Help! How do you keep conversations light?

calendargirls · 2019-11-26T19:53:46+00:00

i set an early precedent by telling them that i'm not one for texting, and that i only use it for making plans and sending memes. they know if they want to talk to me in between dates they can call me, and i find that the increased vulnerability of a phone call makes it harder for me to get carried away and get too deep too fast. for this to work you need to have some practice in vetting men well without needing lengthy text conversations to do so, but i find that the artificial intimacy too much texting creates makes it impossible to properly evaluate a man anyway. it just gives them more context from which to build their strategy to get into your pants, if that's their ultimate goal (and if we are being honest here, by and large it is).

Ms_Tilly · 2019-11-26T19:59:06+00:00

You could just ignore their too personal question and change the subject. They will usually notice and get the hint. Or you could be direct and tell them it's too early to be so personal.

driver_picks_music · 2019-11-26T21:13:40+00:00

I am going to follow this thread. I have a similar tendency, but mainly because I am not great at light long(!) conversations. I always tend to try and connect to the person in front of me through getting personal. No matter if he is a man or she is a woman (or anything really)

grimreapersdtr · 2019-11-27T03:50:22+00:00

This is an interesting question.
I often think predatory types of men will try to pry private information out of women in order to use it as blackmail or as a tool for manipulation.

supersarah22 · 2019-11-26T19:40:36+00:00

Have topics to talk about!! I used to have this problem as well lol. I realized that i basically didnt have topics off the topic of my head, so all my conversations would default to talking about myself.

Title	Help! How do you keep conversations light?
Author	mathildahl
Upvotes	24
Comments	11
Date	November 26, 2019 7:16 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/e22uba/help_how_do_you_keep_conversations_light/
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