Hi. Would love ya’lls take. I have a mighty morphin’ male on my hands... might even call him the MVM (Medium Value Male).

I am an attractive, successful 36 year-old HVW with a gorgeous face, giant knockers, fantastic legs and a net worth of $500k (sadly, I also have Pickmeisha tendencies stemming from an ugly duckling start). I started dating a good-looking, well-groomed engineer who had only done situationships with cougars in the six years since his college sweetheart died abruptly. I was his first “real” relationship since her.

Early on, he wore a crucifix she gave him so he would always have her with him (I told him it made me uncomfortable, especially during sex — he stopped wearing it). He bought a house and posted to his Facebook wall about how much he wished she was still here to share in the moment, etc (this was very early on and I let him know I found this hurtful — he then let me know it happened to coincide with the 5 year anniversary of her death. I suggested he might want to start counseling. He has not mentioned her since.)

He also didn’t really seem to know how to date a woman of value — he complained (early on) about how expensive a date was. I explained that I was not accustomed to that sort of treatment and that I am very, very expensive and he had better get used to it if he wants to be with me. I used a meat metaphor to make sense to his lizard brain (lol) — told him I was NY strip and he must be used to hamburger. Since then, no further complaints and he pays for our dates every weekend.

Generally speaking he is a good man and he has continuously improved. We had some speedbumps (he got upset when I tagged him on FB and I wouldn’t see him for two weeks over it). He now tags me — I wont tag him — not over my dead body. We reconciled over flowers and a love letter.

He asked me to move in with him — I declined and let him know I expect a ring and a marriage date before considering that kind of step.

For Thanksgiving, he made plans without even thinking of me (he had already introduced me to his mother at that point) — this prompted me to breakup with him after “Turkey Day.” He said they were planning on staying in his sisters studio, which is why he didnt invite me, but when he actually got there, his father had surprised them all with a condo on the beach. I let him know I found it hurtful that it seemed like I didn’t factor into his plans, and that I was done — and that he was welcome to continue pursuing me, but that I no longer considered us monogamous and was going to start seeing other people.

I began dating others immediately.

Around Christmas, he was asking me to spend the holidays with he and his family. I got very drunk and told him I loved him; he did not reply in kind (he had said he cares about me very much). This is when I stopped physically seeing him.

He has since been sending flowers and chocolates and telling me he struggles with the “L Word” since she passed, but that he very much loves me.

He has begun therapy. I am polite and responsive via text but have been seeing others (and have been clear with him). He tells me he thinks of me every second of every day and is determined to be the man I want him to be, and sees me as his future wife.

I plan to keep seeing others, but he has been begging for a chance to see me.

The other men I have dated have been awful, so I suspect its clouding my judgement.

So: WWYD? Would you see him?