
2

The truth✨✨✨so painful but so necessary🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 09:45 PM
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Yes to all of this!👏🏽from my experience the mimicking is the core manipulation tactic of most of these lvm.It built false security and comfort and got my guards down .Then when the mask slipped i second guessed my instincts.i wont again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 04:53 PM
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"Attract broken emotionally unavailable men" .This is a hard truth i had to face after being dumped.My father abandoned me .Its crazy the emotional wounds you get and don't even know where they came from.Its a void i was trying to fill.I would over extend myself searching for validation and love, if i pleased this man then he wouldnt leave me.He still did and i knew this person wasnt right for me. i continued to chase after the crumbs of affection.Now that im fully aware im not chasing any man e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 12:09 PM
5

Exactly my ex said he was gonna marry me and i was "the one"🙄empty words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 10:49 PM
1

This is true🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 08:38 PM
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Im sure if i ever meet this type of man then ill sing the same tune.Until then, im not convinced.🤷🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 08:09 PM
7

Exactly!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 06:09 PM
37

So.....you mean to tell me that after ,"Valuing ,crowning him and not being another one of his fights" it still didnt keep her from getting divorced?🙄#pickme
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 12:39 PM
6

👏🏽That part😂No real woman has the time or energy to play into their lil games.They think they can just drop you and pick you back up whenever they feel like it. Nope🚫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 10:04 AM
1

Don't let your desire for love translate their bum ass behavior into something you feel like you deserve or can tolerate. I did, but Never again✌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 11:13 PM
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*Men typically don't settle down because they convince themselves that they're not ready, they haven't fully experienced life yet, and having a girlfriend/wife is going to change everything. It's the perceived freedom that he's giving up. They often have this fantasy life of being single, then end up realizing it's not as great as they thought. 👆This speaks volumes to me.Which is why at this point im like why even bother .It makes me not even want to date.Im convinced this is the mindset of toda…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 06:13 PM
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Even while in a relationship with me, he still required attention and actively pursued other women because female attention was the only way to temporarily boost his flimsy self-esteem. Yuuuuup!👆This was my ex.I was so damn "wonderful and beautiful" and "understood him like nobody else " was going to " marry me" yet i was still never enough.It goes back to that false sense of security they like to give by bullshitting us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 01:57 PM
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Or he is broken and you “fix” him by bolstering his self esteem, which causes him to tootle off right past you on his quest for someone new, all puffed up with his newfound confidence 👆I know for damn sure this is what happened in my situation.smh you live and learn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 08:05 PM
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I noticed when women dump men , the man takes is soooooo hard😒 .It doesn't matter what led to the break up, the fact the woman dumped them first just eats them up.My ex was obsessed with his ex gf, she was his first love .The fact that she dumped him is what i think really caused the fixation. Im guessing its a shift in power they cant handle.They dish it but can't take it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 07:41 PM
26

"Hey beautiful you to death."😒yup , crumbs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 09:30 PM
5

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽yasssssss!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 08:19 PM
5

"after feeling rejected its easy to fall into bad habits (ex: seeing normal friendship as evidence he cares for something deeper, trying harder to attract him, trying to please him, trying to appear like an ideal partner). Basically, the Pickmesha dance becomes really tempting to perform if your confidence is shaken, and avoiding the source of that insecurity is a good thing if you're not sure how leveled up you actually are, and its humilating" 👆This is why when my ex suggested it, i didnt agre…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 05:01 PM
3

Bad personal hygiene is a big NO for me.Just ew😷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 12:01 PM
6

No lies were told "Weak ass b*tch was all he saw.Never again"🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 11:55 AM
5

I will not EVER do it ever again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 11:17 PM
3

that was me and i hated it.you are right childhood trauma.When i was dumped it opened up alot of wounds that was already there and i had to find the strength to face my abandonment issues .It was no joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 09:15 PM
3

I didn't know they existed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 09:14 PM
8

Its IMPERATIVE that you are not always available and that you are not giving 100%. Men are hunters. If they see you as easy prey they will become apathetic towards you and in life. This is the truth! i believe this is what happened in my situation.im sure the breakup was inevitable looking back, but i got attached .i gave too much too soon and was too available.Like a dummy, i actually thought in order for him to commit and value me i had to be that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 08:16 PM
7

They want to keep you around as an ego boost and as a backup plan. 👆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 06:21 PM
3

Yes👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 06:12 PM
21

" I just dont feel the same about you", "you deserve better" .Yet he didn't care that i deserved better when he wasted a year of my time. Telling me i deserved better was his pathetic way of softening the blow and dealing with his own guilt.Instead of admitting he's been cheating,found an upgrade, and no longer has use for me .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 05:32 PM
5

