There's a double bind damned-if-you-do-damned-if-you-don't standard I couldn't help but notice when it comes to partner's infidelity in a MW relationship:

Part A) when men watch WLW pornographic content, there's this stigma that men are objectifying women and encroaching on some innocent, pure lesbian sexual relationship with their filthy "male gaze." To clarify, I have nothing against lesbian relationships. I just find it insulting that men are shamed for being aroused by content that is explicitly filmed to invoke sexual feelings. Similarly, there's nothing wrong with women watching and enjoying MLM porn. I really feel like modern radical feminism simply seeks to suppress male sexuality. In a similar vein, Susu_jpg did a video about "safe horny" and how a lot of men have to walk on eggshells when describing things that make them horny. Meanwhile women are allowed and even encouraged to say the most vile and depraved things about people they find hot. Tldr: men's sexuality is portrayed as evil and invasive whilst women's sexuality is portrayed as pure and liberating.

Part B) simultaneously in a MW relationship, when a man's partner cheats on him with another man, he's expected to be furious. But if his partner cheats on him or otherwise shows sexual/emotional infidelity with another woman, he's supposed to be cool with it because it's "hot." Like that one TikTok video where this dude's girlfriend kisses her friend because "haha funny TikTok" and as he stares at the friend with absolute fury, the girls just keep on dancing like nothing happened. In situations like that, some outsiders even suggest that the dude shouldn't feel angry and should instead try to initiate a MWW polyamory. After all, WLW is supposed to be appealing to the "male gaze" and invoke feelings of arousal rather than betrayal, right? Tldr: men are expected to react violently when their partner cheats on them with a man but are expected to be grateful when their partner cheats on them with a woman.

Part C) personally, I would be absolutely furious if my partner cheated on me, regardless of the gender of the other cheater. Furthermore, it's insulting that men are supposed to simply allow their partner to pursue extra sexual relationships through the medium of polyamory. I myself would experiment with polyamory and have nothing against polyamory on its own, but I recognize that a lot of men NEED monogamy, and they shouldn't be expected to compromise on their boundaries for the sake of their partner's "sexual liberation." Pressuring a monogamist man into polyamory is no different than cheating, in my mind. And when he refuses, he's always portrayed in a negative light. Because how dare an evil man restrict his partner's "freedom" or feel jealousy about her infidelity? Tldr: polyamory and monogamy can only be healthy if they're offered as a choice, but modern men don't really have a choice.

Thoughts?