🤗 thanks❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 01:55 PM
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For me i have a fear of being a single mother like my mom was .All the women i know are single moms and struggling.After 3 children,my father abandoned his wife and daughters, we were under age 5.He and my mother were married but he left her for his mistress .My mom said he just came home and said he wanted a divorce.It was out of the blue she said she thought he was joking.im guessing the trash he chose over his wife was more exciting .Its amazing how men get to just walk away and disconnect. M…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 01:09 PM
4

I think meeting a HVM is pure luck Thats what i said and nobody can tell me different.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 10:12 AM
6

Disrespectful to you .NO EXCUSES.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 10:08 AM
16

Unlike men we form real connections and can't just effortlessly act like detached psychopaths with the people in our lives. If this aint the truth i dont know what is👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 12:03 AM
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From my experience, the flipside is that just because he introduced you to his family and friends doesn't mean he's committed to you or have plans on being with you long term.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 12:24 PM
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He wasn't a bad person- but he didn't have all the things that are required to actually add value to my life. I was doing a lot of work and not getting anything out of it and not feeling more connected to him or lifted up in love. 👆 This was me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 12:14 PM
44

They think they want a woman like that and then comes the boredom and complacency.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 11:54 AM
42

Im with you and no youre not delusional.We are fed up.Its truly painful when the reality of it all hits you.Like you said everything we thought we knew about love was a lie .To me, Its one big fairytale that i just dont believe in anymore.All i wanted was to find that hvm who loves and values me and have a family.But thats something im setting aside for my sanity's sake.Im trying my hardest not to beat myself up about it all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 11:30 AM
4

Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 10:09 AM
6

😩all of this.Too much truth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 09:28 AM
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Grieving a relationship is necessary in my opinion.All i feel is anger now and i promised myself from then on to never allow a man to lead me on and play with my emotions like that again.I cant remember how i found this sub.once i did though i internalized it within the first week after the breakup.Im so happy i did because it really has helped me to move on and better know my worth.i was so confused as to why he just dumped me like that after how good i know i was to his ass.This sub taught me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 09:16 AM
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you just don't string along someone with the hopes of a relationship. if he wasn't ready to commit he should have let me go but no bc the frequent sex was too good for him. Exactly, so damn selfish.I got the same thing after being strung along for over a year ,"youre to good for me ", " i never meant to hurt your feelings" . yeah right.I will never allow myself to play therapist ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 02:34 PM
52

"Get help now"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 02:27 PM
2

I felt all of this !!!😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 01:34 PM
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"On the other hand, a LVM may exhibit some HVM behaviors at the start. Love bombing can look a lot like the courting phase with a HVM, but the difference is that a LVM will stop pursuing you if he doesn’t feel like you are any use to him" That is definitely true.Which is why It makes me kind of paranoid about even bothering with anyone else for a while.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 11:33 AM
2

Thats his damn fantasy😏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 10:15 PM
19

Emotionally unavailable. Hot and cold, inconsistency in communication. Lovebombed me quickly in the beginning stages by complimenting me and mirroring.Had too many damn female "friends".Smoked weed all day, rapper pipe dreams and was a mamas boy.He said he and his exgirl had a bad breakup and he didnt elaborate initially when i asked what happened.As the relationship progressed he said his ex had aborted his baby "without his consent" dumped him and moved on with her life.She was the dreamgirl w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 08:45 PM
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Hell yeah they would and will act like they're doing our chubby asses a favor too.They will have sex and you will be treated like some secret shame.Nope not over here💁🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:32 PM
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Exactly👏🏽I always said this.Be honest , but no they'd rather lead you on and waste your time.How else would they be able to manipulate us?Had my ex been up front about not wanting to be exclusive i would've respected his decision. And moved on then. i wouldnt have been emotionally invested .He had over a year to be honest, instead he lied and future faked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 01:21 PM
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👑👑👑👑👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽Facts on facts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 12:34 PM
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If he has mental health/ego problems, this will also be his cue to go into sabotage mode, meaning to manage down your expectations/glowing view of him as a gentleman. So you'll see some bullshit meant to tell you he's not as great as you think. Yes!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽i knew damn well it wasnt just my imagination.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 11:13 PM
2

i wonder just how many women has he passed on that actually wanted his ass but he was too stuck orbiting his dreamgirl from the friendzone.No sympathy for him.the fact she doesn't want him is exactly why hes so fixated on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 07:40 PM
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This right here is why i cant do the fwb thing.I have oneitis🙄 im looking for a relationship and im honestly just not built for that kind of thing.More power to the ladies who can do fwb , hell i wish i could just do that. but as much as i hate to admit it, i can already see me being the type to catch feelings
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 06:53 PM
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*Men are most loyal to the woman who loves him for who he is even when he’s struggling *Ugly men will treat you better because they’ll be so grateful to have female attention *You have to Be patient and supportive with a man who says “let’s see where this goes” because he probably had his heartbroken in the past and needs you to be understanding *No man is perfect you have to work hard to help him reach his potential All Bullshit!!! All Lieeeeesss🚫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 12:11 PM
2

Well said!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 03:06 AM
5

🙄This was my ex.so accurate its scary
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 10:21 PM
7

probably just sent the texts to make himself feel better about the way he treated me. Yup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 08:13 PM
14

This!!!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 07:57 PM
44

Women get judged and picked apart from head to damn toe.Hell, we aren't given the benefit of the doubt because of our "nice " personalities like they are.Its 10 or nothin to them.Lord forbid you say anything about their dicks😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 07:32 PM
7

That was me too🤦🏾 smh im like he had 1.5 years to be real about everything.Complete waste of time and energy.Never again ,i know that much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 04:53 PM
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I guess thats just too damn much to ask😒My ex's sorry ass excuse for wasting my time was "i didnt wanna hurt you" .No, he wasnt done playing with me just yet.they wanna play with your emotions till they get bored and discard you.of course they're not gonna be honest.They know most women will not knowingly allow themselves to be played.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 04:40 PM
2

This is nothing but the truth!!!🙌🙌🙌🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 01:47 PM
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Get him emotionally invested and string him along for months ,knowing damn well your only goal from day one was to waste his time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 06:26 PM
6

Damn 🙉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 03:14 PM
8

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽the truth set me free✨✨✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 01:07 PM
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They tell us that we gonna be single for having high standards .yet wtf has having low standards got us?Exactly😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 11:02 PM
3

✔✔✔✔✔✔Right here👑✨✨✨🙋🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 10:51 PM
14

She speaks the truth and immediately a lvm tries to knock her down .typical.truth hurts and they cant take the fact that women are tired of the mind games and bullshit.This is why these lvm make me sick .That pickmeisha ,doormat/slave/ therapist crap is beneficial to no one but them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 05:30 PM
74

"A chance" to do what exactly? Waste our f*ckin time ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 11:45 AM
1

❤youre welcome
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 08:55 PM
45

Trust me, meeting his parents means absolutely nothing .Hell i met his mama, sisters, and nephew.His ass even told me it was "important that you and my mama got along because when i marry you baby...." Yeah okay 😒its all for show. its just another manipulation tactic to keep you emotionally invested untill he gets bored and finds your replacement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 08:46 PM
8

Much of processing rejection from a fuckboy is forgiving ourselves and letting us come to terms with what we found attractive in him in the first place . The truth !😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 10:31 AM
5

There is nothing you "should've " or "could've" done differently.Focusing on the what ifs and could've beens will steal your peace, while he just goes on with his life unbothered.I say cut him off, no contact.It may not be easy at first because he manipulated you into thinking it was love .There is no benefit in allowing him to waste anymore of you're time ,mentally or physically.Going no contact and blocking him helps the healing process along quicker.NO BEING FRIENDS EITHER.He just wants you t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 09:56 AM
1

"Concern trolling" right.To further add insult to injury.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 10:10 PM
1

Same here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 10:00 PM
1

Exactly.There is no reward in being a doormat. Periodt.Jumping through hoops being at his beckon call will have you looking stupid and emotionally drained .He will not take you serious.He will drop you and label you too clingy, boring and pathetic because you gave his worthless ass too much too soon.Its true, men love bitches💪🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 07:19 PM
14

This !exactly👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 04:23 PM
2

To the trash with that loser and dont you dare look back🗑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 01:57 PM
1

Can confirm🙋🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 01:49 PM
17

Hes looking for pity .i fell for that same bs.🙄 Hes hoping your one of those empathetic too nice types. translation: "dont judge or reject me like all the others because i want you to see my self esteem issues as cute and vulnerable like and not the actual manipulation tactic it is. let me waste your time".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 01:40 PM
7

I know thats right🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 01:35 PM
2

This is gold!Oh i fell for it and learned from it.He talked about that marriage and baby shit, even more so like 4 days before he dumped me.yup.They will tell you what you wanna hear in order to string you along .i went wrong when i showed my hand (which ill never do again) he read me and the "future faking" began.Anything to keep you emotionally invested untill they feel like dropping you.I was devasted and mad asf playing back all the bullshit convos in my head.You live and you learn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 12:46 PM
11

All of this!✨✨✨✨✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 09:52 AM
10

Amen!👏🏽👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 09:51 AM
11

*You should not know anything about his most recent ex. Her name, her job, her age, her face, anything about her. If he is going into gratuitous detail talking about this woman, it means he is not into you and doesn't respect you." Oh yes ! it pissed me off and made me feel so damn insecure.so disrespectful! he spoke about her like this wonderful shiny trophy that he lost .she was his highschool gf and she dumped his ass . i see now that i was a rebound .Men like that arent over the dream girl t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 10:35 PM
14

Yes!!!!That was me a whole damn year dealing with that type of bs😒i blame myself for being desperate for crumbs .but no more💪🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 06:45 PM
11

Same here smh complete waste of my damn time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 06:37 PM
4

True story🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 06:13 PM
7

All or this!!!! 1,2,and 3 "Wants you to be his therapist/emotional support pet and keep his ego high"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 06:10 PM
1

Amen 👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 03:30 PM
1

Same here i hate it🤦🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 03:13 PM
1

Not Ever! in this life or the next
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 12:14 PM
1

Pickme to the max. 🗑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 12:01 PM
1

✔✔✔✔✔👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽All of this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 11:46 AM
1

"So many girls ( me included ) make the mistake of thinking that they have prove how awesome they are to him and he will change his mind . The truth is men decide pretty fast if they want be in a relationship with you or not ." This !smh never again.NEVER
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 11:44 AM
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✔✔✔✔✔✔facts!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 12:54 AM
1

He dated/was involved with them each, broke it off with them each, and keeps orbiting around them for their attention and affection, while he flirts and texts (breadcrumbs) just enough to keep them intrigued. 😠 i cant stand this !Same happen to me.ill be damned ! ... And that he thinks it’s okay - mostly because he doesn’t want to go through the pain of not having these friendships anymore. They are so damn selfish smh😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 10:44 PM
7

This!!!!!👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 05:01 PM
11

You boost their egos and they suddenly get this absurd notion that they can do better...they don’t, and come crawling back to you, but you’re done. 🤦🏾yup he dumped me and yup he came crawling back...to the trash he went
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 04:53 PM
2

Thats what im sayin!👏🏽exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 04:38 PM
5

Same here its crazy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 04:35 PM
1

Not at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 09:17 PM
3

Never meet his parents if he introduces you without a title this is massive manipulation, do not accept this. 🤦🏾fell for it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 09:01 PM
1

🗑 In the garbage.I went through this very thing with an ex.Willing to bet he cheating too.Thats some disrespectful s*** to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 08:37 PM
2

"He'll take the help, resent you the entire time, and dump you when he no longer needs you." 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 07:00 PM
1

That part!👏🏽🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 01:36 PM
1

"The worst thing you can do, is ignore that feeling because you're so desperate for a relashionship." Yes!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 11:06 AM
2

"There's no reward to women who don't put their own best interests first. NO REWARD for women who put the man's interests before hers. NO REWARD for women who are "loyal" past the point of logic." Preach 👏🏽nothing but the truth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 10:58 AM
1

Same here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 08:53 PM
3

Wooooow!This is exactly what happened to me.Word by word 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 08:46 PM
3

Smh made that mistake .🤦🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 08:43 PM
1

So he can drop me again? Hell no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 04:37 PM
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No!Please dont do it.Its a rollercoaster of confusion and pain.Im speaking from experience.I dated one for over a year. Naturally im empathetic and I foolishly believed i could love his issues away.i only ended up heartbroken and confused when he dropped me .Not worth it. .You will be trying to save them and be their therapist and for nothing.Its not worth the time or sacrifice.Theres no fixing or changing them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 03:32 PM
3

10% HVM behavior 👏🏽Once he got me invested, pathetically i held on because i thought i couldnt do better smh got fed breadcrumbs for months 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 01:33 PM
1

factsssssss!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 11:51 AM
2

Omg !I was in the same. Damn situation🤦🏾for a year.Never ever ever again💪🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 11:35 AM
9

My mistake right there smh. All that and he payed my sweet, nice and supportive ass in dust😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 01:28 PM
11

"They have a variety of ways they do this: going hot/cold deliberately in order to make you yearn them, hiding themselves, lying about where they live/their career/goals, putting you down, testing your patience to see if you'll get emotional and validate them (they're insecure)". All of this !!!!!!Mind games on top of mind games .Using your f**** emotions against you.Never again💪🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 05:26 PM
1

Yassssss!!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽✨✨✨im saving this .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 09:33 PM
2

Nothing but facts!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 07:42 PM
